-Ditto the FAQs
-Cost, timing, rates vary SO much, based on type of adoption, route you take, the rates of who you're working with in particular, etc
-To be chosen, you complete a homestudy to show you are approved to be parents, do a profile to show expectant families what you're like, and wait for someone to click with you
-The FAQs, and the resources in there, will help you find an adoption agency (or other route)
-There aren't necessarily benefits or drawbacks to domestic vs international adoption. People are drawn to different routes for different reasons. International adoption for the most part is going to be closed, domestic adoption for the most part is going to be open, on some level. But open can mean a LOT of different things
-Foster adopt is through the state, though there are some national agencies that place children who have already had parental rights terminated. Your state agency can give you more info
-From my understanding, surrogacy is VERY expensive. You can always approach your dr and go from there
-Bonding was never an issue. DH in particular was in love at first sight
I strongly reiterate that you should check out the FAQs, use some of the resources to research, then come back with specific questions. It's a great group of people who can really help you
GL