Get The Bump digital magazine >

tools: Pregnancy Calendar | Baby Namer | Gender Chart | How Big is Baby?

community

all boards


birth clubs


nest boards


my blog

my photos

my boards


200+ Easy Weeknight Meals!

Green living: Eco-friendly tips & tricks!

< Previous topic | Next topic >

All Boards > Trying to Get Pregnant

Sort:
12-19-2012 at 3:05 PM
Kezzzke
Not Ranked
Joined on 06-25-2011
170 Posts
4,046 Points
Kezzzke is not online. Last active: 05-19-2013, 10:17 AMNewbie

This is for Real Life...

You know, We've been planning and talking and wishing and waiting for almost an entire year as we move things into place to make this first try happen. Now i am Day 1 of the cycle in which we will have our first IUI and i am completely freaking out.  In a good way and you know, in a freaking out way.  

 

I am just a smoosh of emotions. I don't want to get excited, I know how long the road is, but at the same time I just want to believe that it will work and we'll get incredibly lucky. My wife is just a general ball of terror over the entire thing ( finances, health, the state of the world, OH MY!). Since we aren't discussing this with our families and don't want to go to friends either because they will inevitably ask every month " did it work" we are pretty much without an outlet to discuss this enormous undertaking.   

 

I guess I am simply wondering, do you all freak out? Believe me, I cannot wait to be  a mom and know my wife will also be awesome, its not that kind of freaking out.... more of a holy *** this is really going to start happening.

 
Image and video hosting by TinyPic me:32 my wife:31/ married in June '12/ began testing with RE in Aug'12- results low AMH, failed clomid challenge/ began DHEA, supplement regimin, gave up gluten and started acupuncture/IUI#1 Jan1 = BFN/ IUI#2 Jan 31 = BFN/ switch RE's and retest, numbers still too low/ change game plan dramatically to reciprocal IVF using my wife's eggs/ began BC April 3 with estimated ER in wife May 20-25 Image and video hosting by TinyPic 
Report Abuse
Reply
Quote
12-19-2012 at 3:08 PM
Adam&Eve2
Not Ranked
Joined on 12-17-2012
634 Posts
12,773 Points
Adam&Eve2 is not online. Last active: 02-14-2013, 3:00 PMBronze

I think thats normal. DH and I already have one and are starting on second. I get that feeling too. Just take a deep breath and know that this is right for you and your wife. GL! 



TTGP Siggy Challenge:Kissing Animals

Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker 
Report Abuse
Reply
Quote
12-19-2012 at 3:11 PM
MindyBadge...
Not Ranked
Joined on 10-14-2012
605 Posts
8,983 Points
MindyBadger1 is not online. Last active: 05-19-2013, 11:50 AMBronze

The first month I had that feeling almost every day....  I think any rational human being could work themselves into a tizzy if they thought about what they were doing and every positive and negative experience that decision can/will bring for the rest of their life.

Breathe. Smile

Beautiful picture, BTW. 


My cat can read EKGs, can your human do that?
♥BFP#1 12-23-12 M/C 12-31-12 @5w4d♥
♥BFP#2 05-09-13, Beta #1 97 @15dpo, Beta #2 709 @19dpo, 1st U/S 5/29. EDD 01-15-14♥
 
Report Abuse
Reply
Quote
12-19-2012 at 3:13 PM
Kezzzke
Not Ranked
Joined on 06-25-2011
170 Posts
4,046 Points
Kezzzke is not online. Last active: 05-19-2013, 10:17 AMNewbie
MindyBadger1:

The first month I had that feeling almost every day....  I think any rational human being could work themselves into a tizzy if they thought about what they were doing and every positive and negative experience that decision can/will bring for the rest of their life.

Breathe. Smile

Beautiful picture, BTW. 

Thanks. I think you are spot on. Over-thinking is a particular skill of mine.  

   and thanks... i love that pic. 
Image and video hosting by TinyPic me:32 my wife:31/ married in June '12/ began testing with RE in Aug'12- results low AMH, failed clomid challenge/ began DHEA, supplement regimin, gave up gluten and started acupuncture/IUI#1 Jan1 = BFN/ IUI#2 Jan 31 = BFN/ switch RE's and retest, numbers still too low/ change game plan dramatically to reciprocal IVF using my wife's eggs/ began BC April 3 with estimated ER in wife May 20-25 Image and video hosting by TinyPic 
Report Abuse
Reply
Quote
12-19-2012 at 3:14 PM
ChicagoWed...
Not Ranked
Joined on 01-10-2008
3,708 Posts
19,030 Points
ChicagoWeded2007 is not online. Last active: 05-19-2013, 11:02 AMSilver

Good Luck!

