There is a DE check in on this board on Tuesdays or Wednesdays. You should join that check in and ask away. There are many ways to do DE: donor pools at RE's offices, donor agencies, frozen egg banks, shared cycles, guarantee programs, dedicated cycles. The costs vary widely with each. Some programs give you a few donor profiles to look at and "accept", others where you look at a database yourself. Some give only baby pictures, others adult pictures too. It really depends on what you "need" and "want".
Thank you! We live in a fairly small city and my clinic is pretty small too - just 3 docs, so I'm guessing they use an agency. But yeah lots of options, I'll definitely read through the check-in, it should help me get a better feel for the whole proces.
I have to say though, this is the first decision I've made in this whole process I actually feel really good about, like it's the right thing for us. I feel so positive about it. I told my husband that and he said if I'm all for it, he is too.
I've been lurking long enough to know you've been through so much, I really hope this next cycle is it for you! *Hugs*