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01-02-2013 at 11:11 AM
mrsneau
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intrauterine fetal demise

hey all. We lost our daughter. Not sure why but it looks like the placenta detached. I carried her inside me for a few days before delivering her stillborn, it was a very traumatic experience and I am still trying to just cope. I will write a full post detailing the story when I'm ready. Just got home from the hospital yesterday. hope you all had a good holiday.

 

Sara


 
01-02-2013 at 11:17 AM
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I am so sorry.

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01-02-2013 at 11:23 AM
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There really are no words.  I hope that you and your SO can find a way to heal once you've had a chance to grieve.  I am so sorry for your loss.  May brighter days be ahead!
 
01-02-2013 at 11:23 AM
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I'm so sorry for your loss, Sara! My thoughts are with you and your family durring your grief. 

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01-02-2013 at 11:25 AM
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Saying sorry seems so insufficient right now. Know my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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01-02-2013 at 11:35 AM
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I'm so, so sorry :(

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01-02-2013 at 11:42 AM
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I'm so sorry for your loss, there is no greater pain than losing a child. My thoughts are with you at this time to get you through :(

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01-02-2013 at 11:52 AM
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I am so very sorry for your loss. 

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01-02-2013 at 12:03 PM
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Sara, I am so incredibly sorry for what you and your husband are going through... I know that "I'm sorry" is woefully inadequate compared to the pain you are now feeling. My heart just breaks for you. I will keep you in my prayers, may God begin to heal your heart over time. Be gentle to yourself, there is no timeline to heal from this kind of loss. The ladies on the loss board are an amazing group of women, and they helped me immensely after my loss. Perhaps they can be of some solace to you, too.  Again, I am so so sorry for your loss, and I will keep you close in prayer. (((HUGS)))


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01-02-2013 at 12:11 PM
ally2011
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Sara,

I am incredibly sorry for the loss of your sweet daughter.  Nothing can prepare you for the loss of a child and no words can make the grief journey shorter or less dark.  We have a board for late pregnancy losses, as well as infant/child loss.  It is the left above military families and is just called "Loss".  When you are ready, I strongly encourage you to come there.  Being able to talk to other ladies who had been there was invaluable to me when we lost our daughter Grace in May 2011.  It is a very supportive place and will give you a good outlet to process.

I would also recommend the books Grieving the Child I Never Knew, Empty Cradle Broken Heart, The One Year Book of Hope and Good Grief (by Westberg).

I would also encourage you to seek out a grief counselor or support group, even if you think it is not needed.  It took me 8 months to go, but was very helpful when I finally did.

Again, I am so, so sorry for the loss of your daughter.  

Hugs,

Jenn 


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01-02-2013 at 1:01 PM
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So, so, sorry. My heart breaks for you. I hope you are finding the support you need during this time. HUGS.

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01-02-2013 at 1:17 PM
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This is heartbreaking. I am so so sorry for your loss. Many thoughts and prayers for you and your family

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01-02-2013 at 1:18 PM
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Oh my goodness, I am so, so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how difficult this must be for you.

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01-02-2013 at 1:32 PM
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I am so very sorry for your loss.

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01-02-2013 at 1:43 PM
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That is truly heartbreaking! I pray that one day you can come to peace with what happened. Be strong, and take care of your self!
 
01-02-2013 at 1:54 PM
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I am so truly sorry for your loss.  You and your family will be in our prayers.

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01-02-2013 at 1:58 PM
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I am so, so sorry.

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01-02-2013 at 2:01 PM
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I am so extremely sorry. My prayers are with you and your family.

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01-02-2013 at 3:05 PM
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Thinking of you and your family.

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01-02-2013 at 3:05 PM
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I am so very sorry.

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01-02-2013 at 3:51 PM
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I am so sorry.  I lost my son post EDD and delivered him still at 40w3d.  Please PM me if you want to talk.  The loss board is also a great source for grieving mamas.


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01-02-2013 at 3:53 PM
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I'm so sorry

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01-02-2013 at 4:38 PM
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I am so so sorry for your loss. :(

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01-02-2013 at 5:02 PM
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I am so sorry for you. :(

 

Today actually marks the 5 year anniversary of my sons death (I also had an IFD) and I know exactly how you feel.

PM me if you want to talk. I understand if you don't.

 

 


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01-02-2013 at 5:15 PM
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I am so sorry. There are no words. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

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01-02-2013 at 8:40 PM
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I am so, so sorry for your loss.

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01-02-2013 at 9:24 PM
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I am so very sorry to hear about your loss. As ally2011 mentioned, the loss board is a place of great comfort with amazing women. I also found tremendous support through the books she mentioned, and therapy. Please pm if you need someone to talk to. 

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01-03-2013 at 2:18 PM
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thank you all so very much. I appreciate your kind words. I will definitely head over to the loss board and for those of you offering PM I may take you up on that sometime. right now I literally take it one hour at a time. it is nice to know I am not alone and there are other women out there who have experienced this. today we are picking up her ashes and the photos from the hospital, and Sunday we are having a memorial for Grace Elizabeth.

 

thanks again ladies. seriously your replies mean the world to me.


 
01-03-2013 at 4:05 PM
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I am so so sorry for the loss of your daughter ):

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01-03-2013 at 9:57 PM
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I am s sorry.
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