Ugh, that sounds HORRIBLE!  I feel for you... Had my m/c in October and have had two cousins since have their babies, and they are flaunting their newborn pics all over Facebook.  Torture! 

FX you'll have your own bump to flaunt soon!

I am really sorry that you're going through this. 

And, I just read your blog and got a little teary. I don't know exactly what you went through - but kind of. It's nice to read and see that someone had similar emotions as I did going through that.

Keep your head up, things will get better! 

I am so sorry, Femme. I wish you weren't going through this. I think I would want to throat punch her, but all you can do is dream. Keep your chin up.

SarahDavis83:

Ugh, that sounds HORRIBLE!  I feel for you... Had my m/c in October and have had two cousins since have their babies, and they are flaunting their newborn pics all over Facebook.  Torture! 

FX you'll have your own bump to flaunt soon!

I've never had to suffer the loss of a m/c. But this statement seems a little passive aggressive to me. They just had babies...they get to be happy and show off those babies. Grow up.

OP, I'm so sorry! Is it possible to avoid this other girl at work? I hope it gets better for you soon! ~Huggiz~ 

Adam&Eve2:

SarahDavis83:

Ugh, that sounds HORRIBLE!  I feel for you... Had my m/c in October and have had two cousins since have their babies, and they are flaunting their newborn pics all over Facebook.  Torture! 

FX you'll have your own bump to flaunt soon!

I've never had to suffer the loss of a m/c. But this statement seems a little passive aggressive to me. They just had babies...they get to be happy and show off those babies. Grow up.

OP, I'm so sorry! Is it possible to avoid this other girl at work? I hope it gets better for you soon! ~Huggiz~ 

And that is a little insensitive. If you haven't gone through it, you don't get to judge. 

ETA: I agree with cruel that blocking people is the best route and the easiest way to deal if NB pics are upsetting

OP, I'm very sorry. Hugs, I hope you feel better soon.

And Sarah? You can block people on FB from showing up on your feed if you want. I don't think it's fair to expect people to censor their own FB to accomodate anyone other than themselves. It is FB afterall, either keep them as a friend and filter what you see or delete them.

SarahDavis83:

Ugh, that sounds HORRIBLE!  I feel for you... Had my m/c in October and have had two cousins since have their babies, and they are flaunting their newborn pics all over Facebook.  Torture! 

FX you'll have your own bump to flaunt soon!

Miscarriages are hard and everyone deals with them differently, but it is unfair to say your cousins are " flaunting" their pictures of their babies. It is THEIR FB page and they have a right to post pictures of their children. I post pictures of my children and I am definitely not trying to flaunt it. They are a huge part of my life and I am not going to keep pictures of them off of it because someone might not like seeing them. If it is torture for you then hide them from your newsfeed. I am sure when your time comes (hopefully soon) you will be posting pictures as well.

madasm0530:

Adam&Eve2:

SarahDavis83:

Ugh, that sounds HORRIBLE!  I feel for you... Had my m/c in October and have had two cousins since have their babies, and they are flaunting their newborn pics all over Facebook.  Torture! 

FX you'll have your own bump to flaunt soon!

I've never had to suffer the loss of a m/c. But this statement seems a little passive aggressive to me. They just had babies...they get to be happy and show off those babies. Grow up.

OP, I'm so sorry! Is it possible to avoid this other girl at work? I hope it gets better for you soon! ~Huggiz~ 

And that is a little insensitive. If you haven't gone through it, you don't get to judge. 

ETA: I agree with cruel that blocking people is the best route and the easiest way to deal if NB pics are upsetting

*eye roll* 

Adam&Eve2:

SarahDavis83:

Ugh, that sounds HORRIBLE!  I feel for you... Had my m/c in October and have had two cousins since have their babies, and they are flaunting their newborn pics all over Facebook.  Torture! 

FX you'll have your own bump to flaunt soon!

I've never had to suffer the loss of a m/c. But this statement seems a little passive aggressive to me. They just had babies...they get to be happy and show off those babies. Grow up.

OP, I'm so sorry! Is it possible to avoid this other girl at work? I hope it gets better for you soon! ~Huggiz~ 

Sorry if it came off passive aggressive.  The problem with the internet is you have to assume how I would sound if I were saying that out loud.  It was not meant to be a negative comment... Trust me, I'm swooning and commenting on every pic they post.  But deep down it hurts to see it, I'm not going to lie.

SarahDavis83:

Adam&Eve2:

SarahDavis83:

Ugh, that sounds HORRIBLE!  I feel for you... Had my m/c in October and have had two cousins since have their babies, and they are flaunting their newborn pics all over Facebook.  Torture! 