 One day at a time. :) I told my Dh that we don't have to be ready for a 2 year old or a teenager, we only have to be ready for an infant.  We'll learn as we go! You don't have to be ready for every challenge in your life, just the next one. 

Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle. -Philo



My fertility friend charts

~~TTC#1~~
09/2009 Missed miscarriage at 9 weeks and D&C
17 BFN cycles
Diagnosis: MFI (low count), IVF recommended
Treatment: Anastrozole to increase testosterone
05/2011: 50 mg Clomid + IUI cancelled because there were 4 mature follies
06/2011: 25 mg Clomid + IUI → BFP at 10 dpo
02/2012: Baby boy born!

~~TTC#2~~
2 BFN cycles with short luteal phases
One night with DH = BFP on 4/15/2013!
EDD 12/26/2013
BabyFetus Ticker
BabyFruit Ticker 
Report Abuse
Reply
Quote
12-19-2012 at 3:17 PM
nlscroggin...
Not Ranked
Joined on 10-24-2011
1,353 Posts
25,251 Points
nlscroggins is not online. Last active: 05-19-2013, 10:16 AMBronze
i freak out about everything, so yeah it's normal :) good luck to you! and omg, your siggy pic is gorgeous! 

me: 26 - DH: 29
ttc #1 since june 2012
-dx: PCOS & hypothyroidism-
-Dec '12-SA: normal & HSG: all clear-
-Jan '13- clomid 50mg = BFN-
-Feb '13- clomid 100mg = BFN-
-March '13- clomid 150mg = BFN- 
Report Abuse
Reply
Quote
12-19-2012 at 3:18 PM
Adam&Eve2
Not Ranked
Joined on 12-17-2012
634 Posts
12,773 Points
Adam&Eve2 is not online. Last active: 02-14-2013, 3:00 PMBronze
ChicagoWeded2007:

Good Luck!

 One day at a time. :) I told my Dh that we don't have to be ready for a 2 year old or a teenager, we only have to be ready for an infant.  We'll learn as we go! You don't have to be ready for every challenge in your life, just the next one. 

I love that! Its great advice too. Just take it one step at a time.  :)



TTGP Siggy Challenge:Kissing Animals

Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker 
Report Abuse
Reply
Quote
12-19-2012 at 3:22 PM
eyris
Not Ranked
Joined on 12-29-2007
915 Posts
14,202 Points
eyris is not online. Last active: 05-19-2013, 10:01 AMBronze

I freaked out a bit our first month trying, even though we had been planning on starting to try that month for a year and a half.

Then I actually got pregnant on our first try and had a lot of anxiety.  It ended up in miscarriage and I felt bad for being so anxious about it, like somehow it was my fault, even though I know it doesn't work that way.

I then didn't ovulate for the next two months, and here I am again, freaking out a bit now that we've finally got another valid chance at it!

When I see babies I'm like "I want that!" but going through the process & pregnancy is a whoooole other thing.

Good luck with the IUI and hang in there!  We're all kind of in the dark until we go through it, y'know? 

My current "babies" - Harry, Ollie & Baxter
BabyFetus Ticker
IT'S A BOY!!! Everett Richard due 9/10/13  
Report Abuse
Reply
Quote
12-19-2012 at 3:24 PM
ColeRose
Not Ranked
Joined on 09-07-2012
5,504 Posts
101,448 Points
ColeRose is online. Last active: 05-19-2013, 12:50 PMSilver

ChicagoWeded2007:

You don't have to be ready for every challenge in your life, just the next one. 

Excellent piece of advice. Good luck to you and your wife, stunning siggy picture.

 
TTC #1 since July 2012

BFP 10.14.12 | EDD 6.22.13 | M/C 10.18.12 (4w5d)
BFP 3.29.13 | EDD 12.5.13 | Praying Everyday
My ExtraordinHARRY Chart

Image and video hosting by TinyPic
Pregnancy Ticker
*Everyone Always Welcome*  
Report Abuse
Reply
Quote
12-19-2012 at 3:54 PM
femmepink
Not Ranked
Joined on 04-02-2011
2,265 Posts
20,709 Points
femmepink is not online. Last active: 05-13-2013, 7:36 PMSilver

I counted down the months of TTA before we started TTC in October. When October came, I was excited as hell, but I also had a breakdown. The breakdown was so unexpected and I was disappointed in myself because I thought if I was ready, I wouldn't feel so scared. Well, it turns out that fear only lasted until we actually started trying.

We were lucky enough to get pregnant right away, and the fear was pretty much gone and replaced with excitement. I was surprised at how calm I was when I was pregnant.

