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12-22-2012 at 12:29 AM
nonniedee
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pre-baby blues

Ever since last week I've been kinda down in the dumps. The shootings in CT really affected me. They happened the same day as the anniversary of my miscarriage. I've been having dead baby dreams, and I put myself on a news ban. I haven't known the weather this whole week,  b/c I'm afraid to see another picture of one of those precious kids. I think I'm okay, but I just needed to say how I was feeling. TIA for listening.

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12-22-2012 at 1:44 AM
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I had severe depression and anxiety develop during my pregnancy with my DD. at 28 weeks I broke down to my doc and said help me. She put me on meds and I was fine. I didn't even need them postpartum. If this is an issue please talk to your doctor. There are safe drugs and sometimes the hormones really change the chemistry. My doc said I essentially had postpartum depression without being postpartum. Don't let this keep you from being the best you. I got my life back when I got the depression and anxiety under control. Good luck. 

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12-22-2012 at 2:17 AM
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I'm sorry :(  It's tough to see that stuff, especially when you're pregnant.

When I was pregnant I started crying every single time I put the news on.  It was all so depressing.  Then when DS came I kept crying because all of a sudden everyone on the news was someone's baby.  I still cant' watch. I make DH tell me if something I need to know happens.


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12-22-2012 at 7:25 AM
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I am so sorry for your loss and what you are going through.  If you feel it is severe, maybe talk to your doctor about it and see if there is something they can give you.

I've tried to avoid the news as well, but I volunteer in an elementary school so, as you can imagine, its been a topic of discussion and we've had to review our "code red" drills with the kids.  Not fun at all.  


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12-22-2012 at 7:41 AM
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Sorry you are going through this. Have you considered seeing a counselor or therapist? I used to have some anxiety issues and this really helped me.
 
12-22-2012 at 7:43 AM
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It's so difficult for anyone to go through depression, but if you are pregnant, you most definitely need to talk to your doctor. 

As for the news-- I haven't regularly watched the news for 8 or 9 years now. It's just too depressing. I figure that if it is something really important, people will tell me about it. I hate watching it, and I always get sad when I do.  


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12-22-2012 at 9:39 AM
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I've dealt with depression in the past, and I've contemplated asking for meds. I just have a fear of dependency. What helped me get out of it is talking. I tried journals, but that is still too much in my head. I need people to bounce off of. I do feel better now, and I know my triggers. It was just feeling the weight of death that those poor parents must feel. It is too much for me to bear. I lost one child. They lost a community worthy of living breathing children; they lost people they knew well and had time to love dearly . Those babies were so beautiful and innocent. I just kept thinking about how hard it is to be pregnant, and what a miracle it is to bring a child into the world. Just for a maniac to take them away from you. It's the age of the kids that's really getting me; this was just senseless.

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12-22-2012 at 10:56 AM
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nonniedee:
I've dealt with depression in the past, and I've contemplated asking for meds. I just have a fear of dependency. What helped me get out of it is talking. I tried journals, but that is still too much in my head. I need people to bounce off of. I do feel better now, and I know my triggers. It was just feeling the weight of death that those poor parents must feel. It is too much for me to bear. I lost one child. They lost a community worthy of living breathing children; they lost people they knew well and had time to love dearly . Those babies were so beautiful and innocent. I just kept thinking about how hard it is to be pregnant, and what a miracle it is to bring a child into the world. Just for a maniac to take them away from you. It's the age of the kids that's really getting me; this was just senseless.

that has been really hard for me too. 

 


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12-22-2012 at 11:24 AM
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I would second whoever suggested seeing a therapist. I have been surprised with some things in pregnancy that have been harder than expected (body image issues, feelings of isolation, fear of labor/birth). I have found a wonderful therapist who provides that listening ear that I need. While I do have many many supportive people in my life (husband, sister, mother, coworkers, friends...) there is something so safe about a neutral person who won't judge and who can provide constructive support. One of the most helpful things she offered was when she allowed me to express that pregnancy can be and is hard. So often our culture only glamorizes pregnancy as a time of 100% amazement and awe. But there are parts that are hard.

Good luck and hang in there.

 

 
12-22-2012 at 12:37 PM
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SCBride2007:

It's so difficult for anyone to go through depression, but if you are pregnant, you most definitely need to talk to your doctor. 

As for the news-- I haven't regularly watched the news for 8 or 9 years now. It's just too depressing. I figure that if it is something really important, people will tell me about it. I hate watching it, and I always get sad when I do.  

 

I just wanted to say you brightened up my day. Seeing that your child was named Norah ( that's my top name if it's a girl) do you know what it means? If not I'll tell you. In Arabic it means light IdeaBig Smile


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12-22-2012 at 3:53 PM
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No wonder you have been upset.  To have such a tragedy occur on a day of loss for you must have been so hard.  I'm so sorry.  I have suffered from depression too, but luckily have been okay while I'm pregnant, without taking any medications.  However, I still go and see a doctor every few months, just in case.  I've been told that people with a history of depression have a greater chance of getting pp depression.  Just something to watch out for.  Hope you feel better. 
 
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