Yea I saw that post and it was completely unnecessary. Just ignore her because other posters gave you good advice.
if i came off ignorant asking my question thats on me, but i was clear in stating i wasnt planning leaving them as baby risks are my biggest concern, and i stand by my question but asking for opinions thats what happens and its fine! i read that and realized how bitter it looked and made me look at me being angry at stupid things and now Im just having a happy day! baby is moving around and im doing holiday baking and in a good mood, and hope you are enjoying your day too!