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12-23-2012 at 2:47 PM
pevila
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Would you say something? (Car seat related)

And if you would, how would you word it? My BIL and SIL came to visit Sophia for her birthday today (happy birthday, Sophia!), and when they got out of the car I saw that her 7 month old was FF, and in a very old car seat. When he was a newborn she had him in an infant car seat in the passenger seat, but I didn't say anything because I thought that maybe she had switched off the airbag (still bad, but slightly better). We have very different parenting styles, but this is dangerous. They drive one of the biggest SUVs in the market, so at least he's in a safe car, but they have a TON of money, they can afford a safer car seat! And the FF thing also drove me nuts. They left hours ago and now I don't know if I should have said something. WWSAHMsD? Oh, I should add that I don't think there are any car seat laws in Peru.

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12-23-2012 at 2:54 PM
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Can you send her some information in an email and say something like, "I was so surprised to learn how dangerous some car seats are and how important it is to follow guidelines. I wasn't sure if you were aware of not but I figured it wouldn't hurt to pass this along. I was so glad I read it."

I'd rather tick her off a little than never say anything and regret it later.

My sister and my mom friends send each other articles about safety and recalls all the time.


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12-23-2012 at 2:58 PM
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Are you and she on FB? If so, maybe share a link on there about the dangers of FF too early (a big SUV will do absolutely nothing for a child who is prematurely FF) and tag her and a few mom friends and say you just heard this and thought it was useful information for all moms. Otherwise I'd send an email with the same thing (don't single her out, act like you feel it's useful for all parents.... because it really is). If she doesn't change her daughter back there's nothing more you can do, especially since Peru doesn't have laws, but at least that would inform her.

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12-23-2012 at 3:04 PM
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IDK, with what you were saying about cost of car seats where you are I would also think about their financial situation.  You could mention in passing about the importance of RF and see what they say?  that is a tough one 


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12-23-2012 at 3:05 PM
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I love the FB idea! And I will do the email thing, but send it to many people at the same time. I just remembered that I'm seeing her tomorrow, and I'm going to tell her that I'm buying a new car seat, but I don't know which one to get because I want her RFing as long as possible... Maybe between that and a FB article (i hope I can find one in Spanish) she'll take a hint... I'm bad at direct confrontation.

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12-23-2012 at 3:06 PM
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I agree with PP's. Maybe she just doesn't know. Do you have a good relationship with her? Does she seem generally safety conscious? I would say something to her. I post stuff on my facebook every couple of weeks or so. Where I live most people don't know about the dangers of FF. I know I wouldn't if it weren't for TB. Here are a few links that have crash test videos in them.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y2DVfqFhseo

 
http://www.becoming-mom.net/2010/04/19/rear-facing-carseat-video-must-watch/


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12-23-2012 at 3:07 PM
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cjcouple:

IDK, with what you were saying about cost of car seats where you are I would also think about their financial situation.  You could mention in passing about the importance of RF and see what they say?  that is a tough one 

They have a TON of money.

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12-23-2012 at 3:08 PM
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LatteLady5:

I agree with PP's. Maybe she just doesn't know. Do you have a good relationship with her? Does she seem generally safety conscious? I would say something to her. I post stuff on my facebook every couple of weeks or so. Where I live most people don't know about the dangers of FF. I know I wouldn't if it weren't for TB. Here are a few links that have crash test videos in them.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y2DVfqFhseo

 
http://www.becoming-mom.net/2010/04/19/rear-facing-carseat-video-must-watch/

I'll post them right now with an explanation is Spanish :) thanks!

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12-23-2012 at 4:23 PM
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I would say something like PP suggested: "Oh, LO is FF already?  I was going to do that too, but I read a few reports online about how dangerous FF is for children under 1 year and 20 lbs.  And they actually recommend RF until age 2 in the US.  Would you like me to find the article for you?"  Ultimately, you cannot control her parenting decisions, but hopefully if she saw the research she'd make the safer choice.

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12-23-2012 at 11:05 PM
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penguingrrl:
Are you and she on FB? If so, maybe share a link on there about the dangers of FF too early (a big SUV will do absolutely nothing for a child who is prematurely FF) and tag her and a few mom friends and say you just heard this and thought it was useful information for all moms. Otherwise I'd send an email with the same thing (don't single her out, act like you feel it's useful for all parents.... because it really is). If she doesn't change her daughter back there's nothing more you can do, especially since Peru doesn't have laws, but at least that would inform her.

I'm very big on carseat safety, so I would most definitely say something.  I don't know what your relationship with her is like, but if you don't feel comfortable saying something to her directly, I'd go this route.  I hope she listens to you and turns that baby around.  Scary.



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12-24-2012 at 6:32 AM
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Thank you for your comments! I'm going to start a casual conversation with her tonight. I just can't imagine not saying something and then something happening to my nephew.

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12-24-2012 at 6:34 AM
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CabbageCabbage:

Can you send her some information in an email and say something like, "I was so surprised to learn how dangerous some car seats are and how important it is to follow guidelines. I wasn't sure if you were aware of not but I figured it wouldn't hurt to pass this along. I was so glad I read it."

I'd rather tick her off a little than never say anything and regret it later.

My sister and my mom friends send each other articles about safety and recalls all the time.

This.  

 
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