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12-27-2012 at 12:57 PM
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Gender reveal party

Has anyone been to one or had one?

Hubby and I want to do this but are sooo anxious already to find out what our little bundle of joy is :)

Please tell me your thoughts on this and what fun things you did!

 
12-27-2012 at 1:02 PM
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I hate gender reveal parties. They are very AWish and indicative of a shift in our society in which every facet of someone's pregnancy must be facinating to every one else around them. If you want to announce it in a cute way, okay, but don't throw a party over what genitalia your LO has.

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12-27-2012 at 1:03 PM
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My thoughts? Honestly I think they're stupid. Nobody will ever care what your child is as much as you and your DH. There is no harm in finding out the sex at the scan and then just calling or emailing people and letting them know. I think it's very "attention whorish" to have a party just to tell people if it's a boy or girl. Again, I get you're excited and others may be as well.....but not excited enough to come to a party and do a big reveal. Just tell people. It will still be exciting and fun.

Oh and you're not revealing the gender, you're revealing the sex. There is a difference.



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12-27-2012 at 1:04 PM
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My thoughts would be to skip it. I don't think they are necessary. I know it's exciting but I don't think it requires a party. I find them a bit much.

Maybe you and your husband could just do something special together. Have the sex sealed in an envelope and open it at a special dinner together. Or have a baker bake a small cake that you could share together after a romantic dinner.EDIT with pink or blue inside. If you have other kids they could share in the surprise as well.

 

 
12-27-2012 at 1:15 PM
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mabenner1:
I hate gender reveal parties. They are very AWish and indicative of a shift in our society in which every facet of someone's pregnancy must be facinating to every one else around them. If you want to announce it in a cute way, okay, but don't throw a party over what genitalia your LO has.

This.  And, you really aren't revealing the gender, you are revealing the sex.  So, it would actually be a "sex reveal" party.   


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12-27-2012 at 1:17 PM
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I guess since I got such quick negative input I should add that we are donig this because it is the first grandbaby/greatgrandbaby of BOTH sides of the family and after having a hard time the first time around. So we are excited to know what our babies genitalia will be and would love to annouce it! Seems to me like not a lot of other peoples family cared about the gender..

Thanks anyways..

 
12-27-2012 at 1:18 PM
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I think it depends on your group of friends/family. In my group of friends everything is celebrated. A gender reveal party would just be another reason to get together, eat, and have fun. I personally didn't have one with my first and won't be having one this time around but I would attend one if my friends had one. 

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12-27-2012 at 1:21 PM
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JBMarq3:

I guess since I got such quick negative input I should add that we are donig this because it is the first grandbaby/greatgrandbaby of BOTH sides of the family and after having a hard time the first time around. So we are excited to know what our babies genitalia will be and would love to annouce it! Seems to me like not a lot of other peoples family cared about the gender..

Thanks anyways..

Being excited for the baby has nothing to do with throwing a party to celebrate genitalia, which is essentially what you are doing.


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12-27-2012 at 1:35 PM
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JBMarq3:

I guess since I got such quick negative input I should add that we are donig this because it is the first grandbaby/greatgrandbaby of BOTH sides of the family and after having a hard time the first time around. So we are excited to know what our babies genitalia will be and would love to annouce it! Seems to me like not a lot of other peoples family cared about the gender..

Thanks anyways..

Guess what, our baby is the first grandchild as well.  Our family is over the moon thrilled about this baby!  They were happy to hear we were having a girl, but my guess is that they would have been equally as happy over a boy.  Really, they're just happy to have a grandbaby on the way.  I'm not sure what your point is. Other than the parents, most people really don't care one way or the other which is why these parties are so silly.  

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12-27-2012 at 1:40 PM
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I personally think they are pointless. Yes, our family is harping on us to find out what we're having (we're team green), but even if we did, I wouldn't make a party out of it. IMO, it's very AWish and should be skipped.


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12-27-2012 at 1:45 PM
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JBMarq3:

I guess since I got such quick negative input I should add that we are donig this because it is the first grandbaby/greatgrandbaby of BOTH sides of the family and after having a hard time the first time around. So we are excited to know what our babies genitalia will be and would love to annouce it! Seems to me like not a lot of other peoples family cared about the gender..

Thanks anyways..

Doesn't matter if it is the first or the thirteenth. It is still so self-centered to think that anyone else cares as much about your kid's junk as you do.

ETA: Why did you italicize genitalia?  It is a real word, not something I just made up (along with several other posters). If you didn't want people's honest opinions, you shouldn't have posted on here.


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12-27-2012 at 1:46 PM
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JBMarq3:

I guess since I got such quick negative input I should add that we are donig this because it is the first grandbaby/greatgrandbaby of BOTH sides of the family and after having a hard time the first time around. So we are excited to know what our babies genitalia will be and would love to annouce it! Seems to me like not a lot of other peoples family cared about the gender..

Thanks anyways..

Maybe next time leave out the, "Please tell me your thoughts on this..."  part.


