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12-13-2012 at 11:36 AM
Max'smom
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Nature vs Nurture ? - Glass half empty/full personalities

I am very much a glass half full type of person. DS1 is increasingly becoming more of a glass half empty type and I am looking for thoughts on how to possibly help him.

My FIL is very much a glass half empty type and DH can be this way. My FIL is ALWAYS like this and I thought that he was just a grumpy old man but now that I am seeing these traits in DS1 I am starting to feel that some people are maybe just born that way.

In your opinion do you think that this type of outlook is Nature or Nuture? What suggestions do you have to encourage DS1 to look at on sunny side of life. :)

 


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12-13-2012 at 12:29 PM
hocus
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I'm a glad half empty type person and my sister is the opposite. While it worried my mom she actually found that I was easier in some ways. I was rarely disappointed because I always had low expectations anyway.

I don't think you *need* to look on the sunny side of life to be honest. I'm still a very happy person.


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12-13-2012 at 12:42 PM
KathrynMD
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I think its kinda weird to already be concerned about your kids outlook on life. He's 5 - they are all moody about dumb stuff.

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12-13-2012 at 3:51 PM
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I think a majority of it is nature while I think the rest can be nurtured.  You can keep pointing out the good side of a challenging situation.

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12-14-2012 at 5:00 AM
-auntie-
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Why do you feel the need to change who he is? Is it impacting his ability to function at home or with peers? Or does his outlook make you feel you're a failure as a parent?

His happiness isn't really your responsibility. So long as this isn't mental illness like depression, restrict your pop psychology to teaching gratitude.

 
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