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01-04-2013 at 11:40 PM
KristyVit
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Baby Shower when family is not living close by...

I know most showers I went to was mainly family but the only family I have living in the same city is my sister inlaw and a cousin. Did anyone else have a similar experience and about how many people did they invite? My work is having me a small shower and alot of my female friends work there... other than that I only have a small group of close friends who keep pushing at me to pick a date for a shower but I would feel weird if it was super small. Would it be strange to have a coed shower and have my hubby invite some of his friends too? Or maybe more of a casual evening last hoorah before the baby party which would not exactly be like a shower but still have the focus on having a party because the baby is coming soon? I am 32 weeks not and am running out of time to pick a date! lol.
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01-05-2013 at 2:25 AM
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I think small showers are great! You can spend more quality time with your close friends. I wanted a really small shower just to spend time with the people I love (it ended up becoming bigger, but still was great).

If it's really small, maybe you guys could throw it at a restaurant like a hibachi restaurant. It'd be fun and if you have you reserve your own table, you could open your gifts before the chef comes out.
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01-05-2013 at 7:11 AM
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Small showers are a lot of fun. Gives you more time to interact with people. If your group of friends want to give you a shower I'd let them and invite your cousin and SIL.

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01-05-2013 at 8:25 AM
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I agree- I think small showers are great.  However, there is nothing wrong w/ a co-ed shower - BUT you have to realize that increases the guest list, which increases the budget.  You have to talk to your hosts about how manhy people they were thinking of hosting and go from there.  If they say "15" but your co-ed list is 30 - well.... then no co-ed shower.
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01-05-2013 at 9:17 AM
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I love the co-ed friend showers - DH has a lot of friends whose wives wanted to be invited/they wanted to get us gifts, but I feel bad because the husbands/boyfriends are the links - I feel guilty inviting people I don't know well.

As for the out of towners? My MIL invited 25 people that live out of town or out of state. I now feel like that was really gift grabby and I know they probably won't be able to make it but she didn't want anyone to "feel excluded if a local family member brought it up" We pretty muchy sent invites to all the wives from our wedding invitation list (she didn't even know some of their first or last names)!

I wish I would have put my foot down & said no then send a birth announcement to all of these people instead. I'd rather have a smaller shower with people that I actually KNOW there...

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01-05-2013 at 11:56 AM
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If you have close friends who you do not work with and they want to host a shower for you go for it...even if there are only a few people there.  One of my showers only had 8 guests and it was very nice.  You just don't want to invite any of the same people to more than one shower.  If you hostess(es) are OK with a co-ed shower you could certainly have that (it would most likely double the numbers).  Also, if you want to just host your own get-together as a co-ed party but not call it a shower that is OK too.  Mid-January is a borning time of the year for the most part so a party sounds good to me!  lol

BTW...I invited about 80 people to my shower (60 came) but 2/3rds of those were friends.  Neither my DH or I have large families but we both have a lot of friends.
 
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01-05-2013 at 12:03 PM
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Out of the 3 showers I had, the smallest one was my favorite.  It was just 10 close friends, and my host had it at a restaurant.  It was so nice and relaxed - I got to talk to every guest for more than a minute.  I think a coed shower is a good idea too, if you're husband's friends would go for it.
 
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