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12-20-2012 at 3:42 PM
Darbie914
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This really sucks

DH and I have a beautiful and healthy DD, who just turned 15 months.  My mind and heart have recently just begun thinking about having #2.  DH and I have decided that we only want 2 so we'd like them to be close in age.  Ideally, I would love to get pregnant sometime in early summer of 2013.

The major bummer about all of this is money.  Or lack of it.  We have struggled for about 2 years in low-paying jobs and are finally (and slowly) getting back on our feet.  But we only live in a 1 bedroom apartment and sharing a room with our daughter is starting to be a pain.  We miss having our privacy!  But a bigger apartment means more money and we just don't have it.

Plus, my parents both help watch DD while we work full-time so we don't have to pay for childcare.  I would not feel right asking my parents to take on another child but we can't afford for me to stay home.

Ugh, I just want life to be a little easier financially already!  There is no real question with this post...just a vent.   


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12-21-2012 at 4:43 AM
kiki1978
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I think it's good that you're thinking rationally, but it does stink when you want something really badly and you realize that reality makes it difficult to obtain it.

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12-21-2012 at 5:56 AM
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I'm sorry you're not able to have another right now but it's great that you're thinking rationally.  And doing what's best for your daughter.  She needs to be taken care of and that isn't doable without money, unfortunately.

I wouldn't worry too much about age spacing.  My brothers are 5 and 9 years younger than me and we're all close and get along great.  There are benefits to waiting.  My mom always said the best part of having us so spaced out was getting to spend years with each of us mostly alone because she waited until we were each in school to have another.  Which also gave her more time to devote to the new baby.  It's a different dynamic for sure but it's great.  My DH and his sisters are all really close in age and fought like cats and dogs constantly growing up.

 I hope you can get things in order and get to work on a new LO soon!


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12-21-2012 at 8:43 AM
Darbie914
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Thank you both for your kind words!  We'll just be concentrating on our little family for now and getting things in place.  

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12-22-2012 at 10:37 AM
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You said you're starting to climb up in your income? You never know what break you'll catch by summer.

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12-22-2012 at 10:53 AM
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Being patient is hard, even if you know it's the best thing to do. Focus on achieving the goals you need before you ttc. I find working on smaller, tangible goals helps keep me sane. That said, the is an eight year gap between my girls and our stability was worth waiting for.

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