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01-06-2013 at 12:16 PM
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Treat others how you want to be treated..

I don't understand why there are so many rude comments and replies to posts?? Maybe there are alot of "stupid" questions out there, maybe people already know the answer to thier own questions, but maybe they just need a little reassurance and SUPPORT. Not everyone is happily married with a doting husband and a circle of amazing family and friends around them to turn too for help. There are alot of first time pregnant people who are just looking for answers...in the beginning it seems like an eternity between visits to your OB, and this is a great site to research and ask questions. So maybe some of us need to get those hormones into check and start helping each other instead of judging...or calling people names. And for the record, this has yet to happen to me, but I read some threads and just think to myself ..."This poor woman was just looking for help, calling her an idiot or stupid isnt the way to go"  I am 19 weeks, married, have a great family and circle of support and this is my first baby as well...yet I still come here to ask questions and read information...be kind to one another.

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01-06-2013 at 12:24 PM
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These posts always go over really well.

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01-06-2013 at 12:27 PM
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I agree!!!! You are completely correct. I am completely flabbergasted by some of the comments and reactions I see on here. 

 Beeeeeee KIND!!!

Kudos to you for calling out those who need a little reminder!! :-)

 
01-06-2013 at 12:32 PM
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Hense the first response to this post...if you don't have something productive to say then STFU.

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01-06-2013 at 12:34 PM
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There are a couple people on here from the TTC board that were super snotty then, and were rude on the 1st Trimester board as well. You have to just read past them and stay focused on the good responses...because alot of people do say positive helpful things as well.

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01-06-2013 at 12:45 PM
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dcandme:
Hense the first response to this post...if you don't have something productive to say then STFU.

Because telling people to "shut the fluck up" is definitely the mature and compassionate thing to do...........

Riiight. 


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01-06-2013 at 12:46 PM
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I'm glad that those of you with <100 posts are around to tell the rest of us how things should be on TB.  

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01-06-2013 at 12:47 PM
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dcandme:
Hense the first response to this post...if you don't have something productive to say then STFU.

bwahaha. You're so right. I'm going to completely change my ways and offer unconditional support to random people I don't know. 

The overwhelming people here are nothing but supportive. People get called out on stupidity and ridiculous side eye worthy situations. Sometimes people need a slap in the face. There are posts like this all the freaking time and it never changes anything. Get over it.  


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01-06-2013 at 12:50 PM
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LoL, posts like this always get the best, most charming responses.  Sure, it's a nice sentiment but being that this is a message board it's best just to ignore what you don't want to read and skip over answers you don't like.  Confused

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01-06-2013 at 12:55 PM
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01-06-2013 at 1:12 PM
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All the more reason...the old folk with a gazillion posts need to see how the youngsters show kindness and respect.  ;-)

 
01-06-2013 at 1:14 PM
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It really shouldn't matter whether you have 1000 posts, 10,000 posts, or 1 post. The truth is, being on the internet (and therefore unaccountable for your actions) should not be a license for rudeness or being unkind.

However, there are people who disagree, and that is their right.

My advice to the OP is to ignore those posts/posters who are rude and unsupportive. There are plenty of us who do believe this can be a supportive place.


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01-06-2013 at 1:15 PM
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After the 7 years that I have been on TheKnot/TheNest/TheBump it has always been this way. And it's a little naive to think something different will happen when you get thousands of hormonal women together who each have diff personalities and backgrounds. You learn to ignore the snark, or you give up on the sunshine and rainbows dream and GBCB. Either way, posts like these never go over well, and never change anything.

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01-06-2013 at 1:20 PM
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dcandme:
Hense the first response to this post...if you don't have something productive to say then STFU.

Wow I guess nice only last for the OP :)  I wonder what thread sparked this? Most people give nice helpful responses. Even on the very most stupid of thread someone post something helpful. Obvious MUD usually gets an answer. Ignore the rude post, or post else where. I haven't been here long but I have seen basically the same thing posted over and over, and it doesn't change anything. It is just easier to pick somewhere else to post if it bothers you.