FX you'll have your own bump to flaunt soon!

I've never had to suffer the loss of a m/c. But this statement seems a little passive aggressive to me. They just had babies...they get to be happy and show off those babies. Grow up.

OP, I'm so sorry! Is it possible to avoid this other girl at work? I hope it gets better for you soon! ~Huggiz~ 

Sorry if it came off passive aggressive.  The problem with the internet is you have to assume how I would sound if I were saying that out loud.  It was not meant to be a negative comment... Trust me, I'm swooning and commenting on every pic they post.  But deep down it hurts to see it, I'm not going to lie.

It sounds like your situation and the OPs are different, though. Your cousins aren't doing it to be mean, and you are genuinely happy for them. It sounds like the OP's co-worker might be acting like this on purpose.

SarahDavis83:

Adam&Eve2:

SarahDavis83:

Ugh, that sounds HORRIBLE!  I feel for you... Had my m/c in October and have had two cousins since have their babies, and they are flaunting their newborn pics all over Facebook.  Torture! 

FX you'll have your own bump to flaunt soon!

I've never had to suffer the loss of a m/c. But this statement seems a little passive aggressive to me. They just had babies...they get to be happy and show off those babies. Grow up.

OP, I'm so sorry! Is it possible to avoid this other girl at work? I hope it gets better for you soon! ~Huggiz~ 

Sorry if it came off passive aggressive.  The problem with the internet is you have to assume how I would sound if I were saying that out loud.  It was not meant to be a negative comment... Trust me, I'm swooning and commenting on every pic they post.  But deep down it hurts to see it, I'm not going to lie.

I can understand that. But if it really hurts that much then filter the pics. You dont have to comment on all of them and have them as a constant reminder if you are not ready for that.  

Wow, ya'll are reading way too much into what I said.  Maybe flaunting was the wrong word.  I have no problem with them posting them, I would too.  But to someone who has just suffered a loss, sometimes it hurts to see, that's all.  I want to see their babies, and they have every right to show them off.

In response to the whole, "If you haven't gone through it, you don't get to judge" part, I've said it before but I'm always amazed when people assume the know another person's story.

Not everyone puts their history in their Bump sig.

krptcmschfmkr128:

SarahDavis83:

Adam&Eve2:

SarahDavis83:

Ugh, that sounds HORRIBLE!  I feel for you... Had my m/c in October and have had two cousins since have their babies, and they are flaunting their newborn pics all over Facebook.  Torture! 

FX you'll have your own bump to flaunt soon!

I've never had to suffer the loss of a m/c. But this statement seems a little passive aggressive to me. They just had babies...they get to be happy and show off those babies. Grow up.

OP, I'm so sorry! Is it possible to avoid this other girl at work? I hope it gets better for you soon! ~Huggiz~ 

Sorry if it came off passive aggressive.  The problem with the internet is you have to assume how I would sound if I were saying that out loud.  It was not meant to be a negative comment... Trust me, I'm swooning and commenting on every pic they post.  But deep down it hurts to see it, I'm not going to lie.

It sounds like your situation and the OPs are different, though. Your cousins aren't doing it to be mean, and you are genuinely happy for them. It sounds like the OP's co-worker might be acting like this on purpose.

That is very true, and a good point.  It is not being purposely thrown in my face.

SarahDavis83:

krptcmschfmkr128:

SarahDavis83:

Adam&Eve2:

SarahDavis83:

Ugh, that sounds HORRIBLE!  I feel for you... Had my m/c in October and have had two cousins since have their babies, and they are flaunting their newborn pics all over Facebook.  Torture! 

FX you'll have your own bump to flaunt soon!

I've never had to suffer the loss of a m/c. But this statement seems a little passive aggressive to me. They just had babies...they get to be happy and show off those babies. Grow up.

OP, I'm so sorry! Is it possible to avoid this other girl at work? I hope it gets better for you soon! ~Huggiz~ 

Sorry if it came off passive aggressive.  The problem with the internet is you have to assume how I would sound if I were saying that out loud.  It was not meant to be a negative comment... Trust me, I'm swooning and commenting on every pic they post.  But deep down it hurts to see it, I'm not going to lie.

It sounds like your situation and the OPs are different, though. Your cousins aren't doing it to be mean, and you are genuinely happy for them. It sounds like the OP's co-worker might be acting like this on purpose.

That is very true, and a good point.  It is not being purposely thrown in my face.

