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12-20-2012 at 12:07 PM
mgm84
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How do I know everything is okay?

 Hi Ladies,

I could use some advice, or words of inspiration, please!  Long story short, this has been a difficult pregnancy, and early last week I found out we are having a healthy baby girl (after getting results from the CVS test).  I felt elated and happy enough to finally start telling people. 

My next appointment is a week from tomorrow, and I am starting to get nervous.  Not for any rational reason, but just out of fear.  I got spoiled with frequent appointments and ultrasounds during my first trimester, and although my last appointment was 2 weeks ago, I did not get an u/s then. 

So, how can I reassure myself that everything is okay? I know the risk of MC is small now, but the idea of a missed MC keeps popping up in my brain.  I guess once I can "feel" the baby I will be comforted, but so far I have not. I would appreciate any and all advice!

Thanks! 


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12-20-2012 at 12:13 PM
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I definitely know how you feel, but i think part of being a mom is constant worry...comes with the territory.  When i was pregnant with my first, i told my mom how worried i was all the time to which she responded "get used to it...as a mom you will worry about something for the rest of your child's life."  Just try to relax and know that you are doing everything you can for your baby.  Also it helps me to remember that my worrying isnt going to help...or change a situation...all it does is wear me out.  I feel my daughter move a lot, which is reassuring but then one day if she moves less, i am worried again.  So trust me, the worrying never goes away.  You get past one milestone and it's on to worrying about the next one.  My first child is 4 so i forgot how incredible it was to be pregnant...so for this one, i am trying to enjoy the ride...knowing that i am giving life and that is pretty darn cool.  Hugs and kisses to you and prayers for a smooth pregnancy.  We are all in this together!!!  

 
12-20-2012 at 12:18 PM
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Kmape36:
I definitely know how you feel, but i think part of being a mom is constant worry...comes with the territory.  When i was pregnant with my first, i told my mom how worried i was all the time to which she responded "get used to it...as a mom you will worry about something for the rest of your child's life."  Just try to relax and know that you are doing everything you can for your baby.  Also it helps me to remember that my worrying isnt going to help...or change a situation...all it does is wear me out.  I feel my daughter move a lot, which is reassuring but then one day if she moves less, i am worried again.  So trust me, the worrying never goes away.  You get past one milestone and it's on to worrying about the next one.  My first child is 4 so i forgot how incredible it was to be pregnant...so for this one, i am trying to enjoy the ride...knowing that i am giving life and that is pretty darn cool.  Hugs and kisses to you and prayers for a smooth pregnancy.  We are all in this together!!!  

All of this.  And they should be able to hear the heartbeat with the Doppler at each appointment.  That should give you some reassurance.


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12-20-2012 at 12:31 PM
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MelTwe:

Kmape36:
I definitely know how you feel, but i think part of being a mom is constant worry...comes with the territory.  When i was pregnant with my first, i told my mom how worried i was all the time to which she responded "get used to it...as a mom you will worry about something for the rest of your child's life."  Just try to relax and know that you are doing everything you can for your baby.  Also it helps me to remember that my worrying isnt going to help...or change a situation...all it does is wear me out.  I feel my daughter move a lot, which is reassuring but then one day if she moves less, i am worried again.  So trust me, the worrying never goes away.  You get past one milestone and it's on to worrying about the next one.  My first child is 4 so i forgot how incredible it was to be pregnant...so for this one, i am trying to enjoy the ride...knowing that i am giving life and that is pretty darn cool.  Hugs and kisses to you and prayers for a smooth pregnancy.  We are all in this together!!!  

All of this.  And they should be able to hear the heartbeat with the Doppler at each appointment.  That should give you some reassurance.

 

Thank you to you both!  They have been using the doppler as well since 10 weeks.  I bought one for home use, but its not the same.  I hope that once I have the baby I will never have to go 3 weeks without seeing her or knowing she is okay, but we'll see.  Thanks again :)


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12-20-2012 at 12:33 PM
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In a few weeks, you should start feeling some movement. Once I started feeling movement, I felt so much better and much more reassured.

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12-20-2012 at 1:46 PM
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Unless signs show otherwise, your baby is fine. Lots of ultrasounds are unnecessary in low risk pregnancies. Where I live you only get one, maybe 2 or 3 if needed

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12-20-2012 at 2:20 PM
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You could always buy a doppler to use at home...

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      12-20-2012 at 2:33 PM
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      KatieKarasin:
      You could always buy a doppler to use at home...

          This. I had many reasons to be skeptical that I'd get to take this baby home with me. My doppler saved me until I was able to feel movement.




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          12-20-2012 at 3:13 PM
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          Its hard to trust that its ok. I totally get it, I even have a mistep going down stairs and worry. Sounds stupid but it doesn't always take much.  I have been working on telling myself that people have been having babies for thousands of years, our bodies know what they are doing, and are more than capable of handeling it. This seems to help me relize that everything is going to be ok and your right the chance of MC is signifigantly less and your baby is still developing just fine to this point and there is nothing that should change that.  Trust your body.

           
          12-20-2012 at 7:23 PM
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          Like you, I was a worrier. A friend gave me a little mantra to repeat to myself when I was worrying away, "worry is praying for what you don't want to happen". Replace those worry thoughts with a happy healthy vibe of something you can repeat to yourself to calm your fears.

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