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12-19-2012 at 10:47 AM
Chocodoxie...
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I am due on the 2nd of January, and have been having contractions for the past week (not BH, actual contractions). I had contractions for two whole weeks before our DD was born, so this is pretty standard for me, and I am not worrying about it. This may however indicate that our daughter is on her way a bit early.

My husband has been messing with his holiday schedule like crazy. He just came in our room to say that he wants to work a 12 hour day on New Years, for the holiday pay. I said, "I am going to be 39 + 6 on that day, do you think I want to take care of a five year old by myself for 12 hours,"?!  I think he may be having a bit of a panic attack over the idea of paying for two children...


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12-19-2012 at 10:52 AM
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Oh man, DH is like that too. He's an intern while at school and since classes are out he's trying to work as much as possible. Granted, I'm not due until the end of February, but he's still in the mindset of "We need to save as much money as possible!"

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12-19-2012 at 11:12 AM
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My husband is the same. He's trying to get as much done as possible before baby comes (not due til Feb 4 but I'm likely to be early due to family hx and complications). And the worse part is he doesn't get overtime! So, he was doing 60-80 hours/week and not getting any extra money and I was so lonely and bored! He'd be home, eat, and then we'd have time for 1, maybe 2 shows and he'd be passed out. Thankfully he's heard me and has cut his hours back to normal-ish. But it's still frustrating :(

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12-19-2012 at 12:59 PM
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My husband works like crazy all the time, even before I was pregnant. He has a full time and part time job. So It's pretty standard for him to work anywhere from 45-60 hrs a week. On a few occasions he has come close to 80 hrs. Anytime we go out of town to see family, he takes his laptop so he can work when there is free time. He even works when he's not working. I once woke up to him talking about work in his sleep. I haven't said anything to him about it in a while, because I know he is getting tired of constantly working/ thinking about work. So I figure eventually he will cut back or get frustrated enough to quit his part time job. The part time job isn't a necessity so much as it is a peace of mind for him.

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12-19-2012 at 1:31 PM
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Or he's trying to get extra money for the family...? Are you able to have a relative/friend help you with your DD on that day?

FI works 12 and 24 hour shifts all the time, and will continue to do so, even well into overtime. While I really wish that he were home, the extra money goes directly into savings for baby related things, especially hospital bills that is left over from insurance. 


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12-19-2012 at 1:45 PM
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The grass is always greener.....my DH has only been SLEEPING more than usual. If he had been picking up extra shifts, I could overlook the fact that the babys room, hallway, and bathroom are still construction zones!

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12-19-2012 at 2:03 PM
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dande2129:

Or he's trying to get extra money for the family...? Are you able to have a relative/friend help you with your DD on that day?

FI works 12 and 24 hour shifts all the time, and will continue to do so, even well into overtime. While I really wish that he were home, the extra money goes directly into savings for baby related things, especially hospital bills that is left over from insurance. 

He is working on that day, just not for the 12 hours he was planning, more like 10. The reality is, we love that paycheck after the holiday season, and regardless of our daughter's birth, he plans on working through the 5th for the bonus pay. It is, however, very possible that we will be in the hospital for a birth right before that day. This could equal out to a day old baby and a lonely recovering mommy in a hospital while daddy is working away. Let's face it, that would suck for anyone, him included.  I am very supportive of his job as it is what allows me to be a SAHM year round (I am incredibly thankful), and he really loves his job thus making for a happy hubby. 

Lord knows that I do have a supportive family, and no doubt they would do the best they could to help out, but I just can't make it my family's responsibility to cater to my needs post birth when my husband is capable and willing, but wanting a larger paycheck. Thankfully we have amazing insurance through DH's work, and won't have a bill afterward, and financially we are doing well so this is really more of a "wish" than a requirement. 


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5th BFP 1/20/12 m/c @ 9 weeks;
6th BFP 4/27/12 Praying for our rainbow
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12-19-2012 at 2:23 PM
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My husband is an industrial electrician. His job is very feast or famine. Right now, it's feast. He'll probably only take off the day that I'm actually in labor. He would love to take off weeks or so after the baby comes to stay with us but it's just unrealistic.

It sucks but sometimes you have to do what you have to do. 

12-19-2012 at 8:31 PM
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My husband gave me a hand written schedule of the days and times I am allowed to go into labor that are optimal in avoiding losing any hours at work. I can go into labor in the next thirty minutes, or wait until Saturday. Of course the first time around he called me and told me "For the love of God, do not go into labor this weekend, I need to work on my car", and then 6 hours later I had to call him and notify him that I was in labor. Men sometimes are far more dramatic :)

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12-19-2012 at 9:09 PM
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I think the husbands sometimes try to ignore the impending circumstances, haha!

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