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12-24-2012 at 6:40 PM
T3hKay
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Where to go from here....

Last night I found out that my baby did not have a heart beat after some brown discharge and mild bleeding. 3 different U/S confirmed that there was no HB. I am devastated and an emotional mess. I was at the ER for a good 4 hours...went in by myself since DH was at work...I told him not to worry about leaving yet....I have to contact my OB for the next step...not sure what it will be.

 

Merry Christmas to you all. 


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12-24-2012 at 9:50 PM
meladories...
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I'm so sorry! I remember you from the July board and I hate to see a familiar face :

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12-24-2012 at 10:05 PM
snegde
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I too remember you from the July board. I'm sorry this is happening. There is nothing merry about it. Praying for strength for you over the next few days and weeks.



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12-24-2012 at 11:39 PM
Avion22
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I'm so sorry for your loss.  I had a similar experience -- first u/s, no heartbeat.  We were (and still are) devastated.

It's likely that your OB will offer you a few different options:

First, you may elect to wait to let your body process the miscarriage naturally.  This could take a few days or weeks, and you really have no control over when/where this happens.  Many people  prefer this option as it is the most natural and usually carries less risk.   However, it can be a physically painful process, and because you may have to wait a while, it can take some time to get the closure you may need.  And, if your body doesn't pass everything naturally, you may still need one of the other options.

 Second, your doctor may offer you medication to expedite the miscarriage.  You take this at home, and within a few hours you will start to bleed, cramp, and pass clots and tissue.  From what ladies have posted on here, this can be quite painful, but usually is over pretty quickly.  You have more control over where/when (you can make sure you are at home and take the medication at a time that is convenient to you), but some people still don't pass everything even with medication.

Third, your doctor may offer you a minor surgical procedure called a D&C or D&E. This is usually done under heavy sedation or general anesthesia, but usually takes only about 20-30 minutes.  It carries the risk of any surgery, but for most people is the most physically painless option.  Again, you have control over where/when it happens, but obviously you are in a hospital or outpatient facility, and not at home (though most people are discharged within an hour or so of the procedure).   

Our doctor was able to get me in for a D&C on the same day as the u/s that confirmed our loss.  She told us that this was our best bet of being able to start trying again soonest (most docs say to wait 1-3 cycles -- ours told us 1).  I think it was the right decision for us, and I don't regret it.    

Whatever options you are given, and whatever you end up choosing, most of us agree that the emotional pain is harder to deal with than the physical pain.  Personally, this is one of the most difficult things I've ever been through.  Please give yourself time to grieve and heal emotionally.  We are all here to help in any way that we can.


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12-25-2012 at 10:18 AM
annatta79
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I'm so sorry you are here, especially at this time of year. T&P to you.
12-25-2012 at 8:57 PM
blue_elle
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I'm so sorry for your loss and that you went through this without anyone there with you. PP already gave some info on your likely options. There's women here that have gone through any one of them, so feel free to ask questions. You've probably got a little time to weigh your options and do what is best for you. 

Wishing you peace 



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12-25-2012 at 10:51 PM
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I'm sorry you're going through this. I remember you from July as well.

Merry Christmas...I know it's tough. :(


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12-26-2012 at 11:27 AM
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I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Praying for you. 

 
12-26-2012 at 5:19 PM
T3hKay
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I went into the Dr today and they did an in office D&C. it was quick, but it hurt.

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12-26-2012 at 7:20 PM
spasticfan...
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we are total strangers, and yet i find myself mentally imagining i'm giving you a huge comforting hug.  nothing anyone can say will make this even a tiny bit better, and i hate that this happened to you.

i'm so sorry... about your profound loss, about the horrible timing of it all, and about your feelings of uncertainty about what lies ahead.

much love and peace as you take this one day at a time <3 



 
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