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01-02-2013 at 11:35 AM
LuClo
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One of those IF moments

DH comes from a Greek family and every year we host them for New Year's day.  One of the traditions is a giant lamb pie that his mom makes.  Everyone stands around the table together, she spins the pie a special way, then each family gets a section. There's a dime hidden in the pie crust and whoever gets it is supposed to have good luck for the year.  It's kind of a big thing.  Well, it was abundantly clear that Pete's mom was trying to rig the game, and Pete & I ended up with the dime (she knows all about our IF struggles). 

We're planning IVF with ICSI.  I know that modern medicine is going to take us a lot further than luck, but I'll take all the help we can get at this point.  But then his whole family started talking about good things that happened during their 'dime year' to convince us this will work.  I know they all love us and just want good things for us, but it made me super emotional and overwhelmed.  To the point where I had to go in the kitchen and pretend to be busy so I wouldn't burst into tears.  Later than night DH tried to explain how he felt happy and choked up at the same time- apparently we were in the same boat. 

And just to keep things fun, I hadn't had a chance to tell DH yet but I got a call from our RE's office that morning that my thyroid levels were high (3.6, he likes to see 2.5) and I need to get that in check before we can start IVF.  We had been hoping to be Polar Bears, but then got pushed out to Jan/Feb, and now it looks like we're probably not going to make that cycle either.

There's no real point to this post, sometimes IF just makes me feel like I'm losing my mind and it always feels better to share those moments with you guys because I know you get it.
TTC since August 2010
DH diagnosed with Azoospermia in January 2012
Vas reconstruction surgery in April 2012; unsuccessful
IVF with ICSI February 2013; single blastocyst 5dt
First beta March 1 is 147!!!

 
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01-02-2013 at 11:45 AM
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1st...What a cool tradition!

2nd...I fully understand why you felt emotional, it's a lot of pressure when anyone knows anything about your treatment plans. We try to appear strong on the outside, but we're allowing it to build up inside ourselves until the only thing that makes us feel better is to have a good cry.

I hope that you guys can get the go ahead soon and begin your treatment.  Fingers crossed!!!
* Me- 32 * DH- 32 * TTC for 4 Years
* *IUIs 1-6 BFN*
*IVF #1= BFP- M/C *FET- * *Beta#1: 69 *Beta#2:482 *Beta#3 1088
*Beta#4 28,318 * Ultrasound- 1 beautiful heartbeat
IT'S A BOY!!! MAX LIAM
 
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01-02-2013 at 12:10 PM
dede0726
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That is a cool tradition! My DH is originally from Scotland and I love learning and sharing in the traditions!!

 You are definitely not alone when it comes to the emotions that go along with IF. There are some days I want to crawl into a hole, but what good would that do. I tri to take it one day at a time - sometimes minute by minute.

Fingers crossed that you will be able to get things figured out and moving on quickly!

Me - 35 DH - 37 SD - 10
Married 10/8/2011
Started TTC July 2011. Infertility workup July & August 2012.
DH - all clear. Me - Unicornuate Uterus discovered at HSG 8/16/12. Referred for IVF 8/28/12. Approved for IVF Warranty Program 10/2/12. Laparoscopy 11/1/12 - removed right rudamentary horn, both tubes, left ovarian cyst and endometriosis. Given all clear for pregnancy after 1/1/2013.
IVF cycle 1 starts 1/19/13!
12 eggs, 7 mature and all 7 fertilized - 2 Frosties!!
5 day SET 2/4/13 - Beta 2/13: 86 & 2/15: 186 BFP!!!!
EDD: October, 23, 2013
Blog: http://journeyofaplayer.wordpress.com/
 
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01-02-2013 at 12:17 PM
liz4paws
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I love the tradition, but understand why that might make you feel very emotional. It's hard not to be overwhelmed by everything going on. Sending lots of hugs your way.
Me (31) DH (35) - Finding our path to baby #1
Me: POF/DOR - AMH <0.16, heterozygous c677t MTHFR
DH: Severe MFI
12/2/11 - IUI #1- BFN
8/1/12 - IVF #1 - Zero response from max stims (600iu intramuscularly)
My ovaries seem to be just for decoration

12/6/12 - Adopted five embryos that had been frozen for over ten years!
2/11/13 - Thawed four, sadly two didn't survive. Transferred two beautiful blasts.

2/16/13 - First BFP of my life!
3/27/13 - No heartbeat at 9w0d. D&C the following day.

4/23/13 - Matched to adopt five new embryos!

My embryo adoption blog: Wishing on a Snowflake

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01-02-2013 at 12:18 PM
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Hi there. I'm new here, but I just wanted to say that I really believe in good luck traditions, and it sounds like your family is super loving and supportive, but it would still be overwhelming to get all that attention. Like you said, IVF and modern medicine will hopefully take you farther than just luck and "trying" alone. I think I would have felt exactly the same way...on a rollercoaster of emotions. Maybe you and I will be on the same cycle...we are aiming for March. I hope you get things figured out and a plan for moving forward as soon as possible. 
| Married since 2008 | DH and I: Both 30 | | Me: Endometriosis DH: Low Morph | | Planning IVF with PGD and PGS in 2013 | Freeze-All IVF #1: March 2013 ER 3/26. 29R, 12M, 11F. 4 frozen embryos. Freeze-All IVF#2: May 2013. Our PGD probe will be completed in early May. Hoping for healthy embryos and an FET this summer.



