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12-13-2012 at 2:05 PM
Jmcmahon21
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Those who struggled with separation anxiety-

 I have been taking DS to the gym's daycare for a couple months now and just this week he totally freaks out crying as soon as I hand him over to one of the women there. She said he played for a little bit but I ended up having to pick him up 20 minutes later because he was crying again. Any tips with this? I've left him with my sisters to babysit him before and they don't live close by so he doesn't see them that much either. Just wondering what I should do? I hate leaving him when he's crying but I know that he needs to be able to be away from me at some point too. Thanks! 

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12-13-2012 at 2:09 PM
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I haven't left A. We will stay with her until she is big enough to enjoy playing with others and understands the passage of time. I suspect she won't be "babysat" until she is 2 or so.

My point is, that "at some point" can be in the future.

12 month is tough for separation anxiety. If you want to leave him as a toddler I suggest waiting until 14 or 15 months.18 months gets tricky again.

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12-13-2012 at 2:29 PM
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We leave DS at DC every day and some days/weeks are harder than others.  Generally, we try to make goodbyes, quick and loving and then we don't look back.  We say, bye, love ya, have a good day, give him a hug, and leave.  He warms up and gets entertained with other things soon enough.  Also, with DS, often milk or a small snack will distract him.  IMO, leaving LOs is a part of life and is just something you and they have to get used to. 

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12-13-2012 at 2:37 PM
Jmcmahon21
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SandAndsSea:
We leave DS at DC every day and some days/weeks are harder than others.  Generally, we try to make goodbyes, quick and loving and then we don't look back.  We say, bye, love ya, have a good day, give him a hug, and leave.  He warms up and gets entertained with other things soon enough.  Also, with DS, often milk or a small snack will distract him.  IMO, leaving LOs is a part of life and is just something you and they have to get used to. 

I agree with you, and I personally think that mom and dad need time together too. We're doing date nights once a month and it's nice to get away and spend time with each other and he does fine with my sister which is great. The day care people said to just keep taking him and he'll get used to it eventually. Thanks for the advice! 


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12-13-2012 at 5:52 PM
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Have you tried playing with him at the daycare for 10 min or so before you leave? I left C with our neighbors awhile ago and he cried his eyes out until DH went to pick him up. But we tried again later, stayed and visited for awhile and then he did great. Might be something to consider... otherwise I know it's hard but he will get over it eventually.
ETA: I used to be able to drop off C anywhere and leave without a problem, it only started a month or so ago that he freaks out. But he did good at daycare today so I'm thinking he just needs to be more familiar with the environment.

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12-13-2012 at 10:53 PM
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Puffs?! I know it's silly (or maybe not right) but I leave a bag of puffs at my club's child care and if my LO fusses too much they give him some and he's just fine! I guess that's not the best way to go about things but it has worked for us Wink

 
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