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01-07-2013 at 4:34 PM
lindsayl88
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First Pregnancy Miscarriage Worries

I recently found out I am pregnant (about 5 weeks along -- maybe 6-7) and my first pre-natal appointment is on 1/25/13. My mother had 3 miscarriages when trying to get pregnant and now I am paranoid about having a miscarriage before or shortly after my appointment.

I am probably being irrational but it's very scary to think about (we have been trying to get pregnant for almost 9 months) and I can't help but think it will happen to me (even though I know that no two pregnancies are alike). Any tips to get this off my mind?
 
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01-07-2013 at 4:37 PM
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I'm having he same fears. They come and go. I just try to keep myself as busy as possible and staying off the Internet!!! My fingers seem to have a mind of heir own on google! Good luck and congrats! 
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01-07-2013 at 4:40 PM
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lindsayl88:

I recently found out I am pregnant (about 5 weeks along -- maybe 6-7) and my first pre-natal appointment is on 1/25/13. My mother had 3 miscarriages when trying to get pregnant and now I am paranoid about having a miscarriage before or shortly after my appointment.

I am probably being irrational but it's very scary to think about (we have been trying to get pregnant for almost 9 months) and I can't help but think it will happen to me (even though I know that no two pregnancies are alike). Any tips to get this off my mind?

Don't borrow trouble. If it were to happen to you, it will forever change your outlook.  So, don't do it to yourself prematurely. Just keep reminding yourself that today you are pregnant and everything else is out of your control anyway. Your worry won't prevent it if it's going to happen anyway. So, pour your energy into loving that little baby starting right now and try to push away the negative thoughts. 
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01-07-2013 at 4:40 PM
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I don't have any tips to get this off your mind...because I'm preggo 3 years after having a miscarriage and I think about it everyday.  I guess you just have to realize that yes, it could happen, but worrying about it won't help anything.  You need to be as stress free as possible now anyway.  Enjoy each day and keep picturing your baby growing stronger each day.  :)
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01-07-2013 at 4:42 PM
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I don't know if I have anything to say to make you feel better, but here is my experience. I had these fears early on, but they seem to have abated (I've found other things to obsess about). What I kept reminding myself was, even if something happens, at least now I know I can get pregnant, and if something does happen, I will be able to try again.

It also helped me to remind myself that nothing I could do would cause a miscarriage, and if I did have one, it was because there was something wrong and it wasn't meant to be, and I would be able to try again.

A woman on one of my other boards (preg with her 4th) would tell us to tell ourselves, "No matter what happens, I am pregnant today." 


 
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01-07-2013 at 4:42 PM
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Momof2hopingfor3:
lindsayl88:

I recently found out I am pregnant (about 5 weeks along -- maybe 6-7) and my first pre-natal appointment is on 1/25/13. My mother had 3 miscarriages when trying to get pregnant and now I am paranoid about having a miscarriage before or shortly after my appointment.

I am probably being irrational but it's very scary to think about (we have been trying to get pregnant for almost 9 months) and I can't help but think it will happen to me (even though I know that no two pregnancies are alike). Any tips to get this off my mind?

Don't borrow trouble. If it were to happen to you, it will forever change your outlook.  So, don't do it to yourself prematurely. Just keep reminding yourself that today you are pregnant and everything else is out of your control anyway. Your worry won't prevent it if it's going to happen anyway. So, pour your energy into loving that little baby starting right now and try to push away the negative thoughts. 

 

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01-07-2013 at 4:43 PM
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I was the Same way especially since DH told everyone right away he was too excited. Honestly I banned myself from the bump and all other pregnancy related websites until after my dating ultrasound at 8 weeks when we saw the heartbeat. I kept reading about all the miscarriage posts and would freak out and think it was happening to me with every little ache and when I did have spotting which in most cases is normal. I still get nervous before before every appt but not like it was int he beginning. I did buy the Mayo Clinic book to read up on each week and they have a great chart for symptoms and when to call your doctor.
 
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01-07-2013 at 5:03 PM
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I have no advise, but have been struggling with the same feelings. I am 9 weeks, have my first OB appt on 1/18/13. My husband and I have been trying for the past 2yrs and now that it is here! I'm so afraid to be fully excited. What is something is wrong, what if this is a chemical pregnancy only. It does not help that I work for time as a full PA in an ER, the majority of pregnant woman I see are miscarrying. SIGH!

I feel your worries! Here it to positive thinking and happy healthy pregnancy!

 

 

 
 
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01-07-2013 at 5:51 PM
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msspeedymarie:
at least now I know I can get pregnant

I hate when people say that. I had a woman who also suffered from infertility tell me after my mc "I wish I was able to say that I had a mc so at least I was able to get pregnant". I thought that was completely uncalled for and insane.
 
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01-07-2013 at 6:39 PM
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bdawn8403:
msspeedymarie:
at least now I know I can get pregnant
I hate when people say that. I had a woman who also suffered from infertility tell me after my mc "I wish I was able to say that I had a mc so at least I was able to get pregnant". I thought that was completely uncalled for and insane.

I would never say it to someone who had a loss, that is rude and insane.

But in my first few weeks, knowing that early miscarriages are more common than people who aren't trying know, it helped calm me down some, as I am 34 and this is my first pregnancy, and I had no way of knowing before this if I could even get pregnant, as I'd been on birth control ever since I began having sex.


 
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