The thing about asking... Someone asked if they could have my baby clothes but the thing is that some of the hand me downs I received, I was specifically requested that I passed them on to a mutual friend. The other items I'm not ready to give up yet. So it sort of mamde it awkward for me that she reached out to me specifically.
I think if you post of FB, you'll get mixed reactions. And it may not go well.
I would make sure everyone knows that youj are expecting. :) Just mention in causal conversation. I had a few friends eagerly dump stuff on me (including 3 strollers!). Now my situation was different because we had DD a bit later in life so many of our friend have children.
In your situation I would definitely consider the free items-wanted section of craigslist. Just write a heartfelt post so people connect with your situation and want to help. If you sound desparate or lazy they won't want to help you, make sense?
But your comment that it is too much hassel...how badly do you want these things? If it IS too much of a hassle to scrounge around then you'll be fine with fewer items. Most of the stuff are nice to have fluff anyway.