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01-05-2013 at 11:24 PM
ChuggingWa...
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I am tipsy. enlighten me.

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Does your partner know your testing plans? Do you inform of BFNs? Or how does that go. Clue me in, peeps.


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01-05-2013 at 11:26 PM
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No. No.

Half the time when I tell him I have af he doesn't even connect we are out or the month. Dh is clueless but its better than having to see him as sad as I feel I think.

 
01-05-2013 at 11:32 PM
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When I do test.. i will definitely be letting him know! I would imagine telling him were KU without him even knowing I was taking a test would be an awkward conversation, at least in the beginning!



 

01-05-2013 at 11:34 PM
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I don't tell DH I'm testing, but I don't hide it. If he sees tests in the trash, I don't care.

I prefer not to tell him, because I want to share the news in a sweet way when I do get a BFP.

I usually tell him when I get crosshairs on FF and when AF arrives.

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11/12 Metformin + Femara CD 16-25 + TI = BFN
1/13 Metformin + Femara CD 6-9 + IUI#1 = BFN
2/13 Metfomin + Femara CD 7-10 + IUI#2= BFN
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01-05-2013 at 11:35 PM
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When I was testing (when I was cycling) I didn't tell him anything more than "I started my period today."

But once I have my doctor's appointment in March & we start trying (timing sex) I will keep him more in the loop.

01-05-2013 at 11:35 PM
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Nope, but I don't make a big deal about it and I've never really been upset by BFNs. I have a 10-day LP with spotting for a couple days before, so I'm either testing too early or getting my period before I can test. I just let him know I'm not pregnant when I get my period or start spotting heavily.




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01-05-2013 at 11:36 PM
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DH knows that if my period is a day or so later than expected, that I will probably test (which is why I am only allowed to start with dollar tree tests! lol), but otherwise, he doesn't know the details or when I actually test...and sometimes he will ask if I tested but I figure I don't need to talk about every bfn...

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01-05-2013 at 11:39 PM
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DH knows when I test (OPK and HPT).  I try to take HPTs before he goes to work in the morning, but last cycle I didn't want to test until after my period was late, so DH would call every day and ask if I broke down and tested because he was hopeful.

Usually the conversation after a BFN goes:

Me: "Still negative"

DH: "You're not out yet"

or

Me: "Cycle is over"

DH: "Maybe next month"



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01-05-2013 at 11:39 PM
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DH is highly involved in the process. he gets excited about it all, which makes me more excited. it helps to have his support when we get those BFNs, and it helps to have someone to help me keep my sanity in all the waiting. the only downside to it is that it will be hard for me to surprise him if we ever do get a positive since he knows when I test.


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01-05-2013 at 11:39 PM
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I only test when AF is late, so I haven't had to test a lot. He knows when I do and I told him, but I agree with PP about making it special when I get my BFP. My secret Pinterest board has several ideas how to break the news :) 
01-05-2013 at 11:40 PM
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danagail14:
When I do test.. i will definitely be letting him know! I would imagine telling him were KU without him even knowing I was taking a test would be an awkward conversation, at least in the beginning!


When I got my first BFP, I didn't tell DH when I was testing. He didn't even realize it was soon enough because it was 9DPO. I recorded him when I told him and the look on his face was priceless! He was very confused. He did have an awkward response, but it was sweet and very DH.

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7/12 SA #1 = 4.7 M/mL, 44% Motility - 9/12 SA #2 = 22.2M/mL, 45% Motiltiy
9/12 Metformin + Femara CD 5-10 + TI = BFP, Loss @ 5W6D
11/12 Metformin + Femara CD 16-25 + TI = BFN
1/13 Metformin + Femara CD 6-9 + IUI#1 = BFN
2/13 Metfomin + Femara CD 7-10 + IUI#2= BFN
3/13 Metformin + Femara CD 7-10 + IUI#3= ?

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01-05-2013 at 11:44 PM
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amberlocke:
danagail14:
When I do test.. i will definitely be letting him know! I would imagine telling him were KU without him even knowing I was taking a test would be an awkward conversation, at least in the beginning!


When I got my first BFP, I didn't tell DH when I was testing. He didn't even realize it was soon enough because it was 9DPO. I recorded him when I told him and the look on his face was priceless! He was very confused. He did have an awkward response, but it was sweet and very DH.


Never thought about trying to surprise him.. although many of you have! Looks like I have something else to waste time on Pinterest looking for! LOL thanks ladies!



 

01-05-2013 at 11:47 PM
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Nope, I don't see the point. I only tell him when AF shows up so he knows we are moving on to another cycle.

