=-( yup, been there. I found that extra long panty liners were my very best friends. Those, witch hazel wipes, and epsom salt. They are so disgusting, but I promise you'll feel worlds better if you keep them as clean as possible and have something for the pain/itch/burn.
I didn't personally use it (didn't have a need to), but stool softener is often recomended by other bumpies.