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12-12-2012 at 12:27 PM
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Should we find out the sex??

I am 2 weeks from my ultra sound and could know the sex. I thought for sure I would want to know, I mean why not know, but now that it is getting close and I could really know I am actually not sure if I want to know at all. I thought that surprise would be something to look forward to and be excited for while I was in labor and to have my husband tell me would be a really neat experiance.  But at the same time knowing and being more prepared would also be nice. Anyone else feel this way? Did you find out or not find out?

If I haven't decided by the time my ultrasound comes I was just going to have it on a piece of paper in a sealed envelope in a drawer and if I wanted to know I could later.  My hubby doesn't care either way really, so he isn't a lot of help in the decision.


 
12-12-2012 at 12:31 PM
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I'm Team Green and was the first time around with DS. The first time I was so annoyed with my DH that he didn't want us to find out. It seriously pissed me off when we went to the a/s, but I went along with it. After that, it was really fun to look forward to finding out what it was and still wondering for the 2nd half of the pregnancy and it was the best when they said "IT's a Boy!" and everyone clapped in the delivery room. I've wavered a bit this time around since my DH said we could find out this time, but my a/s is on Monday and I'm determined to hold out until the end again. Whether you find out at your scan or at D-day doesn't matter, it will still be a surprise, but I will tell  you from experience that it is super fun to go into the hospital at the end and know you have the reveal (and the baby!) to look forward to.

GL on your decision! Really you can't go wrong either way. 


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12-12-2012 at 12:34 PM
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It's completely up to you. I decided to find out because I was having trouble feeling like I was bonding to the baby. I was constantly afraid that something was going to happen so the reality of the pregnancy wasn't setting in. Knowing she's a girl and naming her really helped me feel close to her and excited. 

But I know that a lot of people really love the surprise of being team green and I think if I have another baby I might want to try that.

It's really 100% up to you and your hubby and what you feel like you want. It's exciting either way. GL! 


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12-12-2012 at 1:09 PM
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I'm kind of in the same boat as you. I have my 20 week U/S in two weeks as well and my DH and I are having a hard time deciding. I would like to find out, but he really doesn't want to.

Right now, I'm thinking the best compromise (if we haven't decided in time) is also to have the U/S tech write it on a piece of paper so we can decide later. There are a few reasons why I'd really like to find out. First, I don't care for gender neutral clothing/nurseries so I'd like to be able to buy some clothing and the bedding before the baby is born. Second, my DH and I CANNOT agree on a boy name and have put that decision on the back burner. I feel like if we knew it was a boy we would both be more inclined to work at that. Also, if we find out its a girl, I can stop stressing about the name since we already have a girl name picked out.

 
12-12-2012 at 1:11 PM
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We didn't find out the sex with #1 and won't for this one either (though it was a bit harder this time around, since it's our last and it would be nice to get rid of some boy stuff if we don't need it!). Anyway, I loved it. I never had any trouble connecting to the baby, especially since he was kicking up a storm like 24/7. IMO there is nothing to "plan" with the sex. I wasn't going to buy a pink car seat or anything like that, either way, because I wanted gender neutral items for #2 (plus, I'm not into typical "baby" decor, anyway so the nursery was light gray with primary color accents). It was really awesome after DS got here to look at DH and say, "We have a SON!" I'm just one of those who feels there are so few surprise opportunities like that one, that I might as well take it when I can. :)

ETA: Added bonus,  you will likely get more functional stuff and things from your registry at your shower than clothing. :) 


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12-12-2012 at 1:20 PM
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I was Team Green with DS and we are Team Green this time around as well. DH has made the decision for us, and I've just gone a long with him. He's very old-fashioned (there's also more to it but I won't bore you with all the details). I'll admit that when I was pregnant with DS it drove me bonkers not knowing, and then you get all the unsolicited "It's gonna be a ___, because ___". But then after DS was born it's a lot of fun to go back through my pregnancy journal and notes from family with the baby's gender being a secret. The secret of it was irritating and fun at the same time. Plus, I didn't mind buying gender neutral stuff for him before he was born because that means we can use it with this baby too, and I have the rest of DS's life to buy him the boy stuff.

This time around I tried to talk DH into finding out, but it didn't work. In the end I'm glad that we aren't finding out, because I know I would be disappointed that I didn't wait.

It's a very personal decision for you, but I am very glad that we waited to find out in the delivery room with DS and I am once again very glad that we are waiting again.


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12-12-2012 at 2:01 PM
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GL deciding but in my opinion Team Green is amazing.  I felt very prepared for both of my boys but we just had a bunch of neutral stuff for the beginning.  It is great if you will have more children because then you can reuse all the stuff.  Plus, after you have the baby you get tons of gender specific gifts.  The moment in the delivery room is amazing.  I had 2 c-sections and the doctors were all betting on what the gender was!  We are having twins this time and to the schock of everyone around us we are Team Green again.  I can't imagine it any other way.  GL with whatever you decide :)

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12-12-2012 at 2:15 PM
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I always want to know so I can plan. I like to have all the clothes ready, the nursery set up, and everything perfect for when we bring baby home!

