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12-22-2012 at 9:25 PM
knmiller18
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just a little venting

it's been a rough day, I just need to vent! I spent the whole day with my in laws, my baby was passed around the entire time I only got to hold her when I was nursing and everyone with kissing her! How do you tell your in laws to back off and not kiss your baby?I feel like the whole day I was holding back tears, trying to stay calm. So, after a very emotionally draining day my husband decided to go back into work and now I am home by myself and I just feel so alone. He's self employed and he works so much, I feel like I'm always alone. so many times I look at my friends and their husbands, and I get so jealous because they spend so much time together and their husbands are home with them. I pray everyday that one of these times he'll come to the realization that he needs to spend more time with me and our baby.
 
12-22-2012 at 9:39 PM
amroke
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knmiller18:
I pray everyday that one of these times he'll come to the realization that he needs to spend more time with me and our baby.

 

Do you ever tall.to him about this and tell him how you feel?  And can you ask himhim to talk to your in-laws since they're his family ?


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12-22-2012 at 10:46 PM
jennygirlm...
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I don't get the inlaw issue, I want them to kiss and live my baby. Though I don't like overstimulation by passing to 15 different people. So I guess it depends on whether you mean a few ppl or 15. I also adore my inland and they adore my girls.

And DH works a lot too. It is frustrating and I tell him, then he tries to spend a bit more time with us. Men don't always get it, so if you haven't said the exact words "I feel alone and would like you to spend more time with me and LO" then he might not know. DH was barely around lmdd1 bc he had just been promoted and was learning the job and between that and me SAH and nursing, dd wanted nothing to do with him the first year. So he needs to out the time in, he just might need to gently be told.

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12-23-2012 at 8:25 AM
MrsMuq
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It's not that your husband doesn't want to spend time with you, but a) he's probably just as overwhelmed as you are at being a new parent, but b) he's trying to do right by your family and take care of the finances so you don't have to.

However, if you're that upset, you need to voice your concerns to him - either you feel alone, you don't feel he has as much time as you'd like with LO, etc., but don't just whine to him about it - offer some solutions.

And I'd highly advise you join a local mommy & me group or new mom's group so you can get out of the house with LO, and spend some time with other new moms. My new mom's group was my saving grace the first 3 months after DS was born...


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