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12-24-2012 at 2:21 PM
rlajambe
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I've come to a decision...

The last few months I have seemed to adopt a victim mentality...an internal monologue of "poor me".  Not caring that my weight is climbing, becoming less active and slowly sliding into a depression.

So, I have come to a decision.  I will take charge in my life eating healthier, exercising, taking charge of our finances and generally staying out of the victim mentality.

While I'm not one for NY resolutions, the timing seems perfect.  2013 will be better because I will make it better.

So...who's with me? 
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12-24-2012 at 2:26 PM
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DH and me! We're calling it a "lifestyle change" instead of a New Year's resolution. We need to keep a close eye on finances [to manage RPL testing and potential IVF], and we both want to exercise more and eat healthier. So we're in!!
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12-24-2012 at 2:27 PM
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I'm in on the weight and making healthier decisions. I'm comfortable with our finances, but I can make a goal to save for our rainbow :) - along with all the house projects I want to do. 
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12-24-2012 at 2:31 PM
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Me!  DH and I are committing to being more healthy in the NY.  Eating better, working out, I'm starting counseling as well.  We are also trying to budget better.   
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12-24-2012 at 2:31 PM
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I'm actually taking much the same approach you are to 2013. My weight has shot through the roof, my eating has been crap, and my habits have led me to be rather lazy and unproductive.

I decided I am going to start putting together a home management binder and I hope to start working out again Thursday (I work 12 hours tomorrow and have to be back bright and early for another 10 on Wed). I'm committing myself to live a life that is more fulfilling and active that what I'm doing now. I'm totally with you on this!!
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BFP #1 - March 2011, missed m/c April 2011
BFP #2 - October 2011, m/c November 2011
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BFP #4 - June 2012. m/c July 2012
Diagnosed with a bicorunate ute and MTHFR mutation.
BFP #5 - October 2012 - missed m/c November 2012
BFP #6 - January 2013. miscarriage March 2013.
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12-24-2012 at 2:35 PM
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rlajambe:

The last few months I have seemed to adopt a victim mentality...an internal monologue of "poor me".  Not caring that my weight is climbing, becoming less active and slowly sliding into a depression.

So, I have come to a decision.  I will take charge in my life eating healthier, exercising, taking charge of our finances and generally staying out of the victim mentality.

While I'm not one for NY resolutions, the timing seems perfect.  2013 will be better because I will make it better.

So...who's with me? 

Me!  DH and I definitely need to start eating healthier and we need to start watching our finances better.  We were doing well until we lost Noel and did some "retail therapy."  We need to start saving more for when we do get  pregnant again.   
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12-24-2012 at 2:36 PM
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Good for you, rlajambe!  I've been telling myself I need to do this for a long time, and haven't been able to find the motivation yet.  A coworker of mine invited me to join her as a guest at her step class two mornings a week, so I might take that as a small first step after the break. 
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12-24-2012 at 2:39 PM
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We're in! H and I have been working out more and seriously trying to lose the pounds we've both been putting on lately. We've also been eating a lot better, mostly at home instead of goin out. There are very few health related things we actually have control over, and our weight and physical health are two of them. So we're trying for the best!
BFP #1 - Mango - 6/11/12, EDD 2/22/12 Natural MC 7/15/12
BFP #2 - Nacho - 10/14/12, EDD 6/20/13, MMC 8 weeks, D&C 11/16/12
All testing shows both H and I are perfectly normal. Baby Nacho had triploidy.
Back to normal business December 2012
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12-24-2012 at 3:06 PM
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We made this decision in September (to prep for our February IVF), and I'm SO glad we did.  I've dropped 15 lbs and we both just feel a hell of a lot better all the time. More energy, better sleep, and my skin is better. 

You can do it!!  And it'll be so worth it.  <3



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12-24-2012 at 3:16 PM
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I'm doing the NY lifestyle change too! We said six months before the wedding and the timing hits perfectly. No more fast food everyday or drinking except on weekends or smoking when I drink [dont judge me I've been very unhealthy since the mc]. Yay for health!
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12-24-2012 at 3:39 PM
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I am in for sure!
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12-24-2012 at 3:44 PM
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Im in!! I have fallen into a cycle of very negative/poor me thinking and have packed on the pounds too. Lets do this! I need a change.

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Lost my beautiful mom to Ovarian Cancer on 01/04/2012
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12-24-2012 at 3:46 PM
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Good for you!  Our main goal is to improve our finances this year.  We're trying to sell and move to KC.  I've also told myself I'm starting C25K.  I'm tired of my pants not fitting, and DH has been working out almost daily since November.  
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12-24-2012 at 4:02 PM
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rlajambe:

The last few months I have seemed to adopt a victim mentality...an internal monologue of "poor me".  Not caring that my weight is climbing, becoming less active and slowly sliding into a depression.

So, I have come to a decision.  I will take charge in my life eating healthier, exercising, taking charge of our finances and generally staying out of the victim mentality.

While I'm not one for NY resolutions, the timing seems perfect.  2013 will be better because I will make it better.

So...who's with me? 

 

All of this.

2013 -is- going to be better.  
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12-24-2012 at 4:02 PM
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Thanks for the supprt ladies, I'm really excited about looking forward.

As there seems to alot of us and NY resolutions/ lifestyle changes don't usually work unless you're accountable to someone, how about we are accountable to each other?

It could be the "Better life in 2013" check-in.  It can be an open check-in about how you're taking charge of your life.  Where we could encourage each other and ask for help during the rough patches.  You can talk about any of the things you are doing to bring more positivity into your life.

Thoughts? 
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BFP #3 - 02/07/13, EDD 10/06/13
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12-24-2012 at 4:21 PM
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I'm in, I still have 6 pounds of Bradley weight to lose and the goal is to have it gone by my BFP. I've been trying to be eat healthier and work out more, and will def need encouragement to continue (it's only been two months and I'm already sliding...)!

I'm all for having a check-in, I just hope none of us are around to participate :) 
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12-24-2012 at 5:36 PM
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starburst0928:

I'm all for having a check-in, I just hope none of us are around to participate :) 

^^^ Love this! I think it's a great idea! Here's to 2013...our best year yet! 
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12-24-2012 at 5:45 PM
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starburst0928:

I'm all for having a check-in, I just hopei none of us are around to participate :) 

^^^ Love this! I think it's a great idea! Here's to 2013...our best year yet! 

Yes

I have slid into some shittyy eating habits since losing Noah...its like I just don't care. I probably haven't gained much, but a few pounds. I just need a better outlook...I'm with you.
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12-24-2012 at 6:01 PM
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12-24-2012 at 8:24 PM
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I am in for lifestyle changes! I want to make sure I am as healthy as possible for my next pregnancy to avoid another late term loss. I was pretty healthy to begin with but have let it slip the last three months so I could stand to get rid of another 15 lbs. I want to be the best that I can be for my rainbow which I am praying for all of us to get in the new year!
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12-24-2012 at 9:27 PM
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I was just thinking the same thing! I've probably gained 5 lbs in the last 2 weeks (all in my stomach too. thats just what I need, a reason for someone to ask if I'm KU) After my surgery I plan on getting out & about more, not sitting on the couch as much & eating better.

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12-25-2012 at 8:43 AM
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Totally agree :) And I like Rosie's idea about a lifestyle change instead of a NY resolution :) 
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