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12-17-2012 at 8:39 AM
npminnich
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Unexpected but happy..need help

We just got married almost 6 months ago and now I'm pregnant. We told our families that we were waiting 5 years to have kids but this was a very unexpected surprise. We've gotten over the shock and are getting excited but we haven't told anyone in our family yet. We're young (24) and fear that our parents will not have the reaction we want them too. We are financially stable and have great jobs and just bought a house so I don't think that it should be a negative experience when we are perfectly capable of being great parents. Any suggestions on how to tell them? 
 
12-17-2012 at 8:44 AM
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If you're all those things, why would your parents be upset? I'd just tell them face-to-face. You can do something cutesy if you want. :)

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12-17-2012 at 8:46 AM
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aessary03:
If you're all those things, why would your parents be upset? I'd just tell them facetoface. You can do something cutesy if you want. :

This! If you're worried their not going to react favorably then I wouldn't put a lot of work into it. Just tell them.


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12-17-2012 at 8:46 AM
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aessary03:
If you're all those things, why would your parents be upset? I'd just tell them facetoface. You can do something cutesy if you want. :

This! If you're worried their not going to react favorably then I wouldn't put a lot of work into it. Just tell them.


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12-17-2012 at 8:50 AM
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I understand where you are coming from! My parents have never been happy about my pregnancies. We have two children. I am pregnant with our third, which was planned. I am afraid to tell them. When my daughter (shes 6) told Mom that she wants a sister. My Mom proceeds to tell her... "You don't want that! You won't get any attention anymore and never get to go to the park anymore!" 

All you can do is be happy! Don't let anyone's negativity spoil the happiness and joy a new baby brings! Be sure to let them see that you are both excited. Hopefully they will be too.

Good luck.

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12-17-2012 at 8:51 AM
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Just tell them. You know, "I know we said we were waiting to have kids, but the universe has other plans. We're pregnant." Your family planning is your decision and that's it. They can get on board and slap on a smile or biitch. If they want to biitch that is their problem. You aren't required to listen to it if they start yelling at you or something. 

However, since it sounds like you've got your act together I have no idea why your parents wouldn't be happy. Tell them and figure it out from there.  


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12-17-2012 at 9:03 AM
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Honestly, they will get over it. Babies are happy things! I got pregnant with my son when I was in college. It took my parents weeks (possibly months) to come to terms with it. They are absolutely in love with my son now and are over the moon excited that I'm pregnant again. They really shouldn't be upset that your pregnant though, it sounds like you have your acts together!

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12-17-2012 at 9:13 AM
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I'm in a very similar situation. I'm 26, married 5 months, good jobs... surprise pregnancy. 

I live in a different country from my parents and I won't see them until February or March. I'm going to email them with a picture from the NT scan on Weds and tell them the "happy news". We'll call the next day after they've had time to digest the news and because there's a time difference. I would be really upset if we said "I'm pregnant!" and they had a negative reaction. 

Good luck!  


 
12-17-2012 at 9:41 AM
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You two are adults. Married or not, it's your life and you shouldn't be afraid of what your parents think. From the sound of things you are well prepared and in a good position to start a family so I really wouldn't worry.

 
12-17-2012 at 9:46 AM
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I can truly understand your fears about what your parents might think.  My MIL was not happy when we told her about our second pregnancy.  I don't know what she thought about our first but given her reaction to the second-- I'm sure she wasn't happy with the first either.  My MIL actually asked if our second was planned.  I was not pleased since she asked right in front of our then 7 yr old.

We have told her that we are trying for a third but we haven't told her the good news yet.  We are going to do something cute.  I'm going to wrap little gifts with a card and candy inside saying we are expecting.  If she becomes upset, then she does.  I can't control her emotions, nor can I control how self-centered she has become in past recent years.

I can understand that she wants to make sure we can financially handle children and she's scared that we may be a job loss away from not being able to do that.  But I don't want to live in fear.  I can't let the "maybes" or "what ifs" run my life and neither should you.

If you feel they will react badly, then I suggest telling as many positive people you know first before you tell them.  It might make it a little easier.  We did that with our second and we are doing that with our third and it's helping.

12-17-2012 at 11:24 AM
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Here is how I Imagine your conversation could go. 

"We're pregnant!"

"wow!  I though you guys were going to wait 5 years?"

"that was the original plan but this baby had other plans!  We're going to have a baby (in August)!  Eek!"

"congratulations!" 

You guys are married, own a house, have decent paying jobs, in love, and having a baby.  I dont think they will be disappointed.  Unless - they showed disappointment when you guys told them you were getting married.  If they were happy about you getting married, they will be happy with you starting a family. 


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12-17-2012 at 1:25 PM
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I doubt they would be angry that you got pregnant after being married for 6 months. I got married last year when i was 21, and i'm 22 now pregnant. DH is 10 years older than me; but we own our house and are financially stable. No one side-eyed us for getting pregnant... everyone is thrilled. 

just tell them! 


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12-17-2012 at 7:38 PM
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aessary03:
If you're all those things, why would your parents be upset? I'd just tell them face-to-face. You can do something cutesy if you want. :)

This! 


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12-19-2012 at 6:50 PM
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Congratulations!!  It sounds like you have a lot going for you and will be wonderful parents!  I don't really have any advice for how to tell them, but hope and pray they will be excited for you, too.   Happy for you both Smile
 
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