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01-04-2013 at 2:00 PM
bethdan92
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Is this a tacky request?

My mother is throwing me a baby shower.  She lives in KS and I live in PA so I will be flying back for it (without the husband).  We are registering at BRU and Target, is it tacky for my mother to request on the invite if anyone is purchasing a gift online that is heavy/bulky, to ship it to my local store for in-store pickup?  As it would be free, it's no added cost to them.  We both are unsure if that would be tacky to request, but more practical for me since I will be traveling alone.  I know we can ship back to PA but that can get a bit costly.  UGH!
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01-04-2013 at 2:05 PM
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I don't find this tacky at all! I actually find the opposite - bringing big bulky gifts to a wedding or shower - a little bit inconsiderate. I wonder if the stores you are registered at can include this request on your registry?
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01-04-2013 at 2:08 PM
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definitely appropriate; they know you live in PA. Im going to assume most people won't go through that trouble, and probably just get you gift cards. 
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01-04-2013 at 2:09 PM
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I would give your guests the benefit of the doubt and not put this on the invite.  I would assume all your guests know you are flying in and it would be difficult for you to transport a stroller home. 

If you end up getting a big item or don't have enough room to transport your gifts, either return them to the BRU or Target in Kansas (or whereever they may have purchased it) and repurchase it when you arrive home.  You could also ship items home.
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01-04-2013 at 2:11 PM
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This isn't something I would put on your invitation.

I think if people asked your mother how you were going to get the gifts back to your home, it would be OK for her to suggest this.

Part of the reason a lot of people go to showers is so that they can see the look of joy and gratitude that you have on your face as you open your gift from them.

Otherwise it sort of turns into a business transaction, KWIS?

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01-04-2013 at 2:12 PM
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MelRC117:

I would give your guests the benefit of the doubt and not put this on the invite.  I would assume all your guests know you are flying in and it would be difficult for you to transport a stroller home. 

If you end up getting a big item or don't have enough room to transport your gifts, either return them to the BRU or Target in Kansas (or whereever they may have purchased it) and repurchase it when you arrive home.  You could also ship items home.

All of this.  Give your guests the benefit of a doubt.  I went to a shower once where there MTB drove in for it.  She only got one big gift - everyone else kept it small. 

 
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01-04-2013 at 2:17 PM
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MelRC117:

I would give your guests the benefit of the doubt and not put this on the invite.  I would assume all your guests know you are flying in and it would be difficult for you to transport a stroller home. 

If you end up getting a big item or don't have enough room to transport your gifts, either return them to the BRU or Target in Kansas (or whereever they may have purchased it) and repurchase it when you arrive home.  You could also ship items home.

This. Also, if guests ask you can tell them but otherwise just assume they know and deal with it if they don't.

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01-04-2013 at 2:24 PM
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MelRC117:

I would give your guests the benefit of the doubt and not put this on the invite.  I would assume all your guests know you are flying in and it would be difficult for you to transport a stroller home. 

If you end up getting a big item or don't have enough room to transport your gifts, either return them to the BRU or Target in Kansas (or whereever they may have purchased it) and repurchase it when you arrive home.  You could also ship items home.

I completely agree.  Everyone attending your shower probably knows you live out of state and lugging big items back home would be difficult and will plan accordingly. 


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01-04-2013 at 2:34 PM
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MelRC117:

I would give your guests the benefit of the doubt and not put this on the invite.  I would assume all your guests know you are flying in and it would be difficult for you to transport a stroller home. 

If you end up getting a big item or don't have enough room to transport your gifts, either return them to the BRU or Target in Kansas (or whereever they may have purchased it) and repurchase it when you arrive home.  You could also ship items home.

This. I did have a friend put this kind of information on her shower invite. I didn't side eye it, but I did a pack n play to her house anyway (brought some onesies to the shower).
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01-04-2013 at 2:36 PM
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I'm considering putting this request in the "notes" section of our registry.  My dad bought our crib already (incredibly generous!) but he had it shipped to our house instead of the store over my mom's objections, because he didn't want me lifting it.  He had visions of the shipping company carrying it upstairs for us.  Of course, the reality was the guy dropping 120lbs of boxes on our front porch in the middle of winter...
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I really don't think its necessary to say this anywhere on the invitation.  I think people are smart enough to know you're flying in for the party and you'll have to fly back with your gifts.

If anyone gives you a big heavy box, return it for store credit and repurchase the item when you get home.
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01-04-2013 at 3:00 PM
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Making this statement on your invite assumes one of two things:  1) you think your guests are too stupid to figure this out on their own without being told to their face or 2) you're inviting people you don't know very well and don't realize that you live states away from where your party is being hosted. 

