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This is why I think having a birth plan is such a waste of time. It should be called a birth fantasy, because it rarely ever goes the way you think or want it to. I was induced at 39 weeks with DD1 and after 14 hours of labor (and nearly 5 weeks of bed rest to prevent that labor) I was still only at 3 cm, where I had been since 34 weeks. I was weak and my OB saw that I probably was not going to be able to push that baby out. I also have a long history with panic disorder, and I was very close to full on panic mode. DH and I, along with the OB, made the decision that a CS was best for me at the time. I had no idea it would end up in one, but it is what it is, and DD1 was born very healthy and the whole birth was out of my hands, which I was fine with. With DD2, we decided on a VBAC because I bled so much with the first one. Well, my OB never does VBACs, too much liability. I went into labor naturally after 5 weeks again on bed rest to keep her in, just shy of 39 weeks. I wasn't progressing too much considering I was at a +2 station and 3 cm dialated for 4-5 weeks, so they put me on a Pit drip, which does cause your contractions to hurt more (is that possible?). Still, baby's heart rate dipped, I developed a fever, they had to break my water, etc. Nothing was in my control. My epidural wore off right before I started to push, so I went pretty much natural, and then LOs head never molded, and came out 14 cm, with her umbilical cord wrapped twice around her neck, which explains why her HR was dipping with each contraction. I then proceeded to bleed from a cervical tear to the point they had to take me into the OR and I required transfusions. Should I blame the OB? She didn't make me dilate early, or LOs cord wrap around her neck, or my cervix to tear. If you don't like your OB, find a new one. But don't have the expectations that labor is going to be rainbows and fluffy kittens. If it was like that, men would be doing it.
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