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12-17-2012 at 9:26 AM
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Girl with a boys name....

I have a fourth grade student who just started with me.  The name, Ryan.  I assumed it was a boy.  Now mind you this is a whole class of new kids for me, so no way to tell which child it was.  As I'm going down my list I call out Ryan.  She raises her hand, bright red in the face and says "I go by my middle name, Aubrey".  She tells me afterwards to please not call her Ryan again because it is embarrassing to have a boys name.  This is not to say that it's bad for all, just that some kids will not grow up to have the confidence to support an opposite gender name.

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12-17-2012 at 9:28 AM
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I appreciate this post.  It's definitely something parents should consider, among other things, when naming children.  My DH is adamant we not forget to check what potential initials might be as he had to endure having FAG as his.


 
12-17-2012 at 9:37 AM
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I kinda have to laugh - Aubrey is a male name, too.

But, I do feel badly for that little girl!  There's no way to know that your kid will like their name no matter what, but it's a shame when they end up really embarrassed.


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12-17-2012 at 10:24 AM
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I know a woman whose first name is John, named after her father. She goes by her middle name too. I didn't know her as a child, so I don't know if she was teased or not.

I do think that it is important for parents to think about the potential for teasing behind a name.
12-17-2012 at 10:39 AM
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Aww. That poor little girl. I hate when people do this. *cough* (Jessica Simpson) 

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Joy2611:
I kinda have to laugh Aubrey is a male name, too.what,


This was the first thought I had also. But I know lots of people who use their middle names because they like it better. Never had anyone laugh during roll call when the teacher read their official name.

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12-17-2012 at 10:46 AM
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Joy2611:

I kinda have to laugh - Aubrey is a male name, too.

But, I do feel badly for that little girl!  There's no way to know that your kid will like their name no matter what, but it's a shame when they end up really embarrassed.

Yeah, I thought about that too but didn't want to mention it to her! 


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12-17-2012 at 10:52 AM
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Mrs Castillo:
Aww. That poor little girl. I hate when people do this. *cough* (Jessica Simpson) 

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Mrs Castillo:
Aww. That poor little girl. I hate when people do this. *cough* (Jessica Simpson) 

I really hate when people do this also and the poor little girl's first and middle name are boy names. 


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12-17-2012 at 10:55 AM
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Aw! Poor girl. :( 

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I went to high school with a girl named Ryan... except she spelled it Rianne.  I also know a girl named Michael.  Always throws me for a loop.  

I don't mind if parents really want to use a male name but I think they should use it as a middle name like my cousin who is a girl...her middle name is Daniel because her dad really wanted a son and to name him after his brother.
 
12-17-2012 at 11:18 AM
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rider5344:
I have a fourth grade student who just started with me.  The name, Ryan.  I assumed it was a boy.  Now mind you this is a whole class of new kids for me, so no way to tell which child it was.  As I'm going down my list I call out Ryan.  She raises her hand, bright red in the face and says "I go by my middle name, Aubrey".  She tells me afterwards to please not call her Ryan again because it is embarrassing to have a boys name.  This is not to say that it's bad for all, just that some kids will not grow up to have the confidence to support an opposite gender name.

I know a female Tyler and a female Jeffri, and they both own it. But I think if I'd had a boy's name, I wouldn't have had the confidence for it. It just depends on the kid, I think.

 
12-17-2012 at 11:19 AM
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rider5344:
I have a fourth grade student who just started with me.  The name, Ryan.  I assumed it was a boy.  Now mind you this is a whole class of new kids for me, so no way to tell which child it was.  As I'm going down my list I call out Ryan.  She raises her hand, bright red in the face and says "I go by my middle name, Aubrey".  She tells me afterwards to please not call her Ryan again because it is embarrassing to have a boys name.  This is not to say that it's bad for all, just that some kids will not grow up to have the confidence to support an opposite gender name.

My dad's name is Aubrey. It is becoming more of a girl name though. Poor girl.

 
12-17-2012 at 11:30 AM
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Poor thing. At least Aubrey is more widely used as a girl name now, I guess...

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12-17-2012 at 11:41 AM
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I went to school with a girl named Ryan. It's definitely not a name I would use for a girl, but I never thought it was weird when I was in elementary school.

