As I said before, I hadn't planned in getting pregnant. But I've done everything I can to make this situation work. I am balancing culinary school and work on top of being pregnant, and I am only twenty so, ya I know I have growing up to do. What I don't understand is how people can turn a request for advice into an opportunity to be completely blatant and rude. It's jut unnecessary. Sorry I'm not "settled" and legally "married" and no she's not technically my "MIL", but I don't believe in that kind of crap anyways.
The situation is what it is and I have no where else to go. I was simply asking what I can say to him or her or both to or what you would say to get them to understand where I'm coming from. I understand that he needs a job, and I understand its her house, and explaining the situation is not bitching. It's explaining the situation. Its not great, but it's been livable, and I'm obviously trying to do something about it if I'm here asking for advice. Ever consider the possibility that I just don't have anyone else to talk to about it?
I get that your all hormonal, but please try to tone it down or don't bother to write back.
I'm going to try and give you the best advice I can. I'm also not going to be rude or mean, b/c its just that, rude adn mean. You are young, you are putting yoursef through school, you are taking care of your situation the best you can, you're BF seems to have a good excuse to not be working. I think some of the woman who commented need to get off their high horse and realize everyone hits a rough patch. now and then. To be honest, I'm a little takn back at how mean people really are, its completely unbecoming, especially for adults. I commend you for not getting an abortion and taking responisbility for your actions.
Let's start with your boyfriend's mother, I completely understand your frustrations, my MIL is a slob, and while I dont have to live with her, I still don't want my LO to go over there. So, my advice is to just clean everything up yourself, play it off as working off your room and board there. I clean MIL sh*t all the time, cause it's gross and to be honest she doesn't even acknowledge or notice it really b/c, I assume she thinks there is acleaning fairy. If you want smething done, you need to do it yourself, that's what I say. I unerstand that it is her house, but no one should be okay living amongst fleas, I see you cleaning as a public service to the safety of everyone in the house, not just you and the baby.
My next advice for you is since your BF has a legitimate reason for not working, try to get him in the doctor's offiice and get it in writing. Then he may be eligable for some sort of unemployment compensation. Or you can look into finding places that have programs for helping people with disorders like your BF's find jobs. Idk wher you live, but if you live in a city there are a lot of programs like this. My cousin has epilepsy (sp?) and found a job through a program like that in Chicago.
Lastly the dogs, they are annoying, they will bark, they will piss, can't really change that unless you hire Ceasar Milan haha! So you're probably gonna have to just deal there.
Maybe when LO comes you can set up a day or two a week where you go to your parents, or other family member's houses just during the day or maybe a sleep over, just to get a little break from the craziness!
Good luck sweetie! If you need someone to talk to, you can PM me! God bless.