If it's your day to pick the child up, you should be picking the child up. A party doesn't change that it is the fathers turn to parent. Either bring the child to the party or get a babysitter. Or realize that maybe you have to miss the party. You don't change the schedule last minute.
I sort of agree with this. Even if we are not spending the night with SD I would still pick her up as scheduled and find my own babysitter. OR make arrangements with BM before hand. I don't know the whole back story here, so maybe I'm missing a piece of information that's vital to this situation.
If it were me, I would appreciate the open communication and asking if I would keep SD longer than the regular schedule due to BM going to a party.
The piece of imformation that is vital to THIS story is that this is how BM speaks to me 24/7. Last Saturday was her Christmas party and this is how she handled it except she only gave me 24 hours notice. I replied with 'OK no prob' despite the fact that I had things to do. She also sent a message with SS that he was not to come home early on Sunday.
This is simply a taste of her own medicine.
She also TOLD me at the door last Sunday that she has a wedding on New Years eve so SS will be with us. It is her year. I am fine with that also BUT again it would be nice to be asked if I have plans.
Also if DH and I have plans SS stays with her and if she has plans SS stays with us. We live close enough to have that arrangement so that is not the issue, that is the standard.
I could have text and asked her nicely IF she could keep him (as I always do) BUT I am sick of asking and being told. It has created a boss / employee relationship between us where she always has the say and I always do what I am told.
Thus this is kinda just standing up for myself.