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12-25-2012 at 5:37 PM
Luckie519
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My feelings are hurt....

I had everyone over at my house on Sunday for our Christmas Eve (I posted yesterday about it - it was a success).  I really put a lot of time, effort, and money into the evening.  It was really important to me, since I lost both my grandmother and father this past year or so.  Everyone was invited and showed up, minus my BIL's fiance (long story and I really don't care).

Anyways, I asked my MIL and FIL several times what the plan was for today and was told they did not know the times yet.  I had to work Christmas Eve at 6pm, until Christmas Day at 6am.  Then I had to be back at work at 6pm tonight, until 6 am tomorrow.  So, needless to say, I slept when I got home, thinking they would wake me or have called me last night to let me know the plans, but they did not. 

I woke up this afternoon and DH and DS were not home.  I texted DH, he said he was at MIL and FIL and they had just eaten.  Maybe it's the combination of being a little blue for my dad and grandmother not being around, but my feelings are hurt that I was not told the time.  It wasn't for lack of me trying to get the plan.  DH said he almost came and woke me up.  Regardless, I just feel like I was left out, when I tried so hard to include everyone on Sunday.

I am sure I will be over it in a few days, but for now, I am pretty upset.  Hope everyone had a nice Christmas and Santa was good to you!


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12-25-2012 at 5:42 PM
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Your husband went and had Christmas dinner without you without even asking you if you wanted to go?? That's messed up. I'm really sorry. :(
12-25-2012 at 5:49 PM
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SarahL77:
Your husband went and had Christmas dinner without you without even asking you if you wanted to go?? That's messed up. I'm really sorry. :(

Yes.  He says my FIL said he told me the plans, so that is why he did not wake me up, but FIL did not.  It was probably just a mix up, but still....


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12-25-2012 at 5:58 PM
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That is just AWFUL! I would be so incredibly pissed off, after the hurt wore off, at least. Even if it was understood that someone had told you what time everyone was getting together, why on earth didn't they check on you when you weren't there? Lumps of coal, dammit!

And wow, you better get next year off- that is a load of work for Christmas. Unless you're an elf or something. :)

Merry Christmas from me- I'm so sorry!

 
12-25-2012 at 6:05 PM
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SarahL77:
Your husband went and had Christmas dinner without you without even asking you if you wanted to go?? That's messed up. I'm really sorry. :


This. I am so mad for you. What kind of jerk leaves his wife behind on Christmas.

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12-25-2012 at 6:15 PM
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That's pretty shitty. I'm sorry.

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12-25-2012 at 6:26 PM
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cmeon_the_water:

That is just AWFUL! I would be so incredibly pissed off, after the hurt wore off, at least. Even if it was understood that someone had told you what time everyone was getting together, why on earth didn't they check on you when you weren't there? Lumps of coal, dammit!

And wow, you better get next year off- that is a load of work for Christmas. Unless you're an elf or something. :)

Merry Christmas from me- I'm so sorry!

I work in law enforcement and have the same rotation.  If I am still on the same shift next year, I will work nights on Christmas Eve and have Christmas Day.  Here's hoping I am off!  I think next year will be fun for DS!


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12-25-2012 at 6:44 PM
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I'm so sorry - that sucks!  I would be feeling the same way if I were in your position.

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12-25-2012 at 6:50 PM
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Livid wouldn't even compare to how angry I would be if this situation happened to me. I'm so sorry.

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12-25-2012 at 6:56 PM
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Loppy19:
Livid wouldn't even compare to how angry I would be if this situation happened to me. I'm so sorry.

Agreed...this totally sucks and I don't really think there's a way it could be made up to you.  Sorry Sad


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12-25-2012 at 7:14 PM
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Loppy19:
Livid wouldn't even compare to how angry I would be if this situation happened to me. I'm so sorry.

Agreed...this totally sucks and I don't really think there's a way it could be made up to you.  Sorry Sad



I am so sorry. Your DH should have asked, even if he thought you knew the plan. I can't believe he left without you and that you weren't told the plans.

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12-25-2012 at 7:25 PM
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Aww. That's so shittty. I hope it was a genuine mixup but I would be upset too. 


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12-25-2012 at 10:17 PM
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Aww I'm sorry : My feelings would have been hurt too. Even if he thought you were told, he could have tried to see if you said "yes or no" to going or something. Looks like it was just a bad mix up in communication, but still hurtful.

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12-26-2012 at 6:06 AM
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I would be hurt too. I doubt anyone did this on purpose. I am more shocked DH got himself and DS dressed and out the door without you waking.


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12-26-2012 at 6:13 AM
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Oh, my feelings would be hurt too. I bet my hubby would have done the same thing though, he knows that when I'm working nights my sleep is sacred so waking me up better be for an emergency. Be bummed, but don't hold onto it for too long, I'm sure they thought they were doing the right thing.

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12-26-2012 at 6:25 AM
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SouthSideDrea:
Oh, my feelings would be hurt too. I bet my hubby would have done the same thing though, he knows that when I'm working nights my sleep is sacred so waking me up better be for an emergency. Be bummed, but don't hold onto it for too long, I'm sure they thought they were doing the right thing.
I agree with this. He screwed up, but I can sort of understand him not wanting to wake you since, #1: you worked a 12 hour shift overnight, #2: he thought you knew the plans, and #3: you all had celebrated together the night before. 

Im not saying he made the right choice, but it doesn't sound like he was trying to be a jerk. It sounds like he just made a bonehead move.

Still though, I'm sorry that happened. :( 


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