Does your hubby understand what things are going to be like right after the baby comes out?
I get that he wants visitors but does he plan on letting your deliver the placenta first or maybe attempt breastfeeding without an audience? What if you need stitches? Make sure he understands that are some things that need to be dealt with before people start flooding the room to meet the baby.
Also, have you taken any child birth classes? I feel like they really drive this point home. Good luck!
These are great points. Just how quickly does he want you to entertain? I was obsessed with looking at my girls when they were born. If anyone other than DH had wanted a turn in those first few hours, they would have been really disappointed. If it does get overwhelming, the nurses can put a hold on visitors for you. In fact, mine noticed how frustrated I was getting once the visitors starting pouring in with my first that they stepped in and stopped the flow of people.
Thank you, this is the kind of helpful and SUPPORTIVE information I was hoping for, not some of the rude comments about my husband and me being bad parents for the next 18 years...shame on that person!
Basically, we have not taken any birthing classes because unfortunately the budget is very tight, and while we realize this is important information, buying blankets, diapers and a crib were decided to be more important than the class. I have no idea how involved the nurses will be in monitoring visitors as I imagine they will be quite busy and because until 2 days ago we thought we were having a C-section and would likely get alone time while I was in recovery as opposed to having people trying to be all up in our business right away. I'm just frustrated that I have expressed my concerns (being exhausted, BF, the possibility of complications, the need to bond with my first baby) and he's so excited to show his son off to the world that he forgets that I still have needs that need to be tended to in the time after he gets here.
His sister who is the one expressing her desire to be there right away had a kid and she's always the first to tell me how tired I'm going to be, how much pain I may be in, and how everyone is going to want to be right up in our faces and it can be overwhelming, but she doesn't seem to see that she is trying to do the same thing.