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01-06-2013 at 1:33 PM
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Thanks, mom.


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01-06-2013 at 1:44 PM
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I agree with you. I've noticed a lot of poisonous replies to questions. BUT, It's the internet, and this is a gathering place for pregnant women. (Not known for their levelheadedness and compassion, as a rule) You have to decide if you want to confront the rudeness or just filter through it and focus on the helpful responses. Just be wary of battling trolls, lest you too become one. And if it is really bothering you and it's affecting you more than you would like, take note of positive posters and add them as friends. Soon, you'll have a handpicked circle of helpful ladies to instant message.
 
01-06-2013 at 1:51 PM
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bobbisbakinbuns:
I agree with you. I've noticed a lot of poisonous replies to questions. BUT, It's the internet, and this is a gathering place for pregnant women. (Not known for their levelheadedness and compassion, as a rule) You have to decide if you want to confront the rudeness or just filter through it and focus on the helpful responses. Just be wary of battling trolls, lest you too become one. And if it is really bothering you and it's affecting you more than you would like, take note of positive posters and add them as friends. Soon, you'll have a handpicked circle of helpful ladies to instant message.

Great response. 

 
01-06-2013 at 1:58 PM
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First world problems.

Also, thanks for the lecture. I know I will take it into consideration. You know that these boards have been snarky, are snarky and will be snarky. Before you got here and long after you leave.

You can rant and rave, but ultimately its up to you how you behave. You can't force others to do anything. Time to grow up and get yourself a pair of big girl panties.

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01-06-2013 at 2:30 PM
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I agree but this definitely wont go overvwell.

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01-06-2013 at 3:17 PM
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if you can't take the heat get out of the kitchen :)

What is really crazy is how people think strangers on the internet can solve all their problems :)


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01-06-2013 at 3:48 PM
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LOL.

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01-06-2013 at 4:34 PM
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It's amazing how people think it's okay to be rude.  People like that were probably bullies as kids, and never grew out of it.  I can't imagine how they are with their kids and families.  Scary!
 
01-06-2013 at 4:44 PM
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sunkissed7804:

All the more reason...the old folk with a gazillion posts need to see how the youngsters show kindness and respect.  ;-)



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01-06-2013 at 4:46 PM
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nola78:
I'm glad that those of you with lt;100 posts are around to tell the rest of us how things should be on TB. nbsp;


I'm glad that those of you with 100 posts have nothing better to do!
 
01-06-2013 at 4:50 PM
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Amanda&EricB:

It really shouldn't matter whether you have 1000 posts, 10,000 posts, or 1 post. The truth is, being on the internet (and therefore unaccountable for your actions) should not be a license for rudeness or being unkind.

Incorrect. Newsworthy stories have made it all the more obvious that people actually are being held accountable for their internet behavior. 


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01-06-2013 at 4:52 PM
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bhylleng:
nola78:
I'm glad that those of you with lt;100 posts are around to tell the rest of us how things should be on TB. nbsp;
I'm glad that those of you with 100 posts have nothing better to do!

 

See, nola? This is how newbs show support, respect, and consideration...they personally attack others. I think you should take a lesson from them and make your comments more personal, next time.


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01-06-2013 at 5:33 PM
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01-06-2013 at 5:54 PM
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Did I miss something? I haven't noticed any rude, poisonous replies lately. I think what some people consider "rude" might just be a differing opinion. I think some people ask for an opinion and then get mad when the response is one they didn't want to hear. 

Or maybe it's just because I have over 100 posts now that I've crossed over to the snark side.... ;) 


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01-06-2013 at 5:55 PM
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And this went down in history as the post that changed how people behaved on the Internet...

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bhylleng:
nola78:
I'm glad that those of you with lt;100 posts are around to tell the rest of us how things should be on TB. nbsp;
I'm glad that those of you with 100 posts have nothing better to do!

If this is you being nice and not snarky, you kind of suck at it.   


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