After DD it hurt really bad. It felt like he was ramming a steel rod in there. For some reason, it didn't feel better until after I got my period (about 4 months pp). We used lube and lots of foreplay, but it just didn't feel good. I also had a second degree tear and had stiches.
This time I haven't had any problems. Felt good the first time and every time since. I also didn't have any stiches this time, so I think that helps. Just hang in there. It gets better, I promise. If it didn't people wouldn't have more than one kid, right?