My MIL lives in the same town, a 10 minute drive. Right now she's butt-hurt with me. In September DH and I decided it was very important to us that we and our parents get the TDAP and flu vaccines before LO gets here. DH and I also decided that we didn't want anyone who wasn't vaccinated to be around LO very much when she's brand new. MIL has not gotten her TDAP yet.
I may be induced Monday (depending on BP). I found this out Friday at about 1pm. I called MIL around 2 and told her it'd be a good idea for her to get her shot this weekend just in case. She flat out told me that she doesn't have to "bend over backwards for me" and that I have "ridiculous expectations of people and should give them more notice before creating stupid rules". Also, "there's nothing (I) can do to keep (her) away from the hospital when (I) deliver".
WOMAN! YOUR SON AND I DECIDED THIS IN SEPTEMBER. YOUR HUSBAND SCHEDULED HIS SHOT IMMEDIATELY AND MY PARENTS WAITED JUST A WEEK. EVEN IF YOU THINK IT'S STUPID AND OVER-PROTECTIVE IT'S HOW IT'S GOING TO BE!
DH is seeing how crazy is mom is being and he's dealing with all of it on his own (so I don't stress out). The conversations between me and her only happen when I call her.
Sorry - you seem like the crazy one here! Are you just not going to bring your child out into the world until Spring? Every single one of your friends are going to get the shot JUST FOR YOU? lol.
She didn't say that. I would assume the grandparents are going to see the baby more than her friends, and I understand her wanting them to get a shot. And, since it's her LO, she can dictate whatever she wants if people want to see him/her. You don't have to let someone see your LO if you don't want to. Personally, I wear DD in a carrier when we go out and only let people I know, who aren't sick, and wash their hands first, hold LO. I don't have the shot restriction, but to each their own. I did, however, make my nieces & nephews wait to meet DD because my cousin believes in no vaccinations and her children are therefore not vaccinated (her personal decision.)
Lilypots, your MIL is BSC. She thinks she can just barge into your room at the hospital? She's freaking hilarious. She's had three months to get the shot. Unless she had a legit reason not to get it, she should have for her grandchild's sake. I would have your DH talk to her. Don't deal with that crazy.