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12-27-2012 at 1:46 PM
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people tend to be fairly negative on these boards, if you haven't noticed. but then again... you did ask for opinions so you can't expect much else.

I think if you want to do it... go for it. the opinions of strangers should rarely (if ever) change your ideas. I attended one for a friend recently. it was very small (maybe 15 people). we had a dinner party with a reveal cake at the end. the mom and dad-to-be had delivered the envelope to the baker and the inside of the cake was red velvet for a girl or chocolate for a boy. it was a fun evening. honestly, it felt pretty special to be a part of the moment when the mom and dad learned the sex of their baby for the first time. 


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12-27-2012 at 1:52 PM
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JBMarq3:

I guess since I got such quick negative input I should add that we are donig this because it is the first grandbaby/greatgrandbaby of BOTH sides of the family and after having a hard time the first time around. So we are excited to know what our babies genitalia will be and would love to annouce it! Seems to me like not a lot of other peoples family cared about the gender..

Thanks anyways..

Apparently, you had your mind made up on what you wanted to do. Why did you ask for opinions?


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12-27-2012 at 2:02 PM
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JBMarq3:

I guess since I got such quick negative input I should add that we are donig this because it is the first grandbaby/greatgrandbaby of BOTH sides of the family and after having a hard time the first time around. So we are excited to know what our babies genitalia will be and would love to annouce it! Seems to me like not a lot of other peoples family cared about the gender..

Thanks anyways..

You are correct. Our families do not care if the baby is a boy or girl, they are just focused on it being healthy.

And besides, the baby isn't born yet...maybe it is just me, but I think it is bad juju to do all this pre birth announcing.


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12-27-2012 at 2:07 PM
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I am Team Green, but love the idea of a gender reveal cake! I think a party is fine for family and close friends. I would keep it casual and fun! The only negatives I have heard are inviting people to a restaurant where they pay for dinner and the parents already knowing the gender at the party. Good luck!

 

 
12-27-2012 at 2:07 PM
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I get it, it's exciting. It's all the rage right now thanks to Pinterest.

But for the love of all that is good, you're not revealing the gender unless you have a crystal ball to look ahead about a decade or so.

But have fun at your sex reveal party!

(And no, my family could give two craps whether or not my baby has a penis or a vagina ... We all just want a baby born healthy and alive!)


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12-27-2012 at 2:11 PM
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We are having one! It's a fun reason to get our families and close friends together. These are the friends that our LO will know as its aunts and uncles. We don't have the expectation that they be as excited to find out as we are, but as our closest loved ones, we know them well enough to know they want to be a part of the special moments in our lives, just as we would drop everything to celebrate with them.

We don't water it down to celebrating genitals.  


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12-27-2012 at 2:17 PM
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JBMarq3:

I guess since I got such quick negative input I should add that we are donig this because it is the first grandbaby/greatgrandbaby of BOTH sides of the family and after having a hard time the first time around. So we are excited to know what our babies genitalia will be and would love to annouce it! Seems to me like not a lot of other peoples family cared about the gender..

Thanks anyways..



So you didn't get the response you were hoping for, huh? You asked for opinions and we gave ours. It's selfish to think that your unborn child is the center of anyone's world and needs a party to reveal it's sex. Do it or don't do it (it sounds like your mind was made up before your original post) but know that many people think it's in poor taste, is tacky and AWish. If you're fine being that type of person then by all means go for it.

Oh and it doesn't matter if this is the first, fifth or twentieth grandchild on both sides, it's still tacky.

Also, genitalia is a real word. Just like sex, penis and vagina are. If you aren't mature enough to say or type those words then you're not mature enough to have a child.



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12-27-2012 at 2:20 PM
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SPK926:
My thoughts? Honestly I think they're stupid. Nobody will ever care what your child is as much as you and your DH. There is no harm in finding out the sex at the scan and then just calling or emailing people and letting them know. I think it's very "attention whorish" to have a party just to tell people if it's a boy or girl. Again, I get you're excited and others may be as well.....but not excited enough to come to a party and do a big reveal. Just tell people. It will still be exciting and fun.

Oh and you're not revealing the gender, you're revealing the sex. There is a difference.

What is the difference exactly?


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12-27-2012 at 2:25 PM
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we had a very small one with just H's mom, dad and his siblings. It was awkward, to me, and I felt it was very AWish - my H wanted it so I went along with it but if I had to do it again, I would want to find out just between us

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12-27-2012 at 2:29 PM
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Im not having a gender reveal party either.

Im just going to tell people if the baby is a girl or a boy. This will mostly happen when they ask "do you know what you're having?".

So many people have already been asking what the baby is I cant see myself saying "youll have to wait for the big reveal party to find out".

I just simple say "the doc guessed boy but its not 100% yet".


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12-27-2012 at 2:30 PM
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My hubby and I got 2 cupcakes and we smeared eachothers face with it to see what the icing in the middle looked like...   It was just the two of us.   Such a special moment...glad we did it privately because we were shocked it was PINK...we thought for sure it would be a boy!  

We also took some pink cake balls to our bible study group to share our news!!!