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01-05-2013 at 11:47 PM
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danagail14:
amberlocke:
danagail14:
When I do test.. i will definitely be letting him know! I would imagine telling him were KU without him even knowing I was taking a test would be an awkward conversation, at least in the beginning!
When I got my first BFP, I didn't tell DH when I was testing. He didn't even realize it was soon enough because it was 9DPO. I recorded him when I told him and the look on his face was priceless! He was very confused. He did have an awkward response, but it was sweet and very DH.
Never thought about trying to surprise him.. although many of you have! Looks like I have something else to waste time on Pinterest looking for! LOL thanks ladies!

 

lol Pinterest has helped me think of a way to tell DH and a different way to tell the rest of my family! Pinterest=my addiction! So many fun ideas!


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01-05-2013 at 11:48 PM
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ChuggingWater:
Not tippycanoe, ding bats. Tipsy as in intoxicated. Does your partner know your testing plans? Do you inform of BFNs? Or how does that go. Clue me in, peeps.

My DH wants me to test with him because he wants to be able to support me with my BFN or a final BFP. he told me that if I felt strong enough to want to do it by myself to surprise him he would understand, but he said he thinks a cute or surprise BFP would just be silly. He would rather just know.

01-06-2013 at 12:00 AM
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I tell him when I get my period and I told him when we had the BFP, but not when I test. 

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01-06-2013 at 12:00 AM
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amberlocke:
I don't tell DH I'm testing, but I don't hide it. If he sees tests in the trash, I don't care.

I prefer not to tell him, because I want to share the news in a sweet way when I do get a BFP.

I usually tell him when I get crosshairs on FF and when AF arrives.


This. I'm pretty open with DH about timing, charting, etc., since in my opinion TTC is a team sport. However, I try not to tell him exactly what day I'm testing since I have a gift for him when we get a BFP.

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01-06-2013 at 12:03 AM
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DH knows nothing other than we are TTC and when AF comes, he knows I'm not pregnant and on to next month.

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01-06-2013 at 12:08 AM
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I usually mention to DH when I test. It's mainly just in passing, like "I got a negative this morning". He can see the various OPKs and HPTs in the trash, so he will ask me what's up if I don't mention it.
01-06-2013 at 12:13 AM
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I tell him when I'm ovulating and when I got my period (sad face). I try not to tell him much more for two reasons: 1. He gets very sad when in regards to not having a baby/ everyone we know (or pretty darn close) and has recently asked for me to not tell him when another person we know is pregnant and 2. I want to be able to tell him in a cute way.

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01-06-2013 at 12:14 AM
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No. I keep him in the dark. But this month since i was 3 days late I did tell him I was late but got a bfn.
01-06-2013 at 12:29 AM
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nope. when its positive he will know. until then, I keep it to myself. 

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01-06-2013 at 12:34 AM
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Yes, DH and I decided we are in the whole process together. I only test when he is with me and it is kind of great because he can comfort me when I get my BFNs.

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01-06-2013 at 12:54 AM
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amberlocke:
I prefer not to tell him, because I want to share the news in a sweet way when I do get a BFP. I usually tell him when I get crosshairs on FF and when AF arrives.

This is how it usually goes for us as well. After O, he usually asks how my temps are looking, and I'll tell him, but I have an idea in my mind of surprising him with a BFP when the time comes.  


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01-06-2013 at 1:08 AM
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Nope, don't mention when I'm testing. It's hard enough seeing BFN after BFN I don't want him to have think about it as well. If he asks if I've tested I wouldn't lie but otherwise he'll know when its a BFP.

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01-06-2013 at 1:27 AM
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When I was testing the first few cycles I did it in secrecy, I don't know why. I would just tell him when my period arrived. Now that I'm just waiting for AF I just tell him whether or not its arrived- sadly its always there, right on time

 

 



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01-06-2013 at 2:30 AM
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My h knows the bfns...he's always supportive, he's always saying your not out until af shows up.

Although when I do get my bfp I'm hoping I'll be able to do something cuteand surprise him

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01-06-2013 at 5:58 AM
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DH knows about HPT testing, he really doesn't know about OPK testing, since I usually do it at work (whomever empties the bathroom trash at work probably knows more).  He knows when it is FW and that OPK is positive, though because we have to plan BD since we are almost never home at the same time early enough to do it without falling asleep while doing.

 

As far as HPT, I tell him when I am testing.  If I don't tell him, he asks. 

01-06-2013 at 6:28 AM
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He asks me when I will ovulate, so I tell him when it's go time and when I have a positive OPK.

I don't tell him when I test or the results. I just tell him that I got my period.
01-06-2013 at 6:56 AM
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The first HPT I took he knew about, it was our first month of trying. He was pretty disappointed so I haven't told him since when I test or about a BFN, I just wait till AF shows up and tell him I guess we have to wait another month.


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