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01-07-2013 at 4:11 PM
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Nursing WWYD?

I am absolutely done nursing Tiny (10.5 mo) he has no nursing manors at all and I never went through this with Buddy (I nursed him for 16 months) I'm really thinking of switching to formula for the last 5 weeks of his infancy, but at the same time I feel like we've made it this far I should just suck it up and finish out the year breastfeeding. 

Major problems we're having:

Biting (I actually have a huge scab on my right nipple because he bit me so hard he broke the skin)

Pinching my other breast while he nurses. This especially sucks when he does it to the side with the scab.

I don't know if he's actually getting enough BM anyway. His sleep has turned to sh!t so I just don't know. Maybe he's not getting enough anyway?

 

I have no issue giving him formula to finish out the year it would probably only be 1-2 cans of formula anyway. But I don't even know if it would work, he won't take bottles or I'd pump. Maybe I'll start pumping instead.

So WWYD?

Keep nursing even though its turning into a really bad experience ?

Formula?

Pump and give BM (I have a medella PISA)

I'm just so frustrated with his crappy sleep, crappy nursing, normally he's a really happy baby, but lately he's grumpy all the time.  


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01-07-2013 at 5:49 PM
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Ugh that does NOT sound fun! I think given the circumstances I would first try pumping, tho I know that at this point for me I hardly get anything with the pump. If that doesn't work, then give your boob a break and just move him over to formula... I can't imagine the scab problem :/ I'm sorry!

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01-07-2013 at 6:57 PM
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can you give him milk in a sippy cup?

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01-07-2013 at 7:33 PM
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This is hard.  If you're not opposed to giving him formula, and your nursing relationship is no longer enjoyable to you, it might be healthier for you to wean.  I'm a huge fan of breastfeeding, and I think it's usually best to nurse for a full year, but it sounds like you could start to resent your LO for the pain he's causing you and maybe you two would be better off being done with nursing.  If you get milk when you pump, I'd try that again before trying formula.

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01-07-2013 at 8:10 PM
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I'm dealing with pinching problems too. I'm not sure if I could endure biting in addition to the pinching! I'm really trying to make it to 12 months though. GL to you!
01-07-2013 at 9:22 PM
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LoriLee14:
can you give him milk in a sippy cup?

He's not a year yet. He's got another 6ish weeks before he can have milk.

 Its been really hard on top of sleep struggles.  I am definitely nervous that the pain I'm in will cause me to resent breastfeeding (not him obviously, its not really his fault) He has 6 razor sharp teeth and he's not afraid to use them. 

DH is upstairs giving him a bottle of formula. Or at least trying to. All the BM in our freezer is crazy old (like from 2-3 months) I really just need to dump it. I've never been able to pump well.

I think we're going to nurse during the day and do formula before bed and hope it also helps him sleep better too.

I just miss my sweet mild tempered baby.  


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01-07-2013 at 9:24 PM
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I honestly don't know what I would do in your situation. I think I'd try to keep nursing. I'd use one hand while nursing to prevent as much of the pinching as possible. When LO bites, I'd end the nursing session for a few minutes (making sure to put LO down). 

Scabs are no fun. (When J. was a baby, I had the worst cracked nipple my midwife has ever seen. It was so bad it didn't heal correctly.) 

If he is still producing wet and dirty diapers he is most likely getting enough. Could the sleep problems be related to teething? (That's one of the first ways we notice A. is going to be getting a new tooth.)

If it was still bad after trying those things, I'd probably try pumping before giving formula.

That being said, do what works for you and your LO. GL!

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01-07-2013 at 9:33 PM
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MrsPteranodon:

LoriLee14:
can you give him milk in a sippy cup?

He's not a year yet. He's got another 6ish weeks before he can have milk.

 Its been really hard on top of sleep struggles.  I am definitely nervous that the pain I'm in will cause me to resent breastfeeding (not him obviously, its not really his fault) He has 6 razor sharp teeth and he's not afraid to use them. 

DH is upstairs giving him a bottle of formula. Or at least trying to. All the BM in our freezer is crazy old (like from 2-3 months) I really just need to dump it. I've never been able to pump well.

I think we're going to nurse during the day and do formula before bed and hope it also helps him sleep better too.

I just miss my sweet mild tempered baby.  

I meant if you could put breastmilk/formula in a sippy since you said he doesn't like the bottles and it isn't worth it to find the "right" bottle now. My pedi told me to practice water in his sippy cup to get him used to drinking out of something that wasn't a bottle. She said she wanted him done with bottles by year one


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01-07-2013 at 9:52 PM
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LoriLee14:
MrsPteranodon:

LoriLee14:
can you give him milk in a sippy cup?

He's not a year yet. He's got another 6ish weeks before he can have milk.

 Its been really hard on top of sleep struggles.  I am definitely nervous that the pain I'm in will cause me to resent breastfeeding (not him obviously, its not really his fault) He has 6 razor sharp teeth and he's not afraid to use them. 

