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01-02-2013 at 12:33 PM
Trillion28
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Full of Anxiety

Hi Ladies, 

I was hoping you all could put my mind at ease. I am 12 weeks pregnant and I had alot of spotting (bleeding) at the beginning of my pregnancy. I also had  brown discharge which alarmed me and has put me on high alert. I have notified my doctor and since my last ultrasound at 11 weeks I have stopped spotting. The doctor has told me that everything looks great and the baby is fine, but I still cannot shake the fear of loosing my baby. Adding to my worries is that I dont look preggers yet, I am 12 weeks and pudgy but I more so look as though I have eatin to many donuts rather than being pregnant. Should I be showing more? How do I shake this constant fear that I will find blood again or that my baby isnt ok? We told our family the great news but we are not announcing it publicly because I am so nervous all the time. Any one else experience this? any words of comfort? I am a first time mommy so any information would help. thank you


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01-02-2013 at 12:41 PM
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I have several friends who had bleeding on and off throughout their pregnancies and they now have perfectly healthy toddlers. If there was a reason to be concerned I'm sure your doctor would have shared it with you. 

I also wouldn't worry about not showing- be relieved. The belly gets in the way, trust. With DD I wasn't remotely showing when I walked in to my anatomy scan at 20 weeks, and she's perfectly healthy.  



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01-02-2013 at 12:42 PM
Melanieian
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You should not be showing yet so you are perfectly fine! Your baby bump will come later. First you just look a lil pudgy then the bump starts to form. There is really no way to ease your mind, your doctor is telling you everything is okay and that is what really matters. Becoming a first time mommy is really hard because of the constant worry while pregnant and when the baby comes and you really just don't know what to except. Try not to stress and enjoy the beauty of a precious baby growing inside you.

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01-02-2013 at 12:42 PM
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If your Dr says you're both healthy, then you're both healthy.  First time moms often don't show until much later.  Take a deep breath, you're fine. 

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01-02-2013 at 12:44 PM
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Sometimes it isn't easy, but you need to try and relax.  My pregnancies never seemed real until I could feel the baby moving.  I just felt sick.  It's not a bad thing to feel pretty normal, it means things are going well. 

If this is your first pregnancy, it is normal to not show until well into 2nd Tri.  Everybody is different and one person having or not having the symptoms you are experiencing has no basis on your pregnancy.  GL!

ETA: I had bleeding around 5 weeks with my DS that was considered a "threatend miscarriage", but the bleeding stopped and I had a very uneventful 9 months and a very healthy son.


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01-02-2013 at 1:14 PM
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I know it's very hard not to stress for a healthy baby, but you made it past the 12 week mark so take a deep breath. The chances of miscarrying at this point are WAY down. Also, with my first pregnancy, I didn't show until I was about 23 weeks along. I didn't show with my second until about 18 weeks. I'm on my 3rd pregnancy, and I doubt I'll be showing at 12 weeks (at least I hope not). It's totally normal not to have a bump for quite awhile. I'm sure everything is just fine!

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01-02-2013 at 1:15 PM
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If this is your first pregnancy, you might not show until closer to the 3rd tri. Bad things happen and worry won't change that. Just love your baby and enjoy your pregnancy.
01-02-2013 at 2:16 PM
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I completely understand what you're going through. I had some very similar things happen to me. I feel like I inspect for blood everytime I wipe! I just try to maintain a positive attitude and remember that at 12 weeks along and 2 great ultrasounds, it's likely that everything is fine!
 
01-02-2013 at 4:00 PM
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I had bleeding throughout both of my pregnancies with my boys. I even passed a lemon sized clot at 6 weeks with my first. It Started even before my BFP and lasted until about 25 weeks.

After I passed that clot, I was told I miscarried but after betas, I was told thy were going up totally normal. An ultrasound showed a happy baby with no bleeding whatsoever in my uterus. I bled on and off for weeks and weeks for no reason.

With my second, the same thing happened, with the exception for a clot. I had an ultrasound at 5 weeks but it was too early to tell if all was well. There was no bleeding in the uterus but we could only see a sac which was normal or it could mean there was no baby. I had to wait a week to find out and I bled with brown and red bleeding that whole week. When I went it again, same thing, there was a happy healthy baby in there! Again, I bled throughout. The doctor just evtually said my cervix was very friable and sensitive.

This time, I haven't had a drop of spotting!! It's almost unnerving! I wait every day for it but so far it has been fine and I'm nearly 11 weeks.

I think every body is different and it's so hard to say that things will or won't be fine. I'm getting off topic but, the point is, I had horrible bleeding twice and things were fine for me! If you e had good ultrasounds and the doctor has said the baby is fine, then I think you should be fairly confident that things are fine. It's sooo hard not to worry. I remember dreading each time I had to go to the bathroom and seeing blood on the tp. Try to relax and enjoy your pregnancy. Good luck with everything!
 
01-03-2013 at 12:59 AM
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try to relax and enjoy your pregnancy as much as you can.  It is normal to start showing with your first pregnancy around 18weeks (sometimes even later) Also, after 12 weeks your chances of miscarrying drop drastically.  I hope this puts you at ease!!!  Smile and relax!

 

01-03-2013 at 10:54 AM
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I am going through this right now! I have had brown/ pinkish/ slight red spotting typically in the mornings. It has not stopped since the day I got my BFP. According to the standard timing I should be 6 weeks (but I know I ovulate late so I am thinking I may be less than 6 weeks). I went to the doctor yesterday and they did a vaginal ultrasound and saw a yolk & a sac and are going to have me come back next week to do another as well as re-test my levels. This is the hardest week of waiting ever. The doctor said the bleeding keeps us on high alert. I have cancelled all work trips and told my boss to relieve that stress in my life. I am hoping and prayingn for improvement next week. Your post gives me faith!
 
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