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12-24-2012 at 7:34 PM
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So my MIL got Ds this bright stars light up thing for Christmas. I told her jokingly but serious if they were going to get DS noisy stuff they must provide the batteries if they are not provided and if they buy him anything that needs assembly, they must assemble it. :

What rules have you made for holidays birthdays.

This rule will be expressed heavily tomorrow at my parents house.
 
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12-24-2012 at 8:00 PM
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I have many "rules" in my head, and I even wrote them up in an email once... but DH wouldn't approve it and I probably would never have had the confidence enough to send it. While I am a vocal parent with no issues speaking up for what I think is best for my child with things that effect her well being... I can't seem to gather whatever is needed to say: no pink, nothing "girlie," nothing big, nothing that makes noise, nothing that needs to be plugged in, nothing that needs batteries. We're boring, we'd pretty much just like books.
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12-24-2012 at 8:25 PM
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I love my ILs, but they were under the impression that Santa would drop gifts off for E at there house as well. They go way overboard for Christmas and while I can't tell them to cut it back I put my my foot down that Santa only comes to our house.

I mean, why would Santa leave 4 or 5 gifts at our house and then 15 at one of E's grandparents house? Lol...
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12-24-2012 at 8:30 PM
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We don't have any rules since neither of our parents live within driving distance. Just wish they were here for Christmas. When DH's family does get
here Thursday the rule is keep it down after LO goes to bed and no one who's drinking gets to hold LO.
 
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12-24-2012 at 8:47 PM
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Our families live hours away, so our 'rule' is that as long as her health and safety are not being harmed grand parents will have free reign.
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12-24-2012 at 9:12 PM
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I have many "rules" in my head, and I even wrote them up in an email once... but DH wouldn't approve it and I probably would never have had thenbsp;confidencenbsp;enough to send it. While I am a vocal parent with no issues speaking up for what I think is best for my child with things that effect her well being... I can't seem to gather whatever is needed to say: no pink, nothing "girlie," nothing big, nothing that makes noise, nothing that needs to be plugged in, nothing that needs batteries. We're boring, we'd pretty much just like books.
where's the fun?
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12-24-2012 at 9:18 PM
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cbrookegrow:
I love my ILs, but they were under the impression that Santa would drop gifts off for E at there house as well. They go way overboard for Christmas and while I can't tell them to cut it back I put my my foot down that Santa only comes to our house. I mean, why would Santa leave 4 or 5 gifts at our house and then 15 at one of E's grandparents house? Lol...

We had to tell my in laws the same thing. That was my one big rule. Santa only comes to the house the kid is at and the presents are only for Christmas morning. (we tend to do Christmas with them on new year's eve)
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12-24-2012 at 9:41 PM
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I love my ILs, but they were under the impression that Santa would drop gifts off for E at there house as well. They go way overboard for Christmas and while I can't tell them to cut it back I put my my foot down that Santa only comes to our house.

I mean, why would Santa leave 4 or 5 gifts at our house and then 15 at one of E's grandparents house? Lol...

We had to tell my in laws the same thing. That was my one big rule. Santa only comes to the house the kid is at and the presents are only for Christmas morning. (we tend to do Christmas with them on new year's eve)



We go over to my in laws every Christmas afternoon and I don't mind that or that they want to spoil him; but I just feel like Santa is for the parents to do. Also, my DH had to tell them to coordinate gifts with us in the future as this year they bought some gifts we had planned on getting him ourselves.
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12-24-2012 at 10:12 PM
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Nah, we don't have rules. We don't see family very often so we are just thankful for whatever time and/or gifts we get for the little guy.
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12-24-2012 at 11:02 PM
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the santa thing.... only our house, only christmas morning. if they want to get her something from santa they can give it to usbefore and well wrap it.

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12-25-2012 at 12:35 AM
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I never even thought of the Santa thing being at our house only. I will have to see what my parents and FIL & SMIL did....my mother probably crossed the line of Santa showing at there house too.

I totally understand the being with family is important.

Just when I was little and I rec'd stuff from Santa...it seemed he always forgot the batteries...LOL...so my rules are more of a "good hearted" rule. Guess our families should buy stock in the battery industry. 

 
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12-25-2012 at 1:36 AM
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I prefer nonelectronic toys, but my inlaws missed that memo. It's like they aim to find the most obnoxious noise making things ever. What did I do wrong?
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12-25-2012 at 4:04 AM
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No rules about gifts. If someone wants to give my kids a gift, they can give them what they want.
My rule for our house is plastic stays upstairs in the playroom.
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12-25-2012 at 6:53 AM
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L8kissie:
I prefer nonelectronic toys, but my inlaws missed that memo. It's like they aim to find the most obnoxious noise making things ever. What did I do wrong?

This! Mil bought ds a drum toy. We left it at their house :) 
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12-25-2012 at 10:26 AM
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For mobile: Christmas rules So my MIL got Ds this bright stars light up thing for Christmas. I told her jokingly but serious if they were going to get DS noisy stuff they must provide the batteries if they are not provided and if they buy him anything that needs assembly, they must assemble it. : What rules have you made for holidays birthdays. This rule will be expressed heavily tomorrow at my parents house.

This is just common courtesy!

