I don't think anyone should feel guilty. Everyone has their own journey- and we've all felt the heartache of IF. And supported others going through the same. Some people don't choose to pursue IVF, and maybe they are lucky enough to get pg with other treatments.
I tried for 5 yrs, diagnosed unexplained and mild endo- only did 2 clomid IUIs which failed. We decided to pursue adoption instead of IVF and I ended up with a suprise BFP which resulted in my son. I still feel like I am an IF vet.
I think everyone has a different journey- it's horrible that any of us have to go through this but wonderful that we have the support of others - regardless of how different each of us are.
I think only the struggle of IF and knowing what others have gone through can lead you to think that 6 clomid cycles, one ER, one FET = relatively easy. B/c we know of others who have gone through that and more and still have empty arms. IF sucks no matter what. Your friend is lucky to have the support of someone like you.
ETA- my story might've been different if I had IF covg- I could've gone through IVF and multiple cycles and maybe would've gotten pregnant in only 2 yrs. Who knows. But instead I did 'just' clomid IUI 3 yrs ago and stopped treatments and got pregnant this year on my own by some miracle after 5 yrs.
Everyone is different. I am glad I went through what I did - it made me stronger, let me 'meet' a group of the most selfless supportive women in the world, and I have my son. I'm glad things went the way they did- b/c I couldn't couldn't imagine having any other baby but my son.
I think this comes up often- comparing your IF struggles to others, not feeling worthy of being on the board, etc. Everyone is different- and nobody is judging anyone else's journey.
Now yes - fertiles who complain about how it took them a few months to get pregnant- those annoy me.