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12-17-2012 at 6:59 AM
mama&baby
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I am Adam Lanza's Mother is BS!

So I only started a new post on this because I thought it might not get seen in the other post, and I would hate for someone to get as caught up in it as I did after reading about what this woman is really like. If you read the rest of her blog, other than this one post, she makes sarcastic comments about wishing she could tie up her child/beat him with no repercussion. She barely references him being mentally unstable until this blog (which, to be fair, is a fact she could want to keep private).

Anyways..here is a link that points out many inconsistancies in her blog... making it seem as though she is truly just trying to capitalize off of this tragedy. What a sick woman

http://sarahkendzior.com/2012/12/16/want-the-truth-behind-i-am-adam-lanzas-mother-read-her-blog/


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12-17-2012 at 7:02 AM
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Then again...after reading this article and looking at her blog... it just seems like one big sarcasm fail that may be taken too seriously in light of such a tragedy. Either way, I don't really doubt that she IS definitely trying to capitalize off of the shooting.

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12-17-2012 at 7:23 AM
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Holy overreaction, Batman.

Her blog comments about her children don't seem out of the ordinary to me. She seems clearly, overly sarcastic when referencing "throttling" her children. She makes light of a bitter divorce? So what? Perhaps humor is how she deals with it. And you're right that she may have wanted to keep the details of her son's illness private. He can still have a mental illness even if he has normal teenage tendencies and interests.

Also, the tone of the blog is clearly one of sarcasm and humor. I can see why she would choose not to include the very serious nature of her son's illness. It would change the tone of her work. Plus, she's a writer. Blogs aren't diaries; they're published online for other people to read. Bloggers choose what kind of personality they're going to have, what topics they're going to writer about, etc. And not all of that is going to be true. It's kind of like an ongoing first-person narrative, hence an unreliable narrator.

I'm not sure if she's trying to make a name for herself following this tragedy, but to accuse her of that simply based off of a sarcastic blog, which may or may not accurately reflect her real life, seems naive and reactionary.


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12-17-2012 at 7:29 AM
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The link doesn't work for me but I am confused. Wasn't his mother killed as well?

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12-17-2012 at 7:30 AM
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Estwd2:

Holy overreaction, Batman.

Her blog comments about her children don't seem out of the ordinary to me. She seems clearly, overly sarcastic when referencing "throttling" her children. She makes light of a bitter divorce? So what? Perhaps humor is how she deals with it. And you're right that she may have wanted to keep the details of her son's illness private. He can still have a mental illness even if he has normal teenage tendencies and interests.

Also, the tone of the blog is clearly one of sarcasm and humor. I can see why she would choose not to include the very serious nature of her son's illness. It would change the tone of her work. Plus, she's a writer. Blogs aren't diaries; they're published online for other people to read. Bloggers choose what kind of personality they're going to have, what topics they're going to writer about, etc. And not all of that is going to be true. It's kind of like an ongoing first-person narrative, hence an unreliable narrator.

I'm not sure if she's trying to make a name for herself following this tragedy, but to accuse her of that simply based off of a sarcastic blog, which may or may not accurately reflect her real life, seems naive and reactionary.

This. I posted the link and instead of DDing after doing more research I wrote my second comment. I think some of her comments were a bit crude and some of her sarcasm was ill placed at times...... I don't think she is as bad as the article says she is though. I do still think its possible, and no I don't know for sure, that she is trying to overindulge her story to make a name for herself. Either way, it's worked.


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12-17-2012 at 7:33 AM
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purple4u:
The link doesn't work for me but I am confused. Wasn't his mother killed as well?

Yes she was killed before she shooting. The article we're talking about was written by a woman who may/may not have a child with mental illness. She is saying that since Adam Lanza and her child both were mentally ill and dealing with some similar issues, she called herself "Adam Lanza's mother" (not literally, of course, but saying it with a sense of unity within the mentally ill community).

Kudos to you if you get what I am saying. I'm tired.


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12-17-2012 at 7:34 AM
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She is going to be on the Today show this morning. That should be interesting.

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12-17-2012 at 7:40 AM
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gracefulruby33:
She is going to be on the Today show this morning. That should be interesting.

Wow. Seriously? Yeah for someone who never really mentioned any sort of mental illness in her blog til this post.... that's kinda shocking. And yup, now I do feel like she's milking it. They should be speaking with someone more directly involved in this whole mess.


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12-17-2012 at 8:36 AM
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Milking or no, this is absolutely the kind of person we need to see on the news.  We need to help the people that love their children but are afraid for what they may be capable of.  She may or may not be exaggerating her issues.  Who cares?  She's bringing publicity to an issues that desperately needs it.



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12-17-2012 at 9:02 AM
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smilelari:
Milking or no, this is absolutely the kind of person we need to see on the news.  We need to help the people that love their children but are afraid for what they may be capable of.  She may or may not be exaggerating her issues.  Who cares?  She's bringing publicity to an issues that desperately needs it.