I'm never a fan of these types of statements being put on an invitation, shower or not. 
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01-04-2013 at 4:16 PM
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Helenahhandbasket:

This isn't something I would put on your invitation.

I think if people asked your mother how you were going to get the gifts back to your home, it would be OK for her to suggest this.

Part of the reason a lot of people go to showers is so that they can see the look of joy and gratitude that you have on your face as you open your gift from them.

Otherwise it sort of turns into a business transaction, KWIS?

I agree with this.  If anyone does get you a large gift that you can't carry back on the plane, you could return it and re-purchase when you get home. 
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01-04-2013 at 4:52 PM
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i think thats a great idea i would have guests that mae thier purches off the registry send them to me house and then have them take a pic of what they got me and put it in a card or something at the accual baby shower

 
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01-04-2013 at 5:48 PM
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I live in Florida, my shower was in Connecticut

I registered on Amazon, so free shipping for most items. Most people "got it" but I still received multi-packs of diapers ( and I cloth diapered to boot) and several larger items. I spent two days returning as much as possible and a third day figuring out how to get the rest home! 

Make sure you have two or three days after your shower to deal with this, it's not worth it to pay to ship most bulky items so you'll need to return stuff if your shower was anything like mine

It is super tacky though to request guests ship items to you on the invite. They want to see you open everything and be there for the ohh's and ahh's and if that makes it inconvenient , tough noogies
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01-05-2013 at 11:07 AM
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I agree with the others - do not put on the invite.  Your mom could always mention it when people call to RSVP (although most of my RSPV's came via text or email) or you could include it on the registry. 

Also, as others have said...if you get some large items just take them back and get gift cards for them and repurchase when you get back home or return and rebuy right then and have them shipped to your home.  Shipping is expensive on your own.
 
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01-05-2013 at 3:54 PM
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I am doing the same thing as you! I live in SC, but my shower is being held back home in PA. When I posted the registry details on facebook - I left a little note to say all bulk items (i.e. furniture, high chair, carseats etc) should be shipped to the store for no cost, or shipped to the house. I reminded those that we live far away and there's no way we can travel with all of that stuff! On the invitations I did the same in so many words, but asked guests to bring little gifts only to the shower. That way, it is easier to travel back with!
 
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01-05-2013 at 7:02 PM
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I am doing the same thing as you! I live in SC, but my shower is being held back home in PA. When I posted the registry details on facebook - I left a little note to say all bulk items (i.e. furniture, high chair, carseats etc) should be shipped to the store for no cost, or shipped to the house. I reminded those that we live far away and there's no way we can travel with all of that stuff! On the invitations I did the same in so many words, but asked guests to bring little gifts only to the shower. That way, it is easier to travel back with!
You posted your registery details on FB and gave instructions??? Sorry, but thats a bit tacky.
 
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01-06-2013 at 12:25 AM
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appropriate! My SIL flew across country for her shower, and we shipped the stroller we bought directly to her.  At the shower we just had a printed picture of the item.
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I'm in the same boat.  I wouldn't put it on the invitation, but BRU allows you to add notes to the top of the registry. You could make a note of it there.

I plan on just returning anything I get that's too big and rebuying it at home. I did this for my wedding and it worked really well. Maybe also have someone spread the word to be sure to add gift receipts. 
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01-06-2013 at 9:11 PM
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tilsonc:
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I am doing the same thing as you! I live in SC, but my shower is being held back home in PA. When I posted the registry details on facebook - I left a little note to say all bulk items (i.e. furniture, high chair, carseats etc) should be shipped to the store for no cost, or shipped to the house. I reminded those that we live far away and there's no way we can travel with all of that stuff! On the invitations I did the same in so many words, but asked guests to bring little gifts only to the shower. That way, it is easier to travel back with!
You posted your registery details on FB and gave instructions??? Sorry, but thats a bit tacky.

Not a bit tacky... a lot tacky.

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01-07-2013 at 10:24 AM
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Here is where I am registered and here is where you can ship all the big/expensive items you are going to buy me. LOL!!!
 
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01-23-2013 at 2:27 PM
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tilsonc:
Here is where I am registered and here is where you can ship all the big/expensive items you are going to buy me. LOL!!!

 

You are a very judgmental person to say that it's "tacky". If your not in the situation - don't give your opinion. I was responding to a post that had nothing to do with you, thank you. If the writer of this post said it was tacky - so be it, she asked for opinions - but you didn't. 

 
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