Hi- I'm new here... Hubby and I just started TTC a few months ago. I couldn't help but smirk reading your post- I wish that my SD9's BM would GO AWAY and not contact us at all for 2 years.
In my case... she's all over the place. Sometimes she whines that she doesn't see SD enough (she has her EOW and most of the summer). Other times she cancels her weekends. She does absolutely zero parenting- nor does she schedule dr appointments, haircuts, soccer practices, etc. She just shows up whenever parents and teachers are there to witness her "dedication." SD reports that she is constantly in trouble when she visits her mom (Last week she cancelled their plans because SD woke her up in the afternoon)... Mom sleeps a lot, puts guilt on SD, grills SD for information, yells at SD for talking to us about her life there. But, like another poster said... the children forget the bad stuff because they don't want to believe that they are unsafe with a bioparent... they focus on the good stuff. God willing, that kind of optimism sticks with them forever:)
I do enjoy the time hubby and I have every other weekend to enjoy our newlywed status. However, I wish evil BM would stop reeking havoc in SD's young life. I guess it's a double edged sword, my friend:)