Unfortunately, I'm back here, but I guess my point is I believe it's normal to be scared of the change about to happen. It's a big deal to decide to have a baby, and IMO, freaking out a little seems more "normal" than not.
Image and video hosting by TinyPic Image and video hosting by TinyPic Image and video hosting by TinyPic AlternaTickers - Cool, free Web tickers
AlternaTickers - Cool, free Web tickers
♥ BFP #1 "SPECK" - 11/7/2012 ♥ M/C - 12/8/2012 @ 7W6D ♥
♥ BFP #2 "SPAWNER" - 3/2/2013 ♥ EDD: 11/13/13 ♥
 
Report Abuse
Reply
Quote
12-19-2012 at 4:12 PM
JustWonder...
Not Ranked
Joined on 07-01-2011
1,901 Posts
23,407 Points
JustWonderin805 is not online. Last active: 01-14-2013, 10:44 PMBronze
ColeRose:

ChicagoWeded2007:

You don't have to be ready for every challenge in your life, just the next one. 

Excellent piece of advice. Good luck to you and your wife, stunning siggy picture.

 

All of this. I love the picture especially. Beautiful!

Good luck to you! 

missing my two angel babies
bfp #1 10.28.09 m/c 11.4.09 bfp #2 12.26.10 m/c 1.25.11
dx with PCOS/insulin resistance in 2003
TTA until ???  
Report Abuse
Reply
Quote
12-19-2012 at 4:26 PM
VCGolfNYC
Not Ranked
Joined on 12-06-2012
499 Posts
10,577 Points
VCGolfNYC is online. Last active: 05-19-2013, 12:51 PMNewbie
eyris:

I freaked out a bit our first month trying, even though we had been planning on starting to try that month for a year and a half.

Then I actually got pregnant on our first try and had a lot of anxiety.  It ended up in miscarriage and I felt bad for being so anxious about it, like somehow it was my fault, even though I know it doesn't work that way.

I then didn't ovulate for the next two months, and here I am again, freaking out a bit now that we've finally got another valid chance at it!

When I see babies I'm like "I want that!" but going through the process & pregnancy is a whoooole other thing.

Good luck with the IUI and hang in there!  We're all kind of in the dark until we go through it, y'know? 

DH and I set the start date and he was thrilled when it arrived, while I was tentative, terrified, and tried to reason myself out of it, but failed.  I also feel the same exact way re: your other comment!

 

OP - Nerves are normal, and healthy!!  I agree with previous posters, your sig pic is gorgeous!  Good luck with the IUI! 
BabyFruit Ticker
~ BFP 04.10.2013 - EDD 12.22.2013 ~
~ Started TTC 12.1.2012 - BFP 12.20.2012~ m/c 1.2.2013
~ Surprise BFP 7.26.12 - Lost poppy seed* 8.13.12 <3 ~
 
Report Abuse
Reply
Quote
12-19-2012 at 4:56 PM
kgoldsmith...
Not Ranked
Joined on 06-07-2011
802 Posts
15,736 Points
kgoldsmith1023 is not online. Last active: 03-18-2013, 8:10 PMBronze
Welcome to the board and I also love your pic! :) With DD I didnt freak out until my water broke and then I was like holy cow I am brining a person home with me I kinda wanted to change my mind for a min! :) Freaking out at some point is normal it is a new journey and will change your life in a major (but oh so good) way! Lots of luck to you and your wife! :)
My Ovulation Chart  
Report Abuse
Reply
Quote
12-20-2012 at 8:19 AM
Kezzzke
Not Ranked
Joined on 06-25-2011
170 Posts
4,046 Points
Kezzzke is not online. Last active: 05-19-2013, 10:17 AMNewbie

Thanks ladies,

 

It's always great to know you're not just some crazy lady!

;) 

 
Image and video hosting by TinyPic me:32 my wife:31/ married in June '12/ began testing with RE in Aug'12- results low AMH, failed clomid challenge/ began DHEA, supplement regimin, gave up gluten and started acupuncture/IUI#1 Jan1 = BFN/ IUI#2 Jan 31 = BFN/ switch RE's and retest, numbers still too low/ change game plan dramatically to reciprocal IVF using my wife's eggs/ began BC April 3 with estimated ER in wife May 20-25 Image and video hosting by TinyPic 
Report Abuse
Reply
Quote
12-20-2012 at 10:19 AM
Ticktock21
Not Ranked
Joined on 12-12-2012
7 Posts
253 Points
Ticktock21 is not online. Last active: 04-29-2013, 8:22 PMNewbie

You are so not crazy.  H and I are on our first try and first cycle and I swear it occupies my brain at least once every 2 minutes throughout the entire day.

I think this is totally normal

Good luck to you and your wife!

 
Report Abuse
Reply
Quote
Hot Topics

New dad or dad-to-be? Chat with other dads here!
Visit the Dads & Dads-to-be board

Need baby shower inspiration? Get ideas here!
Visit the Baby Showers board

Chat with other crafty moms here!
Visit the Crafty Moms board

search boards

choose another board