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12-19-2012 at 7:54 PM
ChristyML
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Stupid sex question...sorry. TMI...

I don't know where to put this post... 

I am about 10 weeks pp, and my husband and I have already had sex once, but it hurt SO bad...we tried again yesterday, but it hurt just like the last time...

Is this normal? I mean, I felt like I was wet enough...and we used a ton of lube... Also, I thought that after you had a baby you were really stretched out "down there"...

Has anyone successfully (meaning, without pain or discomfort) had intercourse yet?

TIA 
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12-19-2012 at 8:00 PM
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I havn't been given the okay for sex yet, so I am not much help... but I did hear that it is pretty common for it to hurt the first few times after having a baby.
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12-19-2012 at 8:22 PM
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My OB said it is very normal to hurt at first and to try and relax as much as possible b/c tensing will make it a lot worse (obviously). 
 
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12-19-2012 at 8:34 PM
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It still hurts for me. :(
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12-19-2012 at 9:17 PM
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chapstix7:
It still hurts for me. :(

Noo! :( BTW, did you get your son's outfit from Amazon? 
BFP: February 12 2012 Joseph Scott born October 8 7lb 12oz 20.5" TTC #2 Since February 2013  
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12-19-2012 at 9:22 PM
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I'm 10 weeks pp too and have been having the same problem, apart from I couldn't even handle it the first time. I asked my doctor and he suggested "warming up" in the shower and going from there. 
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12-20-2012 at 1:24 AM
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I hurt to the point of tears for a yr the first time around. I'm afraid to try yet for that reason :
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12-20-2012 at 3:53 AM
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It's very, very normal.  I suggest a few glasses of wine and a lot of lube.

For me, it was painful until about 3 months PP, then uncomfortable until 6 months PP.  Then it was more normal.  Although there are still positions now that can be uncomfortable that weren't before.

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12-20-2012 at 9:30 AM
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First time we didn't even come close to finishing it hurt so bad. Second time was better - and my husband is super patient & willing to go slow. By the third I was enjoying it. 

Like other said - lots of lube and patience. You know your body & if it hurts, it hurts. Everyone is different and heals differently. Just keep trying slowly and I'm sure you'll be back in the saddle in no time. :D 

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12-20-2012 at 11:34 AM
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Im too scared to try :(
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12-20-2012 at 3:58 PM
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It did hurt for a long time after, but not horribly. I could no longer do quickies...I needed a lot of foreplay. I know people say you stretch out, but if anything, after DD I felt a lot tighter like DH couldn't get in there (TMI, sorry). I haven't tried yet after DS, I am only 6 weeks PP and still spotting.
 
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12-20-2012 at 4:28 PM
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Ouch! Ouch! Ouch!  Still.  You would think things got larger but no.  Or my DH slipped the doc an extra $20 to add a stitch. LOL                                         Seriously though it is still uncomfortable.  But I'm gonna keep going at it.  It was almost 7 months without.  It was just too uncomfortable (for both of us) during pregnancy so when I was given the OK it was Go Time.  So from what I've read this seems normal. 
 
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12-20-2012 at 5:23 PM
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The first time it hurt when he went in ( I had stitches) but I was also really nervous. We did it a few days later and it was a little uncomfortable but felt amazing...after that it was back to normal;) The first 5 times though I was on top so I can control the pressure and angle. It will get better...and being on top is VERY helpful
 
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12-20-2012 at 8:18 PM
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After DD it hurt really bad.  It felt like he was ramming a steel rod in there.  For some reason, it didn't feel better until after I got my period (about 4 months pp).  We used lube and lots of foreplay, but it just didn't feel good.  I also had a second degree tear and had stiches.

This time I haven't had any problems.  Felt good the first time and every time since.  I also didn't have any stiches this time, so I think that helps.  Just hang in there.  It gets better, I promise.  If it didn't people wouldn't have more than one kid, right? 
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