I just wanted to add I don't mean to sound like your loss is any less sad, just that the situation seems slightly different. Sorry for both of your losses.

cruelsound:

In response to the whole, "If you haven't gone through it, you don't get to judge" part, I've said it before but I'm always amazed when people assume the know another person's story.

Not everyone puts their history in their Bump sig.

Well I clearly said this, but I never assume that I know what anybody is going through becuase, honestly, I don't!

krptcmschfmkr128:

SarahDavis83:

Adam&Eve2:

SarahDavis83:

Ugh, that sounds HORRIBLE!  I feel for you... Had my m/c in October and have had two cousins since have their babies, and they are flaunting their newborn pics all over Facebook.  Torture! 

FX you'll have your own bump to flaunt soon!

I've never had to suffer the loss of a m/c. But this statement seems a little passive aggressive to me. They just had babies...they get to be happy and show off those babies. Grow up.

OP, I'm so sorry! Is it possible to avoid this other girl at work? I hope it gets better for you soon! ~Huggiz~ 

Sorry if it came off passive aggressive.  The problem with the internet is you have to assume how I would sound if I were saying that out loud.  It was not meant to be a negative comment... Trust me, I'm swooning and commenting on every pic they post.  But deep down it hurts to see it, I'm not going to lie.

It sounds like your situation and the OPs are different, though. Your cousins aren't doing it to be mean, and you are genuinely happy for them. It sounds like the OP's co-worker might be acting like this on purpose.

Yeah, FB I can handle, but this chick is always over-the-top and I can't bear the thought that she's enjoying every second she bee-bops around here just because she knows how much my heart is breaking.

krptcmschfmkr128:

SarahDavis83:

krptcmschfmkr128:

SarahDavis83:

Adam&Eve2:

SarahDavis83:

Ugh, that sounds HORRIBLE!  I feel for you... Had my m/c in October and have had two cousins since have their babies, and they are flaunting their newborn pics all over Facebook.  Torture! 

FX you'll have your own bump to flaunt soon!

I've never had to suffer the loss of a m/c. But this statement seems a little passive aggressive to me. They just had babies...they get to be happy and show off those babies. Grow up.

OP, I'm so sorry! Is it possible to avoid this other girl at work? I hope it gets better for you soon! ~Huggiz~ 

Sorry if it came off passive aggressive.  The problem with the internet is you have to assume how I would sound if I were saying that out loud.  It was not meant to be a negative comment... Trust me, I'm swooning and commenting on every pic they post.  But deep down it hurts to see it, I'm not going to lie.

It sounds like your situation and the OPs are different, though. Your cousins aren't doing it to be mean, and you are genuinely happy for them. It sounds like the OP's co-worker might be acting like this on purpose.

That is very true, and a good point.  It is not being purposely thrown in my face.

I just wanted to add I don't mean to sound like your loss is any less sad, just that the situation seems slightly different. Sorry for both of your losses.

No, you are right, it is different.  I mean, ultimately I have the choice not to look at it (which is hard because they're my family).  I can't imagine it being thrown in my face like that. 

Femme, so sorry for your loss.  Hoping you can find a way to avoid that girl!

cruelsound:

In response to the whole, "If you haven't gone through it, you don't get to judge" part, I've said it before but I'm always amazed when people assume the know another person's story.

Not everyone puts their history in their Bump sig.

I did say that I have never been through it, and I haven't. And I hope I never do. But I do have a friend that has had a couple m/c's and I was there for her as much as I could be. So even though I don't know what its like personally, I have seen what they do to someone.

And having a DD puts into perspective for me. I have been pregnant and just the thought of loosing that pregnancy gives me a hint of an idea of what it would feel like.

None of this is directed at you Cruel. It is my long winded way of agreeing with you. 

Adam&Eve2:

cruelsound:

In response to the whole, "If you haven't gone through it, you don't get to judge" part, I've said it before but I'm always amazed when people assume the know another person's story.

Not everyone puts their history in their Bump sig.

I did say that I have never been through it, and I haven't. And I hope I never do. But I do have a friend that has had a couple m/c's and I was there for her as much as I could be. So even though I don't know what its like personally, I have seen what they do to someone.

And having a DD puts into perspective for me. I have been pregnant and just the thought of loosing that pregnancy gives me a hint of an idea of what it would feel like.

None of this is directed at you Cruel. It is my long winded way of agreeing with you. 

Yet you *eye roll* when others say it? 

Simmer down, Madasm. It's like you are just chomping for a brawl and are trying to twist anything you can to have a reason to throw the first punch.

A&E, I missed the part where you mentioned not having a loss. My bad on that one. And it just dawned on me who you are, I knew your name from somewhere and it's like a lightbulb just went off. How dumb of me.

