But it is their CHOICE to use a wet nurse.
yes, obviously. My point was just to reiterate that the act of a child receiving breast milk from another woman is not unheard of and that the risk of disease transmission is very low. I totally agree that this is a huge mistake on their part. Personally, I think that pulling the child out of the daycare and reporting the incident to the state would be a better course of action than "lawyering up". A daycare needs to maintain it's license in order to stay open. Reporting the incident directly to the state seems much more effective strategy to get the daycare to fix its mistakes and prevent this, or something worse, from happening in the future. Also, and perhaps this is just ignorance on my part, but if the other mother is tested and is free of HIV, TB, and human T-cell lymphotropic virus type I or type II, why does the child need repeated testing every month for a year? Even in the VERY RARE case that the other mother has just recently contracted HIV and does not yet test positive, I don't see why repeated monthly testing would ever be necessary.
I think the repeated testing is due to the window of when a disease is contracted and when it show ups on the tests. For instance, with HIV, you immediately get a high viral load for about a month which makes you very infectious to others, then viral loads drop out for a long time making testing hard to determine. If baby has been exposed for a long time, then it's possible that repeat testing is needed.
Also, the virgin gut issue is a big deal with respect to HIV. A baby that is purely breastfed is unlikely to catch HIV from mom's breastmilk. A baby that combines milk and formula has a much higher risk of contraction.
FWIW, chances of something bad happening are super slim, but I would personally take every step possible to ensure accountability of the DC providers. What would have happened if your LO was on solids and had allergies? This kind of negligence is very serious and can potentially be life threatening.
Sorry you are going through this.