Good luck!   However you choose to do it-  let it be a special moment for you and your SO!


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12-27-2012 at 2:32 PM
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Momma2Michelle:

SPK926:
My thoughts? Honestly I think they're stupid. Nobody will ever care what your child is as much as you and your DH. There is no harm in finding out the sex at the scan and then just calling or emailing people and letting them know. I think it's very "attention whorish" to have a party just to tell people if it's a boy or girl. Again, I get you're excited and others may be as well.....but not excited enough to come to a party and do a big reveal. Just tell people. It will still be exciting and fun.

Oh and you're not revealing the gender, you're revealing the sex. There is a difference.

What is the difference exactly?

A person's sex, determined by their genitalia, is male or female. Their gender, however, is their masculinity or femininity. Socially, males are masculine and females are feminine, however, this isn't true for everyone. Buying little boys trucks and blue things, and little girls pink and dolls are following societal gender constructs.


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12-27-2012 at 2:34 PM
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Momma2Michelle:

SPK926:
My thoughts? Honestly I think they're stupid. Nobody will ever care what your child is as much as you and your DH. There is no harm in finding out the sex at the scan and then just calling or emailing people and letting them know. I think it's very "attention whorish" to have a party just to tell people if it's a boy or girl. Again, I get you're excited and others may be as well.....but not excited enough to come to a party and do a big reveal. Just tell people. It will still be exciting and fun.

Oh and you're not revealing the gender, you're revealing the sex. There is a difference.

What is the difference exactly?

Sex is about chromosomes - If you are XX, your sex is female; if you are XY, your sex is male.

Gender is how the personal identifies themselves.

 

I think Gender Reveals are completely completely ridiculous.  I'm waiting for the day we have pregnancy reveal parties to go along with gender reveals, birth photography, those month by month stickers and finally the elaborate first birthday party complete with professional photographer and wedding cake.

It is all too. much.

 
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Momma2Michelle:

SPK926:
My thoughts? Honestly I think they're stupid. Nobody will ever care what your child is as much as you and your DH. There is no harm in finding out the sex at the scan and then just calling or emailing people and letting them know. I think it's very "attention whorish" to have a party just to tell people if it's a boy or girl. Again, I get you're excited and others may be as well.....but not excited enough to come to a party and do a big reveal. Just tell people. It will still be exciting and fun.

Oh and you're not revealing the gender, you're revealing the sex. There is a difference.

What is the difference exactly?

Sex is about chromosomes - If you are XX, your sex is female; if you are XY, your sex is male.

Gender is how the personal identifies themselves.

 

I think Gender Reveals are completely completely ridiculous.  I'm waiting for the day we have pregnancy reveal parties to go along with gender reveals, birth photography, those month by month stickers and finally the elaborate first birthday party complete with professional photographer and wedding cake.

It is all too. much.

I'm pretty sure I saw a name reveal video posted around here somewhere the other day.  I couldn't bring myself to watch it though so I might be wrong.   


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Ehhhhhhh, NMS I kinda just plan on telling whoever asks. But, if you feel like it's something you want go for it. Personally, I think it's a little weird.

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Joy2611:
Momma2Michelle:

SPK926:
My thoughts? Honestly I think they're stupid. Nobody will ever care what your child is as much as you and your DH. There is no harm in finding out the sex at the scan and then just calling or emailing people and letting them know. I think it's very "attention whorish" to have a party just to tell people if it's a boy or girl. Again, I get you're excited and others may be as well.....but not excited enough to come to a party and do a big reveal. Just tell people. It will still be exciting and fun.

Oh and you're not revealing the gender, you're revealing the sex. There is a difference.

What is the difference exactly?

Sex is about chromosomes - If you are XX, your sex is female; if you are XY, your sex is male.

Gender is how the personal identifies themselves.

 

I think Gender Reveals are completely completely ridiculous.  I'm waiting for the day we have pregnancy reveal parties to go along with gender reveals, birth photography, those month by month stickers and finally the elaborate first birthday party complete with professional photographer and wedding cake.

It is all too. much.

OK, so I get all of it except the birth photography part. Maybe that's because I'm a photographer but I think it's a cool way to capture the experience and birth photography is some of the most exciting to look at in my opinion. I get that it's not everyone's cup of tea but we will definitely be having birth photography done this time around. It won't go on Facebook but it will be something cool for us to have.  


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12-27-2012 at 2:45 PM
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JBMarq3:

Has anyone been to one or had one?

Hubby and I want to do this but are sooo anxious already to find out what our little bundle of joy is :)

Please tell me your thoughts on this and what fun things you did!

Never been to one but I've known some people who had them.

This is my take on it - If you're already getting together with the family for a reason (a usual Sunday dinner or whatever) and you want to make the dessert the "reveal" then fine. But I honestly wouldn't go out of my way to have a party specifically to reveal the sex.

No matter what it's exciting to find out, so enjoy the moment.  


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we had our immediate family over and cut the cake together. It was just dessert, no gifts, we set the date/time and those who could make it came. It was fun and laid back. Certainly no invites, favors or other frills.

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