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12-27-2012 at 4:08 PM
Darbie914
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Is this the same as asking for cash?

Hi all!  Just need to see if I'm alone in thinking this is a tad tacky.  A friend is currently having her 2nd child and is having a baby shower.  On her registry, in addition to the regular items, she has requested gift cards.  

Isn't this the same as asking for cash?  I'm already a little weirded out by the second shower WITH a registry so I'm not sure if that's why I find this odd or if it really is somewhat rude. 


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12-27-2012 at 4:12 PM
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Yes, it is.

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12-27-2012 at 4:24 PM
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It's rude and tacky.

 Although, if it is BRU registry, BRU will automatically add on the "Very Important Baby (V.I.B.) Card" option at the top of the registry (which I think is a load of crap).


 
12-27-2012 at 4:27 PM
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Yes, you're correct. However, both of my registries featured gift cards. I didn't put them on there. It was the way the employees who set up your registry ensured the scanner gun worked...supposedly. :)
 
12-27-2012 at 4:28 PM
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I think they are automatically added on to the registry.

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12-27-2012 at 4:45 PM
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When I had my registry at BRU, I remember seeing the gift cards automatically appear at the bottom.  However, her registry is through Diapers.com and under the Requested column, she put 4.  So I'm guessing she had to actually register for 4 gift cards.  But it's also possible that website does that automatically?  Glad to know it wasn't just me.

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12-27-2012 at 4:54 PM
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Yes. But I don't see anything wrong with a second shower.

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12-27-2012 at 5:49 PM
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It would be if she specifically added them, but as PPs have noted, a lot of stores just add them automatically, so give her the benefit of a doubt.

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12-27-2012 at 6:13 PM
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Is that a new thing? BRU did not add them to my registry at all.

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12-27-2012 at 7:53 PM
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Yes it is.  Especially when they specify amounts.

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12-27-2012 at 8:58 PM
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Is she throwing her own shower?

And yes, it's the same thing, but IMHO worse because you are asking for specific things restaurant or store GC

She's striking out twice here.

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12-27-2012 at 9:24 PM
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Just a note - when I registered at BRU, it automatically had GCs on my registry. I didn't realize until about 2 mos after creating it that they were there, and summarily deleted them.

Maybe the same thing happened in your case?


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12-28-2012 at 8:56 AM
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Estwd2:
Is that a new thing? BRU did not add them to my registry at all.

It seems to be. A couple of my friends that registered from BRU did not have gift cards added on to them. I noticed that BRU added one to mine a month or two ago.


 
12-28-2012 at 9:32 AM
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I don't believe she is throwing her own shower but had specified in the beginning of her pregnancy that she wanted one.  And the registry shows 4 GC's in the amount of $25 each.  Seems intentional.  Oh well, people will do what they want to do.

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12-29-2012 at 12:15 PM
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JenniD2:

Estwd2:
Is that a new thing? BRU did not add them to my registry at all.

It seems to be. A couple of my friends that registered from BRU did not have gift cards added on to them. I noticed that BRU added one to mine a month or two ago.

 

Although they did have the VIB on there, they never added any Gift Cards onto my registry. I last updated mine after Christmas to remove some items that were purchased for me for Christmas. So I'm not sure if their system wonked out or the associate just went a little scan happy when they added GC's to your registry.


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12-30-2012 at 4:02 PM
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Don't go. That is begging.

 


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12-30-2012 at 5:11 PM
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I wouldn't think gift cards on a registry are tacky simply because they were all added automatically to my wedding and baby registry. A second shower is however.

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01-01-2013 at 4:45 PM
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Yes it is... However, I will say this. When I went to register at Buy Buy Baby, the associate who was helping me offered to take care of the "basics"... Safety stuff, white onesies, bathtime stuff, etc... So a couple of weeks later when I looked at the registry after the invites had gone out, I saw that there had been several gift cards (all for different amounts) requested by "me"... I was horrified and deleted them immediately.

Could it be a similar situation to your friends...Perhaps you could ask her if she knows they're on there, to make your point :)


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