 
12-12-2012 at 2:22 PM
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I found out with DD but this time I'm Team Green! And it's so much more exciting this time around!!

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12-12-2012 at 2:22 PM
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LOL  I could not even wait for that 20 week ultrasound for my reveal.  I made them tell me when they called with the results from my CVS.
 
12-12-2012 at 2:27 PM
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It was never a question for me. I wanted to know and found out the sex all three times. Especially with my first, I wanted to do everything I could to feel more prepared.


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12-12-2012 at 3:50 PM
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We found out with DD but this time around my husband didn't want to find out and I was really ok one way or the other.  I thought it would be really hard but it doesn't bother me not knowing.  To me, having the gender in an envelope would be too tempting and I'm not sure I could have it in my house!  My H is trying to think of cute ways to announce we he goes in to the waiting room!  I think he's more excited about it than I am...which I love!

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12-12-2012 at 4:27 PM
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I'm team green for the second time.  I love the surprise and being able to call family and say "he's here!".  I thought it helped a lot during labor to get me through.  DH really wanted to find out this time, but I convinced him not too :)
 
12-12-2012 at 4:31 PM
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MrsWindyCity:

We didn't find out the sex with #1 and won't for this one either (though it was a bit harder this time around, since it's our last and it would be nice to get rid of some boy stuff if we don't need it!). Anyway, I loved it. I never had any trouble connecting to the baby, especially since he was kicking up a storm like 24/7. IMO there is nothing to "plan" with the sex. I wasn't going to buy a pink car seat or anything like that, either way, because I wanted gender neutral items for #2 (plus, I'm not into typical "baby" decor, anyway so the nursery was light gray with primary color accents). It was really awesome after DS got here to look at DH and say, "We have a SON!" I'm just one of those who feels there are so few surprise opportunities like that one, that I might as well take it when I can. :)

ETA: Added bonus,  you will likely get more functional stuff and things from your registry at your shower than clothing. :) 

all of this too

 
12-13-2012 at 3:41 AM
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Don't find out!  It is so much more exciting for EVERYONE when you do not know until the birth.  My Dr said she loves delivering babies when the parents do not know yet - there is extra element of excitement during labor.  

As far as planning goes, you know you are having a baby.  They truly do not need much.  I did find out with #1 only because I just thought that was what everyone did.  I had a change of heart about the whole thing the second time around and we will definitely be waiting again with #3. 


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12-13-2012 at 7:34 AM
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beckyschell:

I am 2 weeks from my ultra sound and could know the sex. I thought for sure I would want to know, I mean why not know, but now that it is getting close and I could really know I am actually not sure if I want to know at all. I thought that surprise would be something to look forward to and be excited for while I was in labor and to have my husband tell me would be a really neat experience.  But at the same time knowing and being more prepared would also be nice. Anyone else feel this way? Did you find out or not find out?

If I haven't decided by the time my ultrasound comes I was just going to have it on a piece of paper in a sealed envelope in a drawer and if I wanted to know I could later.  My hubby doesn't care either way really, so he isn't a lot of help in the decision.

This is a great idea! That way you can take your time and have no regrets. If you decide you don't want to know, then you can just keep the envelope sealed then add the picture to the baby book later.


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12-13-2012 at 9:25 PM
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Raeily:

It's completely up to you. I decided to find out because I was having trouble feeling like I was bonding to the baby. I was constantly afraid that something was going to happen so the reality of the pregnancy wasn't setting in. Knowing she's a girl and naming her really helped me feel close to her and excited. 

This. I have had women tell me that finding out the sex of the baby was a momentous occasion in their pregnancy. I could not have cared less about finding out, so we decided to go ahead and do it. And the last 24 hours have seriously changed my life. On my way back to work "I Can Lift You Up" by Capital Cities came on the radio and I started bawling, thinking "Oh my god, I'm pregnant, and I'm having a baby girl."



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12-18-2012 at 11:59 AM
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I definitely don't think there is a right or wrong answer to this! When I was pregnant with my daughter we both HAD to know. There wasn't even a discussion about it. We felt like we needed to know in order to plan for her. This time around we have both done a 180 and neither of us want to find out. I have to say the "bonding" thing hasn't been true in my personal situations. I had a really hard time bonding with my daughter before she was born because I was a first time mom and felt like there was an alien in my belly that would never come out. This time the baby kicks a lot more (and did sooner) and I know that it's going to come out a baby. The love I have for my daughter has made bonding with this baby a lot easier, not knowing the gender. I'm going to attempt another natural birth so I think that not knowing will really help with giving me the extra motivation I need at the end as well. I think the hardest part is getting past the AS and then after that it just feels like you've made your decision and will find out at the birth. Good luck with whatever you decide, no wrong answer! 

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