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12-28-2012 at 1:23 PM
twolittlew...
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? for those with 2+

I am almost 4 weeks with my third child.  We got pregnant less than 2 months after removing Mirena.  I had a perfect pregnancy with my 1st, and a great one (besides a PTL scare at 28 weeks) with my second.  I can't seem to get excited about this baby.  It's not that I'm not excited or happy that I'm pregnant, I just can't shake this anxious feeling. 

 I guess in my mind, I have had 2 perfect pregnancies and 2 wonderful children, so I feel like I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop.  Like my luck will run out eventually and something will go wrong.  I feel guilty even admitting this and "borrowing trouble", but I guess I'm just looking for someone that understand or feels the same.  I'm assuming this will all pass as the pregnancy gets more real. Tell me I'm not alone.


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12-28-2012 at 1:28 PM
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You are not alone. I felt the same way, especially when I was struggling to conceive. I've never had a m/c so I feel like I was due for something to go wrong. Surely the odds are against me at this point, right? But, so far so good. GL!

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12-28-2012 at 1:53 PM
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You are not alone! I am 7 weeks pregnant with my 3rd, and I am just not excited. I just can't get attached to this LO yet. It makes me feel very guilty, but I can't change it.

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12-28-2012 at 3:04 PM
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I completely understand where you are coming from. For us, this 3rd baby was not planned where our other 2 have been carefully thought out.  The more pregnancy articles, websites, etc. that I read, the more excited I get.  But I feel the same way as you - I had 2 easy pregnancies and have 2 healthy children.  All I can do is pray for this baby like I did my other two.  Good luck and H&H 9 months!

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12-28-2012 at 3:33 PM
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I get it.  I am 38 AND we've done IVF in order to conceive.  I had those feelings with my last kiddo.  I have them to some degree this time too.  I think it's normal and ok and will pass once the babies arrive.

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12-28-2012 at 4:13 PM
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queenbone:
Surely the odds are against me at this point, right?

This is it exactly!


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12-28-2012 at 4:16 PM
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Thanks for letting me know I'm not alone.  I'm really hoping once we tell people and start celebrating this pregnancy it wil get better. I think the novelty has kind of worn off by #3.


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12-28-2012 at 7:26 PM
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I guess I am the opposite. The journey to my first two babies was so hard and then we "lost" baby 3 after fostering her for 6 months. For the first time I actually feel hopeful ironic that this is going to work out in the end.

I know anxious, I know loss and frustration. It's so hard. But try to be grateful every day that you are pg that day. We can only take one day at a time ya know? Hugs

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12-29-2012 at 6:22 PM
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I could have written this except we have 3 already (this is #4). But I even had the PPTL with the last at 28 weeks as well! Ended up being fine/full term. I would say more of me knows that's silly than doesn't. But the anxiety is still there. I'm also, obviously, older this time and I can't help but thinking we're pressing our luck expecting a 4th perfectly healthy pregnancy/child.

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12-30-2012 at 6:02 AM
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This is my first, but if it helps: many things that can go wrong during pregnancy are more likely to happen if they happened before. For example, pregnancy diabetes, a preterm delivery, eclampsia... If you had those before, you have a higher chance of having them again. So while I perfectly get your reasoning, having had two great pregnancies is actually a sign that this time things probably will work out fine again, instead of the other way around.

Hope you get what I mean... 


 
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