My MIL asked last night if she should use different paper from Santa next year. I told her only we were Santa and her gifts were from her not Santa. For some reason it really bothers me that she gives stuff from Santa. 
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12-25-2012 at 12:31 PM
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We had to explain to my ILs that the "main" Christmas (the most gifts, the Santa gifts) come from us. For some reason my ILs believe LO needs another whole Christmas morning experience at their house. And next year we also requested they talk to us about coordinating gifts because they basically bought 15 toys, one in each category. Which didn't leave much for us or my parents. And did I mention they did all the Christmas shopping in October!! I think it was so they'd have everything 'first'. Well Christmas (and birthdays) will be very different in the future!
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12-25-2012 at 3:28 PM
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hmpmrj:
No rules about gifts. If someone wants to give my kids a gift, they can give them what they want.
My rule for our house is plastic stays upstairs in the playroom.


This, except we don't have a playroom.

Honestly, if someone is giving my kids a gift, it's up to them what it is. Of course I like it when people ask for my input and get them wooden, kidpowered imaginative toys. However, I'd be extremely ungrateful to turn my nose up at the plastic, light up ridiculousness that my eccentric, almost 90 year old great aunt [who is on an extremely limited income] gets for them. Sure, I roll my eyes, but she loves them and bought them a gift. We say thank you and appreciate the thought.

It also helps that sometimes DH "can't" get toys out of the package for DD1 to play with at the moment, and later we can exchange them. ;]
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12-25-2012 at 3:53 PM
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cheeseandrice you all make me kind of sick.

If someone is generous enough to gift us/ Lo something with their money, we will be grateful. If someone asks, we'll gladly provide a list. And I sureasshit will teach Lo to say thank you as well.

I'm not saying there aren't items that will end up being donated, but good grief. I can't even imagine dictating to my family what they can and can't spend their money on. 

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12-25-2012 at 5:32 PM
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cheeseandrice you all make me kind of sick.If someone is generous enough to gift us/ Lo something with their money, we will be grateful. If someone asks, we'll gladly provide a list. And I sureasshit will teach Lo to say thank you as well.I'm not saying there aren't items that will end up being donated, but good grief. I can't even imagine dictating to my family what they can and can't spend their money on.nbsp;


This. Even though we have family in town that we see all the time, it doesn't matter what they want to buy LO. Gifts are an expression of love and should be appreciated. My only rule is that all gifts must be received gracefully and thankfully.
 
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cheeseandrice you all make me kind of sick.

If someone is generous enough to gift us/ Lo something with their money, we will be grateful. If someone asks, we'll gladly provide a list. And I sureasshit will teach Lo to say thank you as well.

I'm not saying there aren't items that will end up being donated, but good grief. I can't even imagine dictating to my family what they can and can't spend their money on. 

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StephJ:
cheeseandrice you all make me kind of sick.If someone is generous enough to gift us/ Lo something with their money, we will be grateful. If someone asks, we'll gladly provide a list. And I sureasshit will teach Lo to say thank you as well.I'm not saying there aren't items that will end up being donated, but good grief. I can't even imagine dictating to my family what they can and can't spend their money on.nbsp;
This. Even though we have family in town that we see all the time, it doesn't matter what they want to buy LO. Gifts are an expression of love and should be appreciated. My only rule is that all gifts must be received gracefully and thankfully.
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12-25-2012 at 7:41 PM
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This whole thread creeps me out. Why compete with them? What would be the negative impact of Santa leaving gifts in many locations for the same kid? Or or grandparents to give more toys than parents? Or getting a Christmas present on a day other than Dec 25?

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This whole thread creeps me out. Why compete with them? What would be the negative impact of Santa leaving gifts in many locations for the same kid? Or or grandparents to give more toys than parents? Or getting a Christmas present on a day other than Dec 25?

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I have many "rules" in my head, and I even wrote them up in an email once... but DH wouldn't approve it and I probably would never have had thenbsp;confidencenbsp;enough to send it. While I am a vocal parent with no issues speaking up for what I think is best for my child with things that effect her well being... I can't seem to gather whatever is needed to say: no pink, nothing "girlie," nothing big, nothing that makes noise, nothing that needs to be plugged in, nothing that needs batteries. We're boring, we'd pretty much just like books.
where's the fun?

 

I said we are boring. ;)

And I also tried to explain that I wrote it up because I write down most of what I think as a way of processing; but we have better sense than to actually share these preferences unless we are asked. And when we are asked I first inquire as to what they were considering and then may make a reccomendation of something similar or in line with what they were already thinking, gift wise. And most certainly she will learn to receive any gift as she gets older with grace, courtesy and gratitude, just as her dad and I did.  
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StephJ:
cheeseandrice you all make me kind of sick.If someone is generous enough to gift us/ Lo something with their money, we will be grateful. If someone asks, we'll gladly provide a list. And I sureasshit will teach Lo to say thank you as well.I'm not saying there aren't items that will end up being donated, but good grief. I can't even imagine dictating to my family what they can and can't spend their money on.nbsp;


This. Even though we have family in town that we see all the time, it doesn't matter what they want to buy LO. Gifts are an expression of love and should be appreciated. My only rule is that all gifts must be received gracefully and thankfully.
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All of this. Especially the gracious and thankfulness part. I don't understand how making rules when people give gifts is less rude than a person who says "I didn't want xyz. Yuck!" when they receive a gift. I'm pretty sure most of us teach our kids to be thankful no matter what the circumstance. We should practice what we preach.
 
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I'm kind of baffled by the idea of setting rules for the gifts others give to my children. It's always nice when they ask me for input, and yeah, batteries are great, but come on? To tell them what to do when it comes to their generosity? 

I absolutely do not want my daughter to have Bratz dolls or clothing that's too mature for her age, but my family seems to realize this is all common sense. I've never had to set rules to curb taste.
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