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12-21-2012 at 8:13 PM
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Miscarrying back to back?

Hi ladies, after my first pregnancy and miscarriage, I want to know how many of you had a miscarriage more than once, one after another? I can't wait to try again and we are so sad for our loss. I'm also terrified I will miscarry again and again. I know there's no way of knowing if I will, but I want to hope since I already had one that the next will be healthy. Just feeling lost and hopeless :
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12-21-2012 at 8:49 PM
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My OB said a single miscarriage does not increase your chances of another and I've seen the same information online. I believe this is assuming the cause is not due to a medical condition in the mom that would cause difficulty supporting pregnancy.

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12-21-2012 at 11:18 PM
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I think everything you are feeling is completely normal. It's such a scary situation to be in- the desire for a baby but the fear of losing another. I don't think there's a way to honestly answer your question- it depends on the 'why' which most doctors won't try to figure out until you are in that situation of multiple losses. 

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12-22-2012 at 1:55 PM
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babyfox22:
Hi ladies, after my first pregnancy and miscarriage, I want to know how many of you had a miscarriage more than once, one after another? I can't wait to try again and we are so sad for our loss. I'm also terrified I will miscarry again and again. I know there's no way of knowing if I will, but I want to hope since I already had one that the next will be healthy. Just feeling lost and hopeless :

 I feel the same as you.  We only knew we were pregnant for a week before we lost ours, and the excitement we felt after just a week was enough to make us that much more excited to start trying again right away. I want to be pregnant again so bad. :o\ but I am also afraid that it is going to happen again, and I sort of have a fear of getting excited again if/when it happens.

I know every person is different, but there are MANY women who have had very healthy pregnancies following a miscarriage.  Here's hoping we are some of the many!
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12-22-2012 at 2:02 PM
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babyfox22:
Hi ladies, after my first pregnancy and miscarriage, I want to know how many of you had a miscarriage more than once, one after another? I can't wait to try again and we are so sad for our loss. I'm also terrified I will miscarry again and again. I know there's no way of knowing if I will, but I want to hope since I already had one that the next will be healthy. Just feeling lost and hopeless :

 I feel the same as you.  We only knew we were pregnant for a week before we lost ours, and the excitement we felt after just a week was enough to make us that much more excited to start trying again right away. I want to be pregnant again so bad. :o\ but I am also afraid that it is going to happen again, and I sort of have a fear of getting excited again if/when it happens.

I know every person is different, but there are MANY women who have had very healthy pregnancies following a miscarriage.  Here's hoping we are some of the many!

This exactly.

My fear of miscarrying again is big, but it's not as big as my desire to have a healthy pregnancy and baby.

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12-22-2012 at 3:33 PM
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You can't know the future.  For me, it helps to remember that most women who have children have also suffered a miscarriage. 
 
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12-22-2012 at 7:20 PM
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I had a chemical pregnancy, then DS and then two miscarriages after DS.

My OB said that having one miscarriage, or even two doesn't necessarily put you at risk for more. She said at 3 it would be worth doing the repeat loss panel to see if we could get some answers. 
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jszy10:

babyfox22:
Hi ladies, after my first pregnancy and miscarriage, I want to know how many of you had a miscarriage more than once, one after another? I can't wait to try again and we are so sad for our loss. I'm also terrified I will miscarry again and again. I know there's no way of knowing if I will, but I want to hope since I already had one that the next will be healthy. Just feeling lost and hopeless :

 I feel the same as you.  We only knew we were pregnant for a week before we lost ours, and the excitement we felt after just a week was enough to make us that much more excited to start trying again right away. I want to be pregnant again so bad. :o\ but I am also afraid that it is going to happen again, and I sort of have a fear of getting excited again if/when it happens.

I know every person is different, but there are MANY women who have had very healthy pregnancies following a miscarriage.  Here's hoping we are some of the many!

This exactly.

My fear of miscarrying again is big, but it's not as big as my desire to have a healthy pregnancy and baby.

 

Femme, you always say exactly what's on my mind :P  I feel exactly the same way... terrified this will happen again, but motivated to stay positive and keep trying.  

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12-24-2012 at 12:05 AM
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yes, that's me.

happy, healthy, beautiful 2 year old...  then very early natural miscarriage in september, followed by an ectopic pregnancy that was discovered at 8 weeks and removed about 2 weeks ago.

does it suck?  yes.  do i wonder why it happened twice in one season?  yup, totally.  do i let my mind play mean what-if games?  absolutely.

so when i push away all the crap and the scary thoughts, i'm left with this:  i want to be pregnant again.  i want it more than i want to feel safe, and so i journey out into these uncertain TTC waters again, knowing that what has happened is now part of my story...  and i just take a deep breath and go on, feeling scared and hopeful and unsure and focused on my end goal.

i'm so sorry you lost your baby.  i hope your next pregnancy is filled with nothing but joy and health <3 

 
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