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12-17-2012 at 10:13 AM
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mama&baby:

purple4u:
The link doesn't work for me but I am confused. Wasn't his mother killed as well?

Yes she was killed before she shooting. The article we're talking about was written by a woman who may/may not have a child with mental illness. She is saying that since Adam Lanza and her child both were mentally ill and dealing with some similar issues, she called herself "Adam Lanza's mother" (not literally, of course, but saying it with a sense of unity within the mentally ill community).

Kudos to you if you get what I am saying. I'm tired.



Haha I feel you...I finally saw the blog, hmm I cannot decide how I feel. One part says attention seeking trying to capitalize on someone else's tragedy the other just says help me.

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12-17-2012 at 10:32 AM
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I am so with Smilelari on this.

Milking it or not.  Attention seeker or not.  This situation is exactly what we need to be learning more about.

Mother's are only human.  Our children are only human.  Love can be as unconditional as ever but that doesn't heal what our children may be dealing with inside that could eventually boil over and affect more than just themselves.  Idk what the solution would be, but yes, more help needs to be available for parents who can clearly see something is wrong but the help needs to be provided prior to something actually occuring. 

What I am very saddened about regarding the whole 'mental illness thing' is that I hate for any negativity to be reflected upon the autistic community.  I don't care if this blogger just released the fact that her kid has some type of mental illness, we need to figure out how to better help those with and without a diagnosed form of mental illness, with or without an actual mental handicap.  Again, still don't know what help is needed.  More accessible/affordable counseling?  I have no clue. 

I hate this.  This is terrible.  But the world is what it is and we have to learn to deal with it in the best way possible and learning from mother's who might be dealing with children more extreme than normal may help future parents/children get more help to stop more of these things from happening.

I am not sure if I even made any sense with what I have typed.  This tragedy has me so effed up in the head.  I feel horrible for everyone and it's bringing out some of the worst in people right now - feeling a loss of faith in their god, humanity, whatever.  This juuuuust sucks.


 
12-17-2012 at 11:24 AM
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smilelari:
Milking or no, this is absolutely the kind of person we need to see on the news.  We need to help the people that love their children but are afraid for what they may be capable of.  She may or may not be exaggerating her issues.  Who cares?  She's bringing publicity to an issues that desperately needs it.

This. There is so much more to all of these school shootings than the fact that the killer had access to guns and therefore decided to shoot up a school. There is definitely more involved, whether it be mental illness or just how desensitized our culture has gotten to violence.



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12-17-2012 at 12:14 PM
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smilelari:
Milking or no, this is absolutely the kind of person we need to see on the news.  We need to help the people that love their children but are afraid for what they may be capable of.  She may or may not be exaggerating her issues.  Who cares?  She's bringing publicity to an issues that desperately needs it.

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12-17-2012 at 4:10 PM
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smilelari:
Milking or no, this is absolutely the kind of person we need to see on the news.  We need to help the people that love their children but are afraid for what they may be capable of.  She may or may not be exaggerating her issues.  Who cares?  She's bringing publicity to an issues that desperately needs it.

This. There is so much more to all of these school shootings than the fact that the killer had access to guns and therefore decided to shoot up a school. There is definitely more involved, whether it be mental illness or just how desensitized our culture has gotten to violence.

This has been my opinion every since it happened. I have really watched myself and what has been playing on the TV, even in the background while DS is playing and not paying attention. I thought we as a family did really well until I really took a good look at even the passive aggressive violence. It goes way beyond just guns and mental health. (Even though both are very important)


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12-17-2012 at 6:06 PM
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Thank you Smilelari. I wholeheartedly agree with this being an aspect of these sorts of tragedies that needs to be looked at. I'm going to share a bit of something that I normally keep to myself.

My DSD has reactive attachment disorder. It seems to be horribly unfamiliar to most people, but they all know the results of it. Ted Bundy, Jeffrey Dahmer and Adolph Hitler are a few with RAD. Most people seriously underestimate the illness.  I was attacked by her while pregnant when she was 11 years old. I've been forced to restrain her while she kicks, bites and screams obscenities since she was 7. I understand where the woman writing this is coming from.



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12-17-2012 at 8:02 PM
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Well put Smilelari, as usual!  I see it as a mother asking for help, yet again.  I don't know what the answer is, but it is so sad that a child must offend criminally before there are care plans and assistance for these families.  Most of the mothers, fathers, caretakers know in their hearts the capabilities of their child and seek help, but we are a REactive society and not so much a PROactive society.  

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12-18-2012 at 11:09 AM
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Someone has way too much time on their hands to go through her blog and pull out every example of what they think is "bad parenting". It sounds like she has it hard enough with 4 children, a divorce, insurance issues, etc. At least this lady is writing about something that needs to be talked about. 



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12-19-2012 at 8:13 AM
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sap05e:
Someone has way too much time on their hands to go through her blog and pull out every example of what they think is "bad parenting". It sounds like she has it hard enough with 4 children, a divorce, insurance issues, etc. At least this lady is writing about something that needs to be talked about. 

 

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