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12-17-2012 at 12:15 PM
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Except Aubrey is also a boy name so she has two boy names. :(

If you must, at least pair it with something feminine so on paper it doesn't look 100% boy.


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12-17-2012 at 12:26 PM
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That's really sad that she feels that way.  I think Ryan passes for unisex a lot more.  It's my sister's middle name so maybe I'm biased.  She doesn't like it a lot but I don't think she's ever been embarrassed by it.  I know a Ryann and her parents say it like Ryan, but she insists on it being said like Ry-Ann and now capitalizes the A.  I'm not sure if she legally changed it or anything, but that's how it is on Facebook and it's how everyone else says it. She definitely wants it to be more feminine.

I think it really depends on the kid.  Granted, a kid might never like their name but I try to stay clear of more obvious reasons given my own experience.  

I think it's odd that she thinks Ryan is too boy when to me it's been used by girls for decades and thinks that Aubrey is quite girly when I believe (too lazy to double check) it's a lot newer to the girl side, though I know it's more popular than Ryan.  


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12-17-2012 at 12:49 PM
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Boy names on girls isn't my thing either, but it definitely depends on the child. My name is Constance, I grew up absolutely hating it and never wanted anyone to call me Constance (or Connie), I would much rather have used my middle name also. I did the same thing at the start of every school year when my teacher called out for "Constance".

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My niece is named Riane (Ryan) and is 14 years old. She has never had any problems from any kids or adults regarding her name. Infact, most people remark on how unique the spelling is and they like that it's different. She owns her name. I think its all how you approach it and make the child feel comfortable.
 
12-17-2012 at 2:18 PM
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shellylovelee:
I appreciate this post.  It's definitely something parents should consider, among other things, when naming children.  My DH is adamant we not forget to check what potential initials might be as he had to endure having FAG as his.

That would be some tough initials to grow up with as a boy in this day and age!

But to comment on the post it self...I think it is kinda the parents fault she feels this way b/c I think as a parent you set the tone for your child. My dd1 is named Tommi. I did alot of talking to other women and girls who have "male" names including talking to 2 girls actually named Tommi. I did not get anything negative from any of them. They all love their names and said their parents never made it into anything so they never thought anything of it. All of them said they have had 1 or 2 times of kids saying something about it and then nothing.

On paper there is no doubt my daughter is female considering her middle name is Jolene. It is a subject that needs ALOT of thought!

It is funny to think about b/c I HATE many many boys names on girls and I hate that is has become a trend....the whole trend of Grayson, Emerson, Addison, etc drives me bananas.  

I hope both my daughter carry their names with confidence b/c I most definitely will encourage them to do so and to own it!  I also will encourage them to not ever joke or question another childs name no matter how silly or different it is. It is someones name and more parents need to teach their kids to respect others.


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I hate that the little girl is embarrased by her name which is a variant spelling of a legit feminine name Rhian pronounced the same. Maybe she would be pleased to know that info. Aubrey on the other hand while I find has crossed over into the unisex category is a male name with no feminine variant!

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12-17-2012 at 6:40 PM
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I don't think the name itself is terrible for a girl (it actually sounds pretty to me). But it's such a widely used boy name that the parents should have just stayed away from it. If they really wanted to use the name they could've at least varied up the spelling. Rian seems like it's little more feminine. But I think once she gets a little older she'll come into it.

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12-17-2012 at 7:17 PM
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It is all about perspective I think because I grew up with a female Ryan in my class (I am 35 now) and I know a woman who is 25 years older than me that is also named Ryan.  To me this name passes more as unisex than some of the others posted on here, but it is only because I have known some female ryan's most of my life. 

My nephew is named Ryan and of course I think it suits him well too.

Makes me think that some of the names where I am like WTF that's a boy's name may not be in other parts of the country.

 
12-18-2012 at 12:37 AM
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I know a girl name Michael, she goes by her middle name as well.

I have a gender neutral name, Skylar. I hated growing up when people would tell me my name was a boys name.


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I went to school with a female Kyle!

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Poor little girl!  I really hate this trend and hope it ends soon!

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