That sounds totally normal to me. They're at the age where they're asserting their independence, and it's very common for babies around this age to prefer to feed themselves. DD only eats from a spoon now if it's something she really, really loves. Otherwise she eats whatever we're eating with her fingers. It's messy, but she eats a lot and is happy. It's totally possible to have a nutritious, well rounded meals through only finger foods. DD loved eggs, toast, eggs ON toast, grilled cheese, tuna melts, bagels with cream cheese, all fruit, all veggies when they're roasted or steamed or grated, all meat..... the list goes on. I just cut it up into smaller pieces. I just DH and my meals so that they'll be something DD with enjoy too. It's actually a lot easier than when I had to puree everything.
Wanting more control over their eating, and more texture in their food, is a normal part of development. I've found that DD really enjoys when she's offered a variety of finger foods at one time (eg. this morning's breakfast was banana, home made granola bar, and kiwi, and cut up and placed on her high chair for her to choose between).