You're right, a meet the baby party would be better. I have told her very firmly that I would be uncomfortable with a 2nd shower, but she's had 4 kidsand a shower for each, so theres that. I'll try to convince her that a party in May will be way more fun to host. Weather will be a lot nicer then, than in February.
Great idea - weather. Plus, like the other pp said...it is much more fun when the baby is there. From what I've read if you DO have a shower for 2nd, 3rd, etc. kids you are not supposed to invite the same people as you did for your first. That kind of makes a shower ridiculous. Maybe also you could tell your friend that 2nd, 3rd, etc. showers are just "not done" in your family even though it is common in others.