DH is upstairs giving him a bottle of formula. Or at least trying to. All the BM in our freezer is crazy old (like from 2-3 months) I really just need to dump it. I've never been able to pump well.

I think we're going to nurse during the day and do formula before bed and hope it also helps him sleep better too.

I just miss my sweet mild tempered baby.  

I meant if you could put breastmilk/formula in a sippy since you said he doesn't like the bottles and it isn't worth it to find the "right" bottle now. My pedi told me to practice water in his sippy cup to get him used to drinking out of something that wasn't a bottle. She said she wanted him done with bottles by year one

If we were going to do this during the day too then yeah I would do a sippy. But I think at night babies need breast or bottle. I always think of sippy's for during the day. We have several different bottles I bought the right flow for him and DH said he drank about 3 oz so we'll see.  

I haven't seen any new teeth coming in but its been a month of this. I think a tooth would have come in by now.  Hopefully this will work. We're going to go back to ferber too, we've gotten way to lax about picking him up when he should be sleeping


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01-07-2013 at 10:16 PM
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It might just be a phase. You could try pumping/bottle feeding at the times he is more prone to biting (if you notice a pattern), and just breast feed when he is more calm like in the morning or before bed. You could also partially wean- replace one feeding with formula. 

Biting sucks. DS was doing that for a couple of weeks (I think around 10 months) and I just pumped and bottle fed him at night (I pump while at work anyway so it wasn't a big deal).

 


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01-07-2013 at 11:39 PM
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Here's what kellymom says about teaching "breastfeeding manners"

http://kellymom.com/ages/olderinfant/nursingmanners2/

[There should be a hyphen after "older," "nursing," and "manners." I'm on my phone, so it took the hyphens out of the link].

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01-08-2013 at 12:06 AM
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shotzie:
Here's what kellymom says about teaching "breastfeeding manners" http://kellymom.com/ages/olderinfant/nursingmanners2/ [There should be a hyphen after "older," "nursing," and "manners." I'm on my phone, so it took the hyphens out of the link].

This is very helpful. Thank you.  


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01-08-2013 at 6:10 AM
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MrsPteranodon:

LoriLee14:
can you give him milk in a sippy cup?

He's not a year yet. He's got another 6ish weeks before he can have milk.

 Its been really hard on top of sleep struggles.  I am definitely nervous that the pain I'm in will cause me to resent breastfeeding (not him obviously, its not really his fault) He has 6 razor sharp teeth and he's not afraid to use them. 

DH is upstairs giving him a bottle of formula. Or at least trying to. All the BM in our freezer is crazy old (like from 2-3 months) I really just need to dump it. I've never been able to pump well.

I think we're going to nurse during the day and do formula before bed and hope it also helps him sleep better too.

I just miss my sweet mild tempered baby.  

BM is good in the freezer for 4-6 months, so your milk is still good!

What I personally would do in this situation is stick it out since the end is in sight. But that's me. My DS is only nursing 2x per day now, and gets formula or BM bottles for his other feedings (I didn't want to pump at work anymore). You're so close, but if you want to stop of course you can and should!


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01-08-2013 at 1:40 PM
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I gave up with DD1 after my nipples bled into the breastmilk, but I kept at with DD2 for 8 weeks, when I pretty much dried up. I would probably stop BF and use the frozen BM until it runs out, FF if there is a gap before he turns one, and then use milk. DD1 still drinks milk at night from a sippy cup right before bed while we read her a story, so they don't have to be restricted to daytime only. She drinks from an regular cup when sitting at a table, so she knows how. He will have to learn to take from a sippy cup soon anyway, so might as well try. I can tell you are torn because you really want to make it to a year, but I think you are putting undue pressure on yourself. Do you really think his internal organs and brain, etc., know the exact second he turns one? Yeah, he is only 11 months or so now, but you have stored BM that should take you through for a while, and both my girls are meeting all their milestones, and exceeding a fair amount and they are FF'd. Breast may be best, but plenty of children do really well with formula, and that's from day one, not month eleven. Don't be so hard on yourself. You made it this far, and that's pretty darn good. Any man that bit my nipples would be banned from them for life.

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01-10-2013 at 1:03 PM
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I'm in Canada, and the recommendations here are a little different, but we are told we can wean between 9-12 months. I weaned DD at 9 1/2 months straight to cow's milk for the same reasons as you listed above. I don't know how much solids your LO eats, but DD eats plenty, and I weaned her because she was even losing interested in breastfeeding as well, and I thought it was just time. My doctor told me it was fine to go to whole cow's milk since DD was eating enough table foods, and everything has been fine. She sleeps a lot longer, and is definitely a lot less grumpy!

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01-11-2013 at 3:12 PM
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I am having similiar problems. For the pinching, if she starts it, I just cover it with my other hand. Also, sometimes I try to give her a toy or something to hold in her hand.

 The only other thing I can add is I have started giving my DD yogurt everynight before bed (and other times when I am desperate). I do the danimals smoothie and I just stick a straw in it and she loves it.

 
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