It was not my intention to be crude and rude, I was responding kind to what I felt like was an attack on me for what I felt was a sincere attempt to help. I know for a fact that I wasn't making enough because I pumped no more than an ounce total from both boobs. So, when my daughter lost a lb at birth and failed to gain it back three weeks later, I knew that it wasn't a growth spurt. At eight weeks, I stopped because there was no point. She was using me as a pacifier to fall asleep and I was already giving her most of her calories in the form of formula. I don't knock anyone's decisions, but if you want to be snotty with me, you will get snotty from me. Not everyone speaks to others the way that they want to be spoken to, and then get in a snit when they get a response they didn't expect, myself included. But I will defend myself, my opinions, and my decisions as I see fit. I happen to think that BF is beautiful, but that some poster's response was not, and so she got what she served.
Sigh. I was not going to respond, but here goes:
"So, I would say if your LOs are nursing so much that they aren't STTN at a year, you really aren't doing them any good by giving them the boob throughout the night. I'm not going into an argument over BF over FF, because that isn't even the issue here."
You brought up BF v FF. By virtue of mentioning it wasn't an argument about BFing v FF you made it into one. Also you do realize that your initial response was also "snooty" by telling a mom that they're not doing a baby any good by giving them the boob throughout the night. This is a crude characterization of breastfeeding.
"I would try to pump and bottle feed that BM to make sure they are really wanting to eat or just waking because they can. "
I said this was bad advice because it's not very realistic to pump in the middle of the night, instead of BFing, IMO.
Finally, no one attacked you, you got incredibly defensive and went on a huge rant yourself. And no, I generally do not take breastfeeding advice regarding my almost one year old from someone who breastfed an 8 week old. The feedings are quite different between an 8 wk old and 1 yr old as are their sleeping habits and needs at night. It is merely a factual matter and has nothing to do with your ability to BF. In fact if my past self (breastfeeding an 8 wk old) tried to give my current self (breastfeeding a 1 yr old) advice I would have been way off base.
And getting what you deserve? on the internet? really? You do realize that I take no offense to anything said to me online, much less on thebump.com. Nobody got what they "deserved" this is an online message board, nothing more.