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01-02-2013 at 12:58 PM
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what a fun tradition!  Good luck and I hope that dime is right!
TTC #1 since October 2011 Me: 29 DH: 36 Diagnosis: Hypothyroid/PCOS and Slight MFI Metformin daily, Synthroid daily, and Femara CD 3-7 IUI #1 2/2013: BFN IUI #2 3/2013: BFN IUI #3 4/2013: Cancelled due to early O - TI 5/11/13: + hpt 5/12/13: beta #1 : 422 5/14/13: beta #2: 1064 X 
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01-02-2013 at 1:25 PM
LuClo
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Thanks ladies!   You always make me feel more sane.  It is a really cool tradition, and I'm happy to have the luck.  Its worked out really well for people in the past, so I'll keep my fingers crossed!
TTC since August 2010
DH diagnosed with Azoospermia in January 2012
Vas reconstruction surgery in April 2012; unsuccessful
IVF with ICSI February 2013; single blastocyst 5dt
First beta March 1 is 147!!!

 
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01-02-2013 at 1:57 PM
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very cool tradition! And totally understandable to feel overwhelmed :Good luck to you! fingers crossed dime year brings you luck!
S/PAIF Welcome
Off BCP March 2010
TTC #1 since June 2011
BFP 12/10/11, M/C 12/16/11
DX: MFI - low count and lowish Testosterone, medium varicocele
July/Aug '12: 50 mg clomid + IUI#1 = BFN
Aug/Sept '12: 50 mg clomid + menopur + ovidrel + IUI#2 =BFN
Sept/Oct '12: Treatment break for vacation and to regroup
Oct/Nov '12: Natural IUI#3 - functional cyst on right side = BFN
Nov/Dec '12: Natural IUI#4 = BFFN
Dec/Jan '12: 50 mg clomid + menopur + ovidrel + IUI#5 = BFN
Jan '13: 50 mg clomid + menopur + ovidrel + IUI#6 = BFFN
Tired of all this crap. Taking a break. Plan: hubby on 50 mg clomid to try to raise count. T levels have tripled! Repeat SA in March.
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01-03-2013 at 12:07 AM
chucktgirl
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I think the dime fortune is awesome! It must also feel so good to have so many people supporting you. Increase your thyroid meds and get back on track-- you'll be ready soon! Good luck! :)

My (old) BLOG: www.ivfbabyquest.wordpress.com
TTC since Jan 2010 with OPKs. Me: 41, Hypothyroidism, hetero MTHFR C677T, hetero Factor V Leiden (no previous clots) Dx: DOR due to AMA. Rx: 100mg Levothyroxin, FaBB tab, Spring Valley Prenatal Vitamins, Vitamin D. Hubby: 34, Hyperthyroidism, Fragile X carrier, Great swimmers!
Natural PG 9/27/11; MC at 8wks. Used Cytotec to expel: 1/20/12 (unpleasant)
First RE visit: 8/8/12, Saline Sonogram: 8/28/12(4cm unknown mass in upper left of uterus) 2nd Saline Sonogram: 10/2/12 (mass disappeared!) IVF injection class: 10/11/12
IVF #1: 10/17/12 Baseline: FSH- 9.4, E2- 24, LH- 3.7, Progesterone- 0.3. 6 follicles in my right ovary & 9 in my left. Rx: 150 Bravelle & 150 Menopur SQ in AM. 10/21/12: Add Ganirelix SQ in PM. 10/26/12: hCG Trigger IM. ER 10/28/12: 13R, 7M, 6F. 5 Made it to PGS. ET 11/2/12: CANCELED. PGS: All 5 have "severe abnormalities." Devastated. Begged RE for back-to-back IVFs; Started Provera 11/2/12. AF said FU and came anyway, destroying any chance for a Dec IVF. Maxed out lifetime IF meds insurance. I can barely breathe, waiting to get through this process, hoping for my take-home-baby.
IVF #2: 1/7/13 Baseline: FSH- 8.8, 4 follicles in my right ovary & 6 in my left. Rx: 150 Bravelle & 150 Menopur SQ in PM. 1/11/13: Add Ganirelix SQ in AM. 1/16/13: hCG Trigger IM. ER 1/18/13: 9R, 5M, 5F. 2 Made it to PGS. ET 1/23/13: CANCELED. PGS: All embryos have "multiple severe abnormalities." RE recommends we stop trying and focus on living childless, due to the repeated extremely poor quality of my eggs. I don't even know what to do with that.
IVF #3- NEW RE! 100% OOP: 3/1/13 Baseline: FSH- 9.6, E2- 61, Progesterone- 0.94, 3 follicles in my right ovary & 4 in my left. Rx: 150 Bravelle & 150 Menopur SQ in PM. 3/7/13: Add Ganirelix SQ in AM. hCG Trigger 3/9/13 SQ. 3/11/13 ER: 6R, 2M, 2F. Day 3: one 8 cell, grade 0. 3/16/13 Five day ET: one early blast, grade Fair. 3/24/13 Started period a day before beta. BFN.
IVF #4 (FINAL) (Added acupuncture to this cycle.): 3/25/13 WTF & Baseline: FSH-11.8, E2- 56, Progesterone- 0.84 3/26/13 Start stims. 3/30/13 u/s: 5 follicles in my right ovary & 4 in my left. Rx: 225 Bravelle & 225 Menopur SQ in PM. 3/31/13 Add Ganirelix SQ in AM. hCG Trigger 4/3/13 SQ. 4/5/13 ER: 5R, 3M, 3F naturally. Day 3: two 8 cell, grade 0, one 8 cell, grade 2 (Scale 0-best to 3-worst). 4/10/13 Five day ET: two blastocysts (the 3rd stopped growing.) 4/18/13 Beta: 2.5 BFFN.
No DE or adoption for us, FIRM.
That’s it for us. I am beyond devastated and have no idea how to proceed from here. My life has been forever altered by this experience. Best wishes to all in their journeys! 
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