OP and Sarah, again, I'm sorry that you are having some bad days. I hope that you are able to work through everything and feel better soon.

And everyone else, untwist the panties and hug it out.

madasm0530:

Adam&Eve2:

cruelsound:

In response to the whole, "If you haven't gone through it, you don't get to judge" part, I've said it before but I'm always amazed when people assume the know another person's story.

Not everyone puts their history in their Bump sig.

I did say that I have never been through it, and I haven't. And I hope I never do. But I do have a friend that has had a couple m/c's and I was there for her as much as I could be. So even though I don't know what its like personally, I have seen what they do to someone.

And having a DD puts into perspective for me. I have been pregnant and just the thought of loosing that pregnancy gives me a hint of an idea of what it would feel like.

None of this is directed at you Cruel. It is my long winded way of agreeing with you. 

Yet you *eye roll* when others say it? 

Why don't you reread Cruel's post. I don't think you totally understood what she was saying. 

ETA: Cruel is right. I don't want to get into it with anyone.  

cruelsound:

Simmer down, Madasm. It's like you are just chomping for a brawl and are trying to twist anything you can to have a reason to throw the first punch.

A&E, I missed the part where you mentioned not having a loss. My bad on that one. And it just dawned on me who you are, I knew your name from somewhere and it's like a lightbulb just went off. How dumb of me.

OP and Sarah, again, I'm sorry that you are having some bad days. I hope that you are able to work through everything and feel better soon.

And everyone else, untwist the panties and hug it out.

Thanks for that, seriously not sarcastically. I must be having a day. I read OPs blog and it brought back alot and then AdamEve said something about growing up in regards to a loss and I took it personally for whatever reason.

Blah.. I'm just going to go back to work and think about something else. 

ETA: I promise I don't like brawls around these parts. Adam&Eve - care to hug it out? 

 

madasm0530:

cruelsound:

Simmer down, Madasm. It's like you are just chomping for a brawl and are trying to twist anything you can to have a reason to throw the first punch.

A&E, I missed the part where you mentioned not having a loss. My bad on that one. And it just dawned on me who you are, I knew your name from somewhere and it's like a lightbulb just went off. How dumb of me.

OP and Sarah, again, I'm sorry that you are having some bad days. I hope that you are able to work through everything and feel better soon.

And everyone else, untwist the panties and hug it out.

Thanks for that, seriously not sarcastically. I must be having a day. I read OPs blog and it brought back alot and then AdamEve said something about growing up in regards to a loss and I took it personally for whatever reason.

Blah.. I'm just going to go back to work and think about something else. 

ETA: I promise I don't like brawls around these parts. Adam&Eve - care to hug it out? 

 

I would love to hug it out! And I see where the misunderstanding was. I didn't mean for her to grow up about the loss, but about how she is putting it on her cousins. I thought that was a little childish. But that's not how she meant it anyway...so this whole thing was pretty stupid.

~Huggiz~ 

Adam&Eve2:

madasm0530:

cruelsound:

Simmer down, Madasm. It's like you are just chomping for a brawl and are trying to twist anything you can to have a reason to throw the first punch.

A&E, I missed the part where you mentioned not having a loss. My bad on that one. And it just dawned on me who you are, I knew your name from somewhere and it's like a lightbulb just went off. How dumb of me.

OP and Sarah, again, I'm sorry that you are having some bad days. I hope that you are able to work through everything and feel better soon.

And everyone else, untwist the panties and hug it out.

Thanks for that, seriously not sarcastically. I must be having a day. I read OPs blog and it brought back alot and then AdamEve said something about growing up in regards to a loss and I took it personally for whatever reason.

Blah.. I'm just going to go back to work and think about something else. 

ETA: I promise I don't like brawls around these parts. Adam&Eve - care to hug it out? 

 

I would love to hug it out! And I see where the misunderstanding was. I didn't mean for her to grow up about the loss, but about how she is putting it on her cousins. I thought that was a little childish. But that's not how she meant it anyway...so this whole thing was pretty stupid.

~Huggiz~ 

Boom. Thanks for mediating, Cruel!

I am so sorry for your loss Femme, It is heartbreaking. I hope you can avoid that girl at work and I hope you have a bump to flaunt soon !

OP, Sarah, I am so very sorry for your losses.

<3

I know how you feel.  I went through something similar after our loss.  I'm so sorry for you.  All I can say is that your take home baby is still waiting for you.  I wish you the best of luck and PM me if you need someone to talk to.

OP i am so sorry you are having to deal with that! such a crappy situation. just try to ignore her :/ i hope it gets much better soon!