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01-07-2013 at 2:30 PM
mrsbmills0...
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First Prenatal Visit

I just made my first prenatal appointment for Jan. 28. The receptionist told me that at that appointment I will be brought back by myself. Is this customary? The father really wants to be available for questions and would like to attend as many appointments as possible, but I understand that protocols exist for a reason...
 
01-07-2013 at 2:34 PM
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Dh has gone to all of my appointments with DS and most of them with DD, especially any ultrasound visits. I would ask again because that doesn't sound right. 

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01-07-2013 at 2:38 PM
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DH came to my first visit, since they did a dating u/s. Is it a new OB/GYN for you? They might do a full history (sexual history, STIs, etc) and not want him back there for privacy reasons.

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01-07-2013 at 2:39 PM
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It might be a hippa policy for them, but I could have whomever I wanted back with me.
01-07-2013 at 2:44 PM
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To my understanding, most first visits are just pee, weight, blood work and nurse to ask you a bunch of questions. It is pretty normal to go back first to pee in the cup, then once they take you to your room you should be able to bring back whoever you want...id call back and ask. 

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01-07-2013 at 2:47 PM
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My DH came for my first appt with DD. This time I went by myself, since I knew what to expect.

He was able to stay for everything, but at one point they did ask him to step out so they could ask me questions regarding my safety,abuse,etc. I think it's just standard practice for them and I think I remember them doing it again when we got to the hospital to deliver DD.

It was nice to have him there for the US, but otherwise it was kind of boring and a little uncomfortable. Maybe it's just me, but I thought having him watch my breast exam and pelvic exam was a little awkward.


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01-07-2013 at 3:17 PM
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With DS#1, my DH came to all appointments and was never asked to step out of the room.  They did give me some questionnaires to fill out in the waiting room about my safety, abuse, etc., so if I needed to, I probably could have made a comment there.

It actually was helpful to have him there, because even though I was an established patient in the practice (routine GYN stuff), the doc had some questions for my husband about his family history to make sure we wouldn't need any special screening or genetic counseling.

I would call back and ask if DH will be able to join you later in the appointment- I think it's really nice for both parents to be able to hear the info, ask questions, etc. and he'd probably want to be there for the 1st ultrasound. 


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01-07-2013 at 4:14 PM
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Your first visit with your doctor is usually one of the more lengthy ones. It is a wonderful time to ask questions, and one of the few times that your doctor won't rush to the next patient.  Be very direct in asking that your husband be allowed in the room. If they still say that you are to be alone, ask the reasons and if it is only for personal (safety) questions, ask that he be allowed with you after you answer those questions.  My husband goes to every appointment that he can.  It's a great way for him to feel a part of the pregnancy.

 
01-07-2013 at 5:51 PM
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I was told my husband couldn't go with me. My appointments tomorrow and he took half a day off work anyways. He wants to be there even if its in the waiting room. He feels helpless and wants to show me his support. I love him more for that.
 
01-07-2013 at 6:18 PM
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monaclemere:
My DH came for my first appt with DD. This time I went by myself, since I knew what to expect.He was able to stay for everything, but at one point they did ask him to step out so they could ask me questions regarding my safety,abuse,etc. I think it's just standard practice for them


This has been my experience as well.

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01-07-2013 at 9:18 PM
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Thanks, everyone! I found a smaller, more intimate office where he can come to ALL my appointments!
 
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