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12-12-2012 at 1:52 PM
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not sure what to do. Not shower related

Ok so I am asking you guys because you will be honest and seem to be pretty good with etiquette.

My friend from college sent me a Christmas gift basket.  We were very close in college and each others wedding parties.  We have grown apart because of distance and life.  I live in NYC and she lives in CT.  We have not exchanged gifts since we were in college which was 5 years ago. I had no idea that this was coming.  We had tried to make plans to get together a few weeks ago but it didn't work out.  

My question is do I send her a gift or a thank you/Christmas card? I feel bad not sending anything but I feel like it is weird to send something just because she sent me something.  Any thoughts would be appreciated.  Thank you
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12-12-2012 at 2:01 PM
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If you have no desire to exchange gifts with her, send a nice thank you note.  Which is what I would do.

Getting a gift does NOT require you to reciprocate. 
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12-12-2012 at 2:12 PM
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EastCoastBride:

If you have no desire to exchange gifts with her, send a nice thank you note.  Which is what I would do.

Getting a gift does NOT require you to reciprocate. 

This. If you still feel guilty/in debt next time you hang out then pick up the tab or buy her a drink.  
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12-12-2012 at 2:19 PM
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dreadiemama:
EastCoastBride:

If you have no desire to exchange gifts with her, send a nice thank you note.  Which is what I would do.

Getting a gift does NOT require you to reciprocate. 

This. If you still feel guilty/in debt next time you hang out then pick up the tab or buy her a drink.  

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12-12-2012 at 9:07 PM
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EastCoastBride:

If you have no desire to exchange gifts with her, send a nice thank you note.  Which is what I would do.

Getting a gift does NOT require you to reciprocate. 

I agree.  You definitely have to send her a thank you card.  Maybe mention that when you finally get together you will pick up the lunch tab.
 
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12-14-2012 at 2:24 PM
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If this happened to me, I would send her something but I don't think you *have* to.
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12-14-2012 at 3:41 PM
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i hate when i reach out to people; whether its a gift, card, letter, and they don't respond back. it's very tacky and unclassy to not send back a thank you card. send her a card, and just say thank you, and next time you meet up you'll treat her to lunch. IMO, I would send a christmas card back and probably a small gift card to